quote:

ORIGINAL: scarlethiney

After reading  a lot of the posts on the forums and thinking about the comments of each and how they relate to me or my life experiences recently I am questioning who I am in this lifestyle.

I grew up submissve, I have always felt that a submissive role "fit".  I have a very strong personality in my vanilla life and find that more and more I am in a dominant role not only at work but at home. 
Perhaps it is the amount of responsibility that I have at work and at home that makes me take on a more dominant role. I actually enjoy being in control and making those decisions.
Does that make me a submissive with a strong a personality which I see there are many of on here and which I greatly admire.
Is it situational and a result of my circumstances and neccessity?? Is my love of being submissive an expectation I grew up with and just inherent in my personality? I realize that these are things I need to discover on my own but I would appreciate other opinions.

My question is:  How many of you realized years into your choice in this lifestyle that perhaps you leaned more  toward another direction than your current choice?  How many submissives realized they had more dominant tendencies and actually "switched" to Domme/Domiant (I'm not even sure if that is the politcally correct term and I don't want to offend with my limited knowledge) .  Or what led you to define yourself in this lifestyle and did you ever think perhaps you needed to redefine yourself?


scarlet

scarlet,

I ordinarely do not respond to those wh do not provide their profile;however since yours is  a subject on a viable set of facts, I will do so.

Switching roles either on a termp basis or permantly is becoming more commonplace on the path. I make no comment on the whys as my posting time is always limited and that would turn into a tome. Point is if your more comfortable in the Dominant role then go for it, but be very careful attmpting to be a switch.

CP

(in reply to scarlethiney)