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Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 5:23:19 AM   
LadyPact


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For those of you who listened to Me cry, bitch, moan, sob, bang My head, and all those other wonderful expressions of emotions when clip and I parted physical company a little more than three months ago..... This post is for you.

My boy's coming home!

Yes, it's going to be for just a little more than a week.  The majority of the days he's here, I'm going to be working.  The days I'm not, we're going to be at Dom Con.  I'll probably grin from ear to ear the whole time.  It's been a while since My boy was literally at My feet.  My formal collar on his neck.

When I made posts here back in late June about his finishing school here, and it was time for him to leave, I got a lot of support from the CM community.  I was really grateful for that.  Having to turn a daily D/s dynamic into a long distance one wasn't the easiest thing on the planet.  It was a serious adjustment.  When someone's been with you for a year, and then they're gone...... yeah, you kind of notice.  That first week he left, I had this terrible habit of walking through the door and forgetting to close it behind Me.  I was just so used to him doing it.  I had no clue where anything was in My kitchen.  I had to 'find' things he had put away.

But it was more than that.  Those of you who read those things I posted in the days and weeks after My sub's departure know it was much more than that. There was pain, doubt, and uncertainty.  Not exactly what one thinks of when they imagine the one and only Lady Pact.  (Sarcasm.)

There are huge challenges when you change the proximity of the people involved in a dynamic.  Take someone from your every day physical life and have them go 2,000 miles away.  The challenges are different when you go from a LTR to an in person one, but they exist as well.  There are adjustments to be made.  Different ways to handle things.  The lot of you would be bored to death with Me if I even attempted to list them all.  You probably are already, so I'd better get to a point.

I want to hear about how you deal/have dealt with distance.  Maybe changes in distance.  Visits after long separations.  What was the first thing you wanted to do after your D/s had been away for a time?  What was your anticipation like right before they came home to you?  How did you adjust to those differences I mentioned above?  What mattered?  What didn't? 

You all know My story.  Now, I want to hear yours.


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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 5:35:20 AM   
persephonee


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....im so happy hes coming home....Congratulations....YAY!!!!

perse

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 5:45:34 AM   
GreedyTop


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nothing to offer as to your question...but YAY!!!  *happy dances*

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 6:02:02 AM   
LadyPact


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All I can say is thank you.

And yes, I dance.


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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 6:11:47 AM   
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I am fortunate that my Lady and I live just 20 minutes away from each other, but having been through a 3 year LDR, I understand your pain and joy at his coming home to you!  So big YAYs for you two!  

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 7:12:14 AM   
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Just remember not to shut the door behind you now... 

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 9:43:16 AM   
azropedntied


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congrats to you both !your both very lucky .

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 10:35:17 AM   
RumpusParable


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Just wanted to send you and clip a "yay!". :)

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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 1:52:51 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

Just remember not to shut the door behind you now... 

This struck Me as really funny.  Thank you.

Oh, Rumpus, he'll probably be at the meet and greet on Thursday.


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RE: Coming back (to the lifestyle) home - 10/6/2008 3:49:26 PM   
lovingpet


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I don't know that I have any specific stories or advice to offer in lifestyle context.  Both of my commited relationships came after long distance courting.  One thing to keep in mind is that both you and he have, in fact, walked different paths simply by being in different places.  There may be some things that don't ring quite the same way now as they did before.  That is not necessarily a bad thing, but it will show how important it is for a  relationship to be able to grow, change, and adapt.

I am very excited for you as I know you have missed him all this time he's been away!  Enjoy each other while you may and look forward to next time!

lovingpet

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