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SailingBum -> RE: does age matter? (10/6/2008 8:29:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsblue

Howdy.

i'm not sure if this belongs here, but for lack of anywhere better to put it... and i'm sure it may have been said/asked before but because i'm 'newish' and don't feel like going through ooooollllllld posts all day i'm still gonna make mine.

here goes! *drum roll*



screwit im not helping a lazy person  sheesh do your own fucking home work

BadOne



yourMissTress -> RE: does age matter? (10/6/2008 8:43:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsblue

Howdy.

i'm not sure if this belongs here, but for lack of anywhere better to put it... and i'm sure it may have been said/asked before but because i'm 'newish' and don't feel like going through ooooollllllld posts all day i'm still gonna make mine.

here goes! *drum roll*

hehe

okay, my question to both Doms/Dommes and subs actually, does age really matter to Y/you?  
My Dom is more than twenty years my senior and I like that that way....mostly.... i could never see me submitting to someone my own age or younger than me (esp younger).  So what about Y/ya'all?  subs does it matter that the Dom is older?  Dom/Dommes should the sub be younger?
And what if there is a relationship other than the D/s one?  I know in mainly 'vanilla' ways of mind, it's a bit taboo (like we've never crossed that line before) to have a ten/fifteen/twenty/etc older boyfriend or girlfriend?  What other thoughts are out there?


I prefer older male subs.  My new boy is 7 years older than I, and I like that.  Most of the men I have dated in my life have been at least 4 years older than I, but I prefer 5-10 years older.

In my experience, they are more mature, realistic, and grounded than younger men.  They usually have a better idea of what they want and what it takes to get to that point.  They are less likely to be "horny brats" or mamma's boys, more independent and likely to have a few things going for them in their lives. 



Lynnxz -> RE: does age matter? (10/6/2008 8:49:32 PM)

Apparently, I'm stuck at dating men exactly 10 years older than me. ^_^ It's not that I seek them out, we just seem to click. Would I date a younger man if the sparks were there? Sure! Why rule anything out.

As far as growing up, I like to think I got most of my stupidity out at 17, when I joined the army... I was quite the fuckup for a year or so after that... but I'm good now. That doesn't mean I have some rediculous claim to something, but that I'm quite happy with where I'm at now. I like my job. I like that I'll graduate in a year, I like that I've got one buisness, have heavy investments in another, and that I'm looking at starting up another with my little brother.

Speaking of age... I'd like to promote my brother, who has not graduated highschool, and is designing a fricking rail gun for his physics project... NOW I see where all of the brains ended up in the family. With any luck, we'll start designing and producing Animatronics summer 09. (Without the railguns, please)

*Note*  "Years in the lifestyle" is 9/10 times a load of crap. The guys that toot their horn the loudest are useless. [>:]





moonvine -> RE: does age matter? (10/6/2008 9:07:09 PM)

I highly, highly prefer younger dominants.  I've found the ones I have been with to be creative and yummy - the best scene I ever had was with a 25 year old when I was 38ish.  The one I am going to meet soon is *mutter* 23, but he's gotten into my head better than anyone in my life so far..so, we will see.



Alexander48 -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 1:19:22 AM)

Usually compatibility is the most important thing to me. However experience has taught me that the relationships that stand the best chance of success tend to be with a sub/slave that has been around for enough years to not only be mature, but also have gained valuable life experience. That said though, I do recognise that some younger submissives are quite mature and experienced. So while I usually look for someone around my own age, I keep an open mind about younger submissives as well.

Alexander

(edited for spelling)



MasterBabe -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 1:36:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsblue
[....rope...]

okay, my question to both Doms/Dommes and subs actually, does age really matter to Y/you?  

[... snipping...]

Dom/Dommes should the sub be younger?

[....emt scissors...]


I don't have a problem if the sub is older or younger than Me. The largest difference thus far has been 18 years younger, and in the other direction 10 years older. It does not phase Me in the least bit. If you feel the need to have the dom older by 20 years it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.





LATEXBABY64 -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 5:15:12 AM)

shrugs  i guess people like to waste their lives going in the wrong direction  thats why they keep making the same mistakes over and over and over

some people avoid being attatched or commiment it is why they choose someone that is really very young  like 20 years apart and when they do  they have a fantasy like they are going to be the end all be all   but the sad  thing of it is the percentage of those working out are very slim   but chase what ever do what ever   causes in the ends it is  you that is accountable for your life



CreativeDominant -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 7:11:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

I highly, highly prefer younger dominants.  I've found the ones I have been with to be creative and yummy - the best scene I ever had was with a 25 year old when I was 38ish.  The one I am going to meet soon is *mutter* 23, but he's gotten into my head better than anyone in my life so far..so, we will see.


