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Daddysredhead -> RE: What has made your eyes roll today? (11/10/2009 12:55:56 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Aylee
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead
"Sorry, I don't mean to laugh, but what is it that you think is going to happen to your wife? What is going to render her useless to you and your family?"
A serious answer. . .
The idea of broken bones, infection, too much pain to be effective at work or home, fear, depression, confussion, "mind-fucks", broken heart, desire to leave him, visits from the police, social ostracism, children being affected by school teachers being nosey. . .
Those are probably some of the fears and worries going through his mind.
Aylee,
I don't doubt that there are very real things that make him scared. The strangest thing is that the four of us were talking about what she liked, and it was basically spanking her bottom and a little hair pulling just to see if she liked that much. He had not been so overly dramatic until she showed him the pictures of my playtime results with DB. I told her, as did DB, that she is never allowed to show my pics to anyone without permission. She was very apologetic and I told her that if she had asked my opinion in advance, I would not have advised it at all, because she effectively freaked her husband out.
He originally thought bdsm was about being bossy, then he thought it was about a little slap and tickle, even though I had discussed it with him at length a few weeks ago. He was ok with what we had discussed and what we said was going to be happening. As a matter of fact, he thought it was assinine of DB and I to ask if he was ok with everything, as a matter of respect. We told him we were not going to compromise our sense of integrity and not take his feelings into consideration.
He has gone back and forth with everything, not just the bdsm stuff. Like dinner... and what he likes or doesn't like. [8|] He also confessed that he is very intimidated by DB in many ways, even though DB had only talked to him once and it was about music. They seemed to get along just fine, talked, laughed, blah, blah, blah... He told his wife he was also afraid that DB may be a member of the BBC *wink*. I told her and him that unless I give the nod, she gets none-a-that play, though he thought she would like it.
Yanno, I'ma just beat my head into the wall now. Then I'ma go beat her... eventually.
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