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StrangerThan -> RE: collar of protection (9/30/2008 8:23:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
I think a collar of protection is what a dom offers you when he's trying to get into your panties.
I think you're dead on probably 99 percent of the time.
The problem with a collar of protection is that you're going to have to explain it to most people and those you'd probably need protection from aren't going to care a whole lot. Depending on who's offering, the reason they're offering it and their integrity, you can just as easily be roping yourself into a corner with someone you don't want to be in a corner with.
I view the ideal of them as something of a mentoring thing. The reality of them is a good part of the time, Aileen1968 is dead on right. Another reality to them is the fact that the very idea of them has you linked to someone, which is going to put a lot of folks off. Translate that to mean good as well as bad. After all, you've made it this far in life and now you suddenly need someone to review your email, IM, act as a mediator between you and someone else, whatever, to determine if Alfred is a "true" Dom or if Johnny passes Sir's tests? I used to mentor. No I didn't teach women "how" to be submissive (never quite figured out how Dominant was what one was, but submissive one had to be trained to be. Nor could I figure out how I was going to train anyone to be submissive to someone else.) I only dealt with those who had real life problems and I don't consider looking for a Dom to be a real life problem, I consider it looking. In any case, I was informed a time or two that I'd been used as that protector just to get some cling-on or dick-head to go away.
I didn't mind.
Here's a bottom line for you though. Take care in accepting any kind of collar. I'm not sure who you need protection from to the degree that you might make it official that Dom A or Dom B will be screening applicants, but in doing so you will, by default, be latching on to their view and giving them some control in your life. Shrug. Some folks see collars - any collar as a simple attachment. I don't. I view them as a committment. If Dom A or Dom B insists that you accept such a collar in order to be there for you if you did in fact need their opinion or their help, then in reality, either their ego needs stroked or they're probably more interested in the control they have over you than you in the first place.
A lot depends on the situation and you gave none of it. If it's someone you know well, trust, then it could be a good thing, If it's some Voice of Oz over the internet thing, well.. remember who Oz really was?
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