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RE: Master with g/f, jealous? - 10/2/2008 9:59:55 PM

dreamerdreaming

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Details please:

Did you specifically define the terms, conditions, and limits of your relationship so that you now know exactly what to expect from one another? What are the rules you both will abide by?

Is he going to continue to see (meaning have sex with, etc.) others while you are presumably expected not to?

How can you trust him???
What specifically has changed, to allow you to trust him? Moving forward, will you continue to allow him to hide you away from everyone else in his life? This would be a MAJOR red flag, if it were me. Seems to me, unless he is open about your relationship with his family and friends, he is wasting your time. At a minimum, he is not proud to be with you, and there is a good possibility he is married or cheating on his significant other, with you. I reiterate my earlier opinion: I don't think he has your best interests at heart, I think he's self-centered and immature, and I think you'll be much better off dumping him NOW than later. How much more of your precious youth are you willing to waste on this guy? A whole year?
Okay, I'll get off my soapbox. OP, details please. What changed, since you talked? Specifics, please.

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RE: Master with g/f, jealous? - 10/3/2008 5:02:39 AM

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It seems to me that the guy is using bad judgment, but that might be to lack of experience. My *guess* (and it's only a guess) is that he isn't really comfortable with this lifestyle yet. He might not know how to handle himself properly.

You think it's bad judgment for him to lie to his girlfriend about having a sex slave on the side? I think it's cheating.

He is hurting two women here, not just the op.

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RE: Master with g/f, jealous? - 10/3/2008 1:53:05 PM

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Even if one is not comfortable in their own skin as far as their kinky lifestyle or involvement, honesty shouldn't get lost in the mix. Hiding your kink is one thing... hiding a person and a relationship from another woman clearly who feels she has the right to be upset if she see's you chatting with another woman... big difference. That isn't discomfort in lifestyle, it is discomfort in getting caught doing something upsetting to the in person lady and hiding the other and a matter of charactor or a statement on who is most important.

If the op allows this, she allows playing second to his in person relationships. The year commitment to see how it goes... well that just buys him more time to play with little accountablity and an out a year from now. He can claim to be as serious as it takes to keep his game on... but let's see how serious it is a year from now. Unless he is open with both women about having some sort of relationship with another... then he is hiding more than his kink and falls into the line of a player. He will play as long as he is allowed to play.

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