And I'm thinking...call me cynical...that about the time you hit 50 or 55, a male dominant who is in their late 20's or early 30's...given what I've learned about most, though not ALL,  men through the years...  is not going to find much use for you relationship-wise.



pridedenied -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 6:37:00 PM)

I'm thinkin I prefer older women. My current domme is 10 yrs my senior and I like it that way. This way she has more knowledge to impart and experience to offer. I think I probably wouldn't go more than 30 years older than me though (I'm 20) but in the past I have liked me a 47 year old [sm=hearts.gif](and mmm was she tasty)

[sm=runaway.gif]Pridedenied



silkncarol -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 7:02:30 PM)

For me it's more about chemistry and compatibility....i've seen older and younger Dominants.....though i tend to draw the line about 15 years, either way of my own age.   When the younger doms start getting closer to my daughters age, it kinda goes weird on me. <laugh> 



kallisto -> RE: does age matter? (10/7/2008 7:09:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

For me it's more about chemistry and compatibility.


Me too.  Although I've never gone younger.  Always older than me.  



mons -> RE: does age matter? (10/8/2008 12:03:27 AM)

yes age matter when it come to minor teens i will not take anyone 21 it just is to young but someone older is ok i think you seem very happy this is great keep him

mons



oceanwynds -> RE: does age matter? (10/8/2008 6:31:47 AM)

My late husband was 15 years older then me and we had an intense and wonderful marriage for 29 years. I didn't choose him because he was older, but because of who he was inside. Sir is 5 years younger then me and i did not choose to submit to him because of age, but because of who he is inside. i am also very picky on who i give my heart too, so i rather be alone then to just have any person in my life. So age doesn't matter to me, they need to have something within that makes me want more.

Blessings
oceanwynds



propersubman -> RE: does age matter? (10/8/2008 10:14:44 AM)

"People at 20 today, have more experience then those who were 20 50 years ago in my opinion, why? The world has changed for the worse. "

With all respect due, I must humbly disagree.  The twenty year olds that I see today are no more experienced in life than they were fifty years ago and far less experienced than those of seventy-five or a hundred years ago.  Political correctness has made it far harder to point out their naivety or inability to survive on their own in society, so we let them go forward with the same idiotic ideas that we had when we were that age.  Its kind of a catch 22; the most naive of the twenty year olds are usually the ones who seem to know everything while the more mature twenty year olds acknowledge that they have a whole lot more to learn.  Sadly, we associate sex with experience and twenty year olds are probably a little more sexual today than fifty years ago, but sex has very little to do with experience or maturity.  It is sort of like saying that one is mature because he smokes cigarettes.  In truth, the more mature person doesn't smoke cigarettes, he doesn't need the window dressing of maturity.
    This really is a tough argument for a twenty year old to make.  You have never been fourty, but we have all been twenty and we knew everything then too.  I am not saying that to denegrate your thoughts, just pointing out a fact.  Chances are that when you are forty and you see someone twenty talking about how much experience a twenty year old has, you will chuckle a little and say "wait a few years".




greeneyes600 -> RE: does age matter? (10/8/2008 12:46:20 PM)

I agree justgemmie...i was going to say that if i found a dom 20 years older than me i'd be lucky!!  [:D]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: does age matter? (10/8/2008 9:45:38 PM)

The question as asked is pretty much the same as asking if any of these things matter:

family
sex
religion
being vegan
color
big breasts
career
pet lover
education

and so on.  We all have our preferences, logical or not.  It would be extremely unlikely of me now to get involved with someone my own age, but that's like to change over the next few decades as more people "catch up."



youngsubgeoff -> RE: does age matter? (10/9/2008 5:58:46 AM)

Age is not as important as much as the person and how I connect with them. Mistress is almost 30 years older than me, yet She and I connect on so many levels.

That being said... Im not that much of a fan of girls my age. Many of them are far too immature and selfish for my tastes. I need someone that understands love is a two way street. Many know how to take, but they dont know how to give. Granted, there are exceptions to this, but they are few and far between for me.



teensub -> RE: does age matter? (10/9/2008 1:36:25 PM)

I personally prefer older men in general but it for me is even more important in a d/s relationship for me.
I would find it difficult to submit to a man younger than me, or my age or even a few years older.
My master is 21 years older than me, yes i did say 21, and this suits me, we dont have a daddy daughter style relationship either, altho some people on this site assume that we must do because of our age gap.
I think there is just a certain thing about how an older man acts, and appeals to me x



panthersub -> RE: does age matter? (10/9/2008 9:24:14 PM)

My Dom is also 20 years older than i am, and i have no problem, except that we don't have a lot in common outside the lifestyle. And also for me, i am not into looking for anyone who is my around my age, 20-27.



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: does age matter? (10/10/2008 5:35:55 AM)

i  am having a mr spock moment on this one  if age did not matter why is there a thread



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