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couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 4:25:42 PM

sub4mistressnsir

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first of all.. if you were a newbie, what kinds of things would you like to know right off the bat?
second... what are the top 10 things you get into trouble for?

Remember thes are supposed to be fun questions.. hehe!

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 5:30:43 PM

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Hrm. To know right off the bat?

That internet capping conventions are by no means standard accross "the community" and are largely criticized by most.

THings I get in trouble for?
Well, I'm finding it -very-very-very- hard to call my partner "Master" while we play. This is a new preference for him, and it's very hard for me to stop worrying he's gonna start laughing at me.

That's really the big one right now.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 6:36:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: sub4mistressnsir

first of all.. if you were a newbie, what kinds of things would you like to know right off the bat?
second... what are the top 10 things you get into trouble for?

Remember thes are supposed to be fun questions.. hehe!

Finally, a question I'm really qualified to answer... I am a newbie!

What I want to know: What fireplay feels like, not just looks like (enuf demos, already); what needleplay is like; still don't know how a flogger would feel against my back or the crack of a cane on my a**--just for starters. Oh yeh, what i'd really like to know...really to understand, the innerworkings of the dominant mind...Doms always ask us subs to tell them why we feel we are submissive and what it means to us and the like and seem to expect well thoughtout responses. I have yet to ask a dom the same question and get as in-depth an answer as i think i give abt my submissiveness. So that's it for me, for now on this.

Things i get in trouble for? Hey, i'm still too new to be gettin' in trouble...and i don't think i'd tell you, anyway....

thanx for asking!

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 8:59:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4mistressnsir

first of all.. if you were a newbie, what kinds of things would you like to know right off the bat?
second... what are the top 10 things you get into trouble for?

Remember thes are supposed to be fun questions.. hehe!

When I was a newbie...I ALWAYS asked the "Dom".... 1. why do you think you know it all?
2. Why can't a Dom give answers to my questions about them?
3. Why do you ask about sex and BDSM play continually and not ask about me?

What 10 things do I get in trouble for?

If I told anyone then I would really be in trouble.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 10:22:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

THings I get in trouble for?
Well, I'm finding it -very-very-very- hard to call my partner "Master" while we play. That's really the big one right now.

You are not the only one with that problem... I have the same thing going on with me... <smiles>

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 10:27:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: ginawithaB
Finally, a question I'm really qualified to answer... I am a newbie!

What I want to know: What fireplay feels like, not just looks like (enuf demos, already); what needleplay is like; still don't know how a flogger would feel against my back or the crack of a cane on my a**--just for starters. Oh yeh, what i'd really like to know...really to understand, the innerworkings of the dominant mind...Doms always ask us subs to tell them why we feel we are submissive and what it means to us and the like and seem to expect well thoughtout responses. I have yet to ask a dom the same question and get as in-depth an answer as i think i give abt my submissiveness. So that's it for me, for now on this.

Things i get in trouble for? Hey, i'm still too new to be gettin' in trouble...and i don't think i'd tell you, anyway....

Totally understand.. Wish sometimes they would explain what makes them a Dom.. the how's and the why's....

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/3/2005 10:30:32 PM

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Here are some of mine.. compiled by request from Sir....

How to get into trouble 101 w/ Mistress n Sir...
1. Laugh when they flog you.
2. Nip them on the shoulder an run n hide.
3. Be a brat and in a good mood all at once.
4. Looking into thier eyes when forbidden to.
5. Ignore or not do right, something that they have told you exactly how to do.
6. When not bound.. Moving w/o permission.
7. Not saying brb if online and chatting with them.
8. Hidin your toys.
9. Not getting the hood done.
and last but not least...
10. Dissapointing either of them through actions or words

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/4/2005 1:47:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavedesires

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ORIGINAL: sub4mistressnsir

first of all.. if you were a newbie, what kinds of things would you like to know right off the bat?
second... what are the top 10 things you get into trouble for?

Remember thes are supposed to be fun questions.. hehe!

When I was a newbie...I ALWAYS asked the "Dom".... 1. why do you think you know it all?
2. Why can't a Dom give answers to my questions about them?
3. Why do you ask about sex and BDSM play continually and not ask about me?

What 10 things do I get in trouble for? If I told anyone then I would really be in trouble.

1. Why do you think you know it all?
A: I dont think anyone has ever asked Me this question. lol Probably because I simply do not act like I do <s>

2. Why can't dom's give answers to themselves that you ask?
A: I am not a Dom, but a Domme. I have answered truthfully every question a submissive has asked Me about Myself. Sometimes it wasnt the answer that they were hoping for.

