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Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:13:13 AM   
Masteraction


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Status: offline 		Hello all, I'm Master Action, My name for now
I'm still new to this lifestyle,
But I do know what I'm looking for .
I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ?
Is it punishment ( Pain )?, obedience ?, training ? Collard ? To know that they have been domanited ?
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.
I would like to here some thought's about it . Master Action
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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:15:49 AM   
imtempting


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:25:40 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:28:17 AM   
Masteraction


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Status: offline 		I have been doing that .. It's all very interesting.. some and hard core and some arn't.. Interesting !

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:33:16 AM   
peppermint379


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Status: offline 		I can only speak from my own personal view. What i look for in a Master is someone who will make me feel safe, protected, and be very honest.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:44:04 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ?
Is it punishment ( Pain )?, obedience ?, training ? Collard ? To know that they have been domanited ?
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.
I would like to here some thought's about it .


Action,
It appears you are seeking a sub to train you. Appreciate you are "new to the lifestyle", but it should be the other way around.

Communication is fine, but you have to come to the table with some sense of self. You need an idea of what you seek. You need to appreciate you basic dynamic and interaction between a dom and sub and determine if you have the necessary skill set and confidence to carry it out.

Before you start working on what to do if you meet a sub; first answer the question - why do you seek a sub?


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 9:40:44 AM   
Masteraction


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ?
Is it punishment ( Pain )?, obedience ?, training ? Collard ? To know that they have been domanited ?
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.
I would like to here some thought's about it .


Action,
It appears you are seeking a sub to train you. Appreciate you are "new to the lifestyle", but it should be the other way around.

Communication is fine, but you have to come to the table with some sense of self. You need an idea of what you seek. You need to appreciate you basic dynamic and interaction between a dom and sub and determine if you have the necessary skill set and confidence to carry it out.

Before you start working on what to do if you meet a sub; first answer the question - why do you seek a sub?



Not so Mercandbeth.. I'm only look to seek the opinions of Sub. for my own survey, I know what I want and who I am .. I'm just looking for opinion's..diffrent point's of view. everyone has a preference, and mine is to be a dom who is respected , charished, commited to me ,loyal ,and greatful .
I have goals, And a sub who is there with me and stay's beside me will benifit from there loyalty and fathfulness !

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 10:45:33 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ?


You need to start on the otherside and read some profiles.

What do I want? Pleasure, pain, to serve, to laugh, to trust, to be taken, to be more fully perverted.
More and better of what I've already experienced.
That's just a start.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:07:39 AM   
Masteraction


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Status: offline 		Thank you Katy,
That's all I'm asking for .. thought's.. you's are very interesting.. You have the qualities of a sub that would be more toward's my style , Mild , (laugh, pain , pleasure) But not overly perverse, slowly moving towards the later,
a women who understand's a man's need's.. ( "to serve" and to be " taken " )

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:12:00 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

Is it punishment ( Pain )?, obedience ?, training ? Collard ? To know that they have been domanited ?
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.
I would like to here some thought's about it . Master Action


It's different for every single person here. You will not find one answer that is the exact replica of anothers. Some will answer that it is all of those combined, some will answer with only 1 or 2 being what they seek.

The important thing is that you know WHAT you want, then, you can work on finding the one who fits your needs.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:15:05 AM   
Masteraction


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Status: offline 		Very true Peppermint.. And thank you for the reply.
quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint379

I can only speak from my own personal view. What i look for in a Master is someone who will make me feel safe, protected, and be very honest.


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:17:41 AM   
perverseangelic


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EVERY answer will be different. We're all seeking something different, I think.

Me? What I like/want and what I find I have and adore are two different things that overlap in some areas. I like pain. I rather like lots of pain. I am with someone who isn't a sadist. I like ritual. I am with someone who is casual. I like micromanagement. I'm with someone who uses me to make his life easier.

However, it turns out this -works- for me within the right setting. It turns out that -knowing- I belong to someone, and feeling him excercise control from time to time fufills me even more than I was when I had the things I mentioned above.

