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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 3:49:07 PM

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If i were single and looking, the first thing i'd look for in a Master/Mistres would be someone who is constantly educating themselves on the lifestyle. So, if i have a question about the lifestyle , the first person i'd go to would be my Master/Mistress. It wouldn't matter about how long they have been in the lifestyle, but matters how much they believe in it. i wouldn't want someone who knows nothing about the lifestyle. Why would i want to be with someone who orders me around but i get nothing out of it? my suggestion is to start reading books and and surfing the net on BDSM subjects. Every sub wants different things. Learn, Learn, Learn and things will become much easier for you.

But, to answer your question on what it is i want from my Master would be: #1 to guide me in the right direction in life when i steer off the road a little. #2 Look out for my well being #3 Encourage and motivate me when i feel like quiting.

i can do these things for myself, but i devote so much attention to Master that i tend to forget about me. Master makes sure that i don't.

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Learn, Learn, Learn and things will become much easier for you.

But, to answer your question on what it is i want from my Master would be: #1 to guide me in the right direction in life when i steer off the road a little. #2 Look out for my well being #3 Encourage and motivate me when i feel like quiting.

Thank you NoNut's4thshoney.. I have been looking at various web site's .. I've been to the "Ask a Master" post...( I need to go back there ) I'm gathering as much Info As I can ... And hence the question..Of this post.. as I have said before , I just looking to gather Info and thought's as to what a sub might want from her/his master/partner.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 4:04:05 PM

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here is something you might like to read. Hope it helps some

click on subs needs to the left

A subs needs

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 4:18:54 PM

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Thank you !!! I will read It all and apply it as needed Thank you Again .. MasterAction

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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

here is something you might like to read. Hope it helps some

click on subs needs to the left

A subs needs

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 5:55:34 PM

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I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ? ...
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.

For me, yes sex does play an important role and that's the easy side of the coin. It's the other side of the coin, the mental growth and continual stimulation, that i find harder to come by. My mind has to be captured...then my body follows...

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 7:51:10 PM

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Sometimes when i think of what i desire and what i want to give...it is so simple yet so hard to find. i am a lil girl at heart yet with the passion of a woman so what i look for is a Gentle Daddy Dom who will love, protect and cherish me. i enjoy mild pain and i love the control..the mental aspect is the most erotic for me but i embrace the kinky (i hate that word since i don't think i am kinky, only honest enough to say what i love ) aspects and in turn i crave to please, to give pleasure, to sit on the floor beside him, my head resting on his leg. it is so real i can almost feel it but to find it? that is another story

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 9:46:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: champagnewishes

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I would like to here thought's about what a sub want's from their master / partner ? ...
Is is sexual for some ?, I know that everyone is diffrent , and has preferences'.

For me, yes sex does play an important role and that's the easy side of the coin. It's the other side of the coin, the mental growth and continual stimulation, that i find harder to come by. My mind has to be captured...then my body follows...

I understand..Sex Is part of my want's.. And to be honest it a big (but not the most important ) aspect of my dom side.
trust , respect and commitment are also there as well !

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/7/2005 10:00:48 PM

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LilWhiteWolf....
Thank you, For your thought's.

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Sometimes when i think of what i desire and what i want to give...it is so simple yet so hard to find. i am a lil girl at heart yet with the passion of a woman so what i look for is a Gentle Daddy Dom who will love, protect and cherish me. i enjoy mild pain and i love the control..the mental aspect is the most erotic for me but i embrace the kinky (i hate that word since i don't think i am kinky, only honest enough to say what i love ) aspects and in turn i crave to please, to give pleasure, to sit on the floor beside him, my head resting on his leg. it is so real i can almost feel it but to find it? that is another story

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/10/2005 2:56:37 AM

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greetings master attraction
i dont know if i can clarify this point but it is the aftertaste
the limp when you try to walk
the mental hold of shame that lingers on when you try to talk regular or meet eye to eye
its the i am alone but.......i still fell every solid word
the taste you get in your mouth long after you tried to digest it all and pass it away and flush it
it just is
still there
so you have to smile cause you know
i had it and i have been used and likely will be again just like that ,by, that person....

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/10/2005 12:20:51 PM

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What i think draws me to enslavement to a Master is: (In other words, this is what i want/need from a Master to truely enslave myself to him).

1. My ability to respect him in regards to:
(i) how well he knows himself and applies this knowledge wisely to his own
life.
(ii) how he deals with problems.
(iii) what his beliefs are about life in general.
(iv) how he walks his talk.

2. His ability to laugh at life, himself and me.

3. An adventurous spirit.

4. An ability to commit to a one on one relationship.

5. An ability to be very secure in his role as Dominant/Master and all that entails.

6. BDSM play experience to a level where i dont have to feel im training him.

7. His ability to be intimate, sexual and inventive within a D/s sense.

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RE: Sub's Lifestyle ? - 12/10/2005 12:33:46 PM

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I also agree with you about MarcandBeth, My need's are special ( as everyone's are). I'm just looking to find anwser's to help sort out my need's and help me find what I'm looking for . I know that service and submit are one of the qualities I'm looking for , yet there are also other need's I have also. As I get to know myself better, I find the whole aspect of being a" master " more intreging. Thank's for replying ..

MasterAction

With all due respect, Sir; i do not think submissives and slaves can assist You in answering a question as personal as "what do i want to gain by dominating a woman"? All we can say is "this is what it means to me to be dominated by a Man". The two are very different, and a "survey" of responses only nets You severeal idiosyncratic responses. You will only find the answers You seek inside Yourself.

Now, if Your question is, "how do I make Myself more attractive to submissives and slaves", we might be able to help; but You could learn quite easily by searching through threads for ones on "rudeness" or "email".

i hope that i have helped You.

camdystripper

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