3. Why do you ask about sex and BDSM play continually and not ask about me?
A: Because this isnt the beginning of a vanilla relationship. If I had met My sub at a bar, church, or anywhere other than this site, yes I would be interested in his vanilla interests (which I am interested in btw), but because I am baseing this relationship around both our interests in bdsm, why wouldnt I ask questions to that regard?
There will be plenty of time to talk about our outside interests later after we have established that we are somewhat a match for a D/s relationship. Funny, one of My first questions that I have for a po-sub is what outside activities do they enjoy?

The biggest thing james could get into trouble over right now, is if he is dishonest with Me about how he is feeling or if he has lack of feeling. Not saying the truth about something is just as bad as lying about it.

Nice topic <s>

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/4/2005 2:02:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: sub4mistressnsir

How to get into trouble 101 w/ Mistress n Sir...
1. Laugh when they flog you.

I just have to ask, why would that get you in trouble? There are times when my Lord is flogging the hell out of me and all I can do is laugh. The harder he hits, the more I laugh. I have laughed so hard at times that tears are running down my face. It is just one reaction to pain for me. In fact, many things that cause intense pain will have me laughing. My Lord enjoys this reaction from me.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/5/2005 10:34:29 AM

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I am not a Dom, but a Domme

I didn't know there was a difference, I thought it was just different spelling. So how do the two differ?
Lenina

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/5/2005 10:42:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lenina

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I am not a Dom, but a Domme

I didn't know there was a difference, I thought it was just different spelling. So how do the two differ?
Lenina

One is short for "dominant" and the other is an internet created word that a lot of people find amusing, especially when pronounced "dom-may" or "dom-me."

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/5/2005 3:50:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lenina

quote:

I am not a Dom, but a Domme

I didn't know there was a difference, I thought it was just different spelling. So how do the two differ?
Lenina

Usually used to differentiate between male and female dominants...Dom/Domme.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 7:07:45 AM

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kyraofMists,
It is more the fact that it is not hard enough, it tickles...
Add to that... that Sir does NOT like being laughed at.. welllll.....

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I just have to ask, why would that get you in trouble? There are times when my Lord is flogging the hell out of me and all I can do is laugh.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 8:04:09 AM

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Its quite odd that I found BDSM entertaining but its fun when I make someone submit

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 8:35:50 AM

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Well when i first discovered this lifestyle about 7 monthes ago i wouldn't have known what to ask because i was such a newbie. Now what i did do was jump all over the net looking for all the info i could on the subject. Once i started learning more about the types of play that there was , i then wanted to play more. i wanted to try everything. i'd probably ask if i could be stuck in one of those latex vacuum sealed bags..LOL!!

i think my biggest question (looking back) would be: .......

As a sub (leaning slave), i study and meditate daily on all of the things that you expect of me. i strive to be the best that i can be. As a sub/slave i am your most prized possesion. You look after my well being. Why is it that when i am sad/depressed it is almost 95% of the time mistaken for pouting?

Things i get into trouble for? OH MY... LOL!! Well, i can be quite sassy sometimes. i think subconciously i do it because i get a spanking with the crop or paddle..LMAO As far as really getting into trouble? well i'd say it's because i have rebelled a few times. It was mainly due to communication issues but regardless i still got into trouble for mouthing off.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 9:19:11 AM

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Things i get into trouble for? OH MY... LOL!! Well, i can be quite sassy sometimes. i think subconciously i do it because i get a spanking with the crop or paddle..

LOL...hmm, I remember doing that...though I always hoped for the cane

/sigh

More often than not though, he saw right through it

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 1:38:27 PM

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Newbie I am. Some of my initial inquiries:

education of the Old Guard
positions and protocol
collaring=marriage
expectations of the Master
balancing happy, healthy bdsm & parenting/ vanilla lifestyle

FUN QUESTIONS:

"You really expect me to wear a skirt and heels and sans panties during the winters here?"

Dom asks me if I am Bi- "No, are you?" How many times I have offended ?.. as if it cannot occur...duh...and I'm the newbie...

"Can I call you, or must I wait for you to call me? "

"When am I no longer a newbie?" ....just what is the answer?

I have yet to get into real trouble, but I have been told points are being tallied for my silly, unabrasive, brattiness.
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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 2:22:15 PM

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One is short for "dominant" and the other is an internet created word that a lot of people find amusing, especially when pronounced "dom-may" or "dom-me."

Domme is not a word. The real word should be domina. So you have dominants who are usually men. Domina's who are female.
It amazes me when someone claims to be a domme...and doesn't even know it doesn't exist. What great experience they possess.

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 3:10:03 PM

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It amazes me when someone claims to be a domme...and doesn't even know it doesn't exist. What great experience they possess.

LMAO

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RE: couple of questions... - 12/6/2005 3:56:25 PM

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sub4hire?

ok
so i ain't so bright.
but "i" use domme for female and dom for male.
if i am an idiot..so be it.
but it works for ME.

take care any who way, huh?

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