My point? That sometimes what we say and what we actually thrive with are two different things.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:22:24 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		The answers will be as varied as the people here.
Some are much more into ritual, protocal and "training" (how I hate that word).
Some are more maso.
Some are "lite" and don't need that much immersion.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:29:05 AM   
Masteraction


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Status: offline 		And thank you IrishMist,
So true are your word's.
I'm currently looking at profile's reading there personal thought's, and wondering if she fit ?
I have a need .. To be respected, trusted, honered, and obeyed. Not in that order LOL.
my need's are simple and are posted in my profile.

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

Is it punishment ( Pain )?, obedience ?, training ? Collard ? To know that they have been domanited ?
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.
I would like to here some thought's about it . Master Action


It's different for every single person here. You will not find one answer that is the exact replica of anothers. Some will answer that it is all of those combined, some will answer with only 1 or 2 being what they seek.

The important thing is that you know WHAT you want, then, you can work on finding the one who fits your needs.


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 11:44:38 AM   
darkinshadows


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Hello there.

You will find there are diverse reactions to your question. Some subs/slaves have 'needs' - and some have only one - to serve and submit and therefore. all their 'needs' are only those of their dominant. This does not mean they are needless - just means their aware that their needs are likely to alter - so this remains in the Masters/Mistress control.

I do disagree with Merc however. There is nothing wrong with learning from a s-type and essentially gaining training - althought I wouldn't call it training - more 'experience'. Many subs or slaves make excellent 'mentors' and indeed some find it a 'service' to use such.

I hope You have a wonderful journey.

Peace and Rapture

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 1:19:46 PM   
Mylee


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Status: offline 		I want different things from my Master, out of the bedroom or kitchen floor, or whereever, i'd like to be respected, cherished and allowed to love and hounour Him above all others

In the bedroom or whereever He see fits i want to feel used, not a doormat or down tordden, but i want to know i pleased Him in every way i can, i want to be sore and worn out from hopping to, doing His bidding and living just to bring Him pleasure, whether that be through pain, 'punishment', oral, anal, what have you, i dont even care if i'm left unsatisfied (orgasm) i will be the happiest girl at the end of the day knowing He is happy with me


~my'lee

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 1:21:52 PM   
Masteraction


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darkangel

Hello there.

You will find there are diverse reactions to your question. Some subs/slaves have 'needs' - and some have only one - to serve and submit and therefore. all their 'needs' are only those of their dominant. This does not mean they are needless - just means their aware that their needs are likely to alter - so this remains in the Masters/Mistress control.

I do disagree with Merc however. There is nothing wrong with learning from a s-type and essentially gaining training - althought I wouldn't call it training - more 'experience'. Many subs or slaves make excellent 'mentors' and indeed some find it a 'service' to use such.

I hope You have a wonderful journey.

Peace and Rapture

Very true Dark Angle,
I also agree with you about MarcandBeth, My need's are special ( as everyone's are). I'm just looking to find anwser's to help sort out my need's and help me find what I'm looking for . I know that service and submit are one of the qualities I'm looking for , yet there are also other need's I have also. As I get to know myself better, I find the whole aspect of being a" master " more intreging. Thank's for replying ..MasterAction

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 1:30:15 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		In My case i am lookinf ror a fim yet gentle Master whi will respectmy hard limits and push my soft ones. I am not really into pain but i live to serve and please the one who i belong to.

littleone

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 2:29:23 PM   
IrishMist


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I know that service and submit are one of the qualities I'm looking for ,


Well, having said that you know you want service and submission, the next step is to define them for YOURSELF. Not what they mean to someone else...but what they mean to YOU.


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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 3:03:56 PM   
nonuts4thshoney


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Status: offline 		If i were single and looking, the first thing i'd look for in a Master/Mistres would be someone who is constantly educating themselves on the lifestyle. So, if i have a question about the lifestyle , the first person i'd go to would be my Master/Mistress. It wouldn't matter about how long they have been in the lifestyle, but matters how much they believe in it. i wouldn't want someone who knows nothing about the lifestyle. Why would i want to be with someone who orders me around but i get nothing out of it? my suggestion is to start reading books and and surfing the net on BDSM subjects. Every sub wants different things. Learn, Learn, Learn and things will become much easier for you.



But, to answer your question on what it is i want from my Master would be: #1 to guide me in the right direction in life when i steer off the road a little. #2 Look out for my well being #3 Encourage and motivate me when i feel like quiting.

i can do these things for myself, but i devote so much attention to Master that i tend to forget about me. Master makes sure that i don't.

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