|
TwoNYCDommes -> RE: Signalling you're a sub to a possible Domme (10/16/2008 2:38:37 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I understand that in the gay scene there are - or were - all sorts of accepted signals one can give that will indicate to a potential partner that you yourself are gay. (In fact, I'm told that the time when such signals were needed has quite possible passed - that scene being so much more open now.) Are there similar, accepted "codes" in the Ds scene?
Well, there are the colored hanky codes, but I don't think that's what you mean, nor are they widely used in the more hetero scene.
quote:
ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
If there aren't any such widely recognised codes (as I suspect), what discreet signal could a sub give to a possible Domme? I've tried little things before - like very quietly, so that only she can hear, addressing her as "Ma'am" just once - or even giving her a quick, slight bow. Each time I've carried on as normal thereafter and the signal's not been noticed for what it is (or so I've assumed).
What would convey it for a Domme in a vanilla setting? What would make her instantly think to herself, "Ah - I think that man's a sub!"
I agree with Akasha--light, casual comments that can easily be taken as jokes might spark someone in the know to wonder about you.
While I hate being addressed as "ma'am," your mention of that strategy reminded me of a couple of boys I met in vanilla social settings who took to calling me "Ms. [my last name]" rather than by my first name. I was amused by it, and in both cases I eventually ended up playing with the boy. Of course, that has more to do with how well we clicked in various other ways than that specific signal. And, of course, some dommes might hate being addressed that way.
|
|
|
|
