Jeptha
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Joined: 9/18/2008 From: Portland, Oregon Status: offline
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I think it's a fair question (or, a fair topic for discussion, if you will.) The question that I re-formulate from the discussion, in my brain, is; "Would you be poly if you could?" And then I go further and ask myself "Under what circumstances?", because "poly" is a pretty wide-opened term. {First, just a quick aside; Poly doesn't necessarily mean that you are not in committed relationships. I've seen it alluded to that poly equates with "casual" in this thread, so I just wanted to mention that. I've been in a poly relationship for over a year (I am seeing a woman who is married, with her husband's knowledge and consent), and it is not a "casual" thing, nor is it only about sex.} Some people seem comfortable with monogamy, some seem comfortable with polygamy, and some seem to fall somewhere in the middle. Perhaps some of those people that fall inbetween are what's sometimes called "serial monogamists". I think they sometimes end up being "serial monogamists" because our society doesn't provide any other models as examples or choices for them to follow, and neither are they given any tools or encouragement with which to experiment and try to create whatever kind of relationship model suits them best. I think that grey area is one that is least explored or thought about. Currently it seems to be Either/Or. ~Or is that simply wanting to "have your cake and eat it , too?"
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