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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/6/2008 8:02:45 PM

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...Just because someone is a dominant, doesn't give them free reign to destroy the house...

why not? given it's their house and their rules?

In this case it happens to be my house and my antique furniture.

Which brings up the point the op didn't mention. Any furniture that has varnish and gets white rings is over 50 years old. Maybe not antique but not local unfurnished furniture store either. If it's old enough to have varnish, it is valuable.

How would you feel if you owned a classic '66 vette and somebody didn't bother closing the door properly, just kicked it shut leaving a dimple? It's only a car? No it's a valuable asset which you are proud of.

And any furniture which can get white rings is valuable furniture.

obviously, we come from different perspectives.

as a matter of fact, this slave owned a '64 Rambler Ambassador (the first thing her brother ever gave her) that was an 11 mpg gas hog that took specialist mechanics and specialist body-workers to work on because AMC doesn't exist anymore---it was enormously expensive to maintain and insure, not to mention a gross polluter of the environment, given this slave's "commute" from home to the nearest town was 40 miles, roundtrip.

Master wasn't interested in it as an asset when this slave became His and surrendered all of her possessions to Him, so this slave gave it to an economically disadvantaged family with a mechanic father in the house that happened to be able to maintain a Rambler station wagon, of close vintage, due to the father's mechanical abilities. acquiring an entire working second Rambler, to them, was an enormous opportunity and it felt really good to be able to do something good with it, instead of hoarding it as a "valuable asset".

it's merely a different perspective, DesFIP, not an endorsement that everyone should have with the same regard to material posessions.

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/7/2008 4:03:08 AM

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i find a huge difference between material posessions (ie a blender) and something with a sentimental value. Would he go into my jewelry box and damage my moms wedding ring? No...of course not. Thus i expect him to show the same amt of respect to the furniture that was hers.

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/7/2008 8:21:59 PM

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Hmmmm. Perhaps respectfully pointing out that it would help the household finances. If the wet glasses are damaging the wood then from an economic/stewardship point of view one should use coasters and save wear/tear on the furniture (and thereby save money).

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 12:45:57 PM

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Become a switch and demand it!?

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 5:52:11 PM

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OK...I've tried to word this 20 different ways now and they all seem wrong. How do you get your dominant to stop putting glasses of liquid on wood furniture (resulting in white rings), dropping their clothes wherever they take them off, leaving the cap off the toothpaste, using a different drinking glass for every glass of water they consume, tracking mud on the carpet, leaving the seat up, setting down the remote(or their glasses or the car keys) wherever they might be, leaving the ice cream on the counter, drinking out of the milk carton, etc., etc., etc.......but you get the idea. NO, my dominant does not do all of these things....thank God! Those little things that drive women nuts that wouldn't get a second thought in a bachelor pad.

Tonight, my sweet Sir did one of those things. I picked up a sweaty glass of water off the china hutch to reveal a large white ring. Ugh! Immediately I said "Sir, you can't leave glasses on the wood". As soon as the words came out of my mouth I realized just how "naggy" they sounded. Now it's not the first time he's done that....and it's not the first time I've said it. There have been a number of times. I guess it's just one of those things that just doesn't dawn on him. Thankfully, he always puts the seat down so it all works out.

Seriously though, has anyone figured out a way to get these little annoying things across without sounding like the nagging, unsubmissive, bitch from hell? If there is a secret trick I'd sure like to know.

Yes.....

Tell him he hits like a girl.

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 6:31:35 PM

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That wouldn't work on me. I'm not at all fashion consious, and quite regularly wear mis matched things, because I don't give a rats ass about fashion and what matches. I don't get manicures either, and chop all my nails off of my own accord, my nails are so short most the time there's barely any white on the tips. I don't do any typically girly things like hair or make up or shoes or purses or shopping for clothing and purses or any of that crap either.

And I am not the one who makes us late either. My Daddy is the lagger and the procrastinator, and I am the one who's like lets go lets go we're gonna be late come oooooooooooooooon.

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If you make a woman wear mismatched colors to the party, the next event she will probably be a lot quicker to pick some out instead of making you late via the inability to make a decision on a skirt.

When all the money that gets wasted on guest towels that never get used and just collect dust on the towel rack starts to come out of her manicure money instead of your wallet, the house probably will be a lot more open and less cluttered with pointless superficial bullshit.

Don't even get me started on shopping and credit cards...

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 6:34:46 PM

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or you can do as was done to me.. come home one day and a bunch of folded up paper towels was stratigicly place on the table ... as I wondered who was playing with paper towels it dawned on me what they was to be used for lol and she never had to confront me on the subject lol

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 6:52:53 PM

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My Daddies sister in law had a cat that did that, and it finally resulted in said kitty going to live with someone else, cause Suzanne hated the cat spraying everything. I think there was also some other small problems too, but mostly that it'd pee on everything you left on the floor.

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I don't know where you will find a cat that likes to pee on clothes, but that is what broke me of leaving clothing spread hither thither and yon...that cat hated me...

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RE: After 30 years I still don't know how....please HELP! - 10/14/2008 7:10:02 PM

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Go to BevMo... buy a set of blown glass glassware... they are made by Reidel i think. They have two walls, so are insulated and prevent condensation from forming at all. i use a set, and i dont even think about coasters anymore! The iciest water, stays colder longer, and no white marks to be found anywhere!

The only down side i have found is that the larger glassware sizes are almost too big for my dainty feminine hand.

As far as the internal reaction. That is a relationship thing. Just last night my Master mentioned to me that he has seen me "react" to things that are threatening to drive me nuts. Apparently i am very fortunate that he noticed in the first place, and had enough of a sense of humor to tell me that he is surprised my tongue is not a bloody stump. But also neither of us could remember exactly what it was that i had to bite my tongue about.

Try talking it out, and the shopping idea couldnt hurt! (wink!)

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