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ORIGINAL: Raechard

The little lamb act is a very good approach Mr Untouched1282 you are a very clever manipulator of the female mind.
 
I admire your cunning

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asshat

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ORIGINAL: ApathyRomance

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asshat

Where does this term come from?  How do you wear a hat on your ass, or an ass as a hat?  Ponder.

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ORIGINAL: Raechard

Ah so shy.

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ORIGINAL: Raechard

The little lamb act is a very good approach Mr Untouched1282 you are a very clever manipulator of the female mind.
 
I admire your cunning

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ORIGINAL: Usako

Personally, I think a fetish is a problem when you can't be sexual turned on or get off without doing the fetish or having it in mind.

That being said, I don't know if I have a fetish. Certain things turn me on but I rarely look at porn or think about it during masturbation. I talk to a friend of mine and they go on about women in white or dressed like nurses is one of their fetishes and I don't know anything that will instantly turn me on. Like to see a picture of it or porn of it or see it in person; I can't think of anything like that.

Even if I DID have a nice fetish (I problem have one somewhere I can't think of or maybe haven't even discovered) I would never say I'd never have nice, normal sex again. There is nothing wrong with good old fashioned "vanilla" (god I hate that term) sex. As I said, I'd be more worried if I couldn't have sex at all without having said fetish involved or in my mind.

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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

most seem to have your mindset, that they are here and can never go back because vanilla is not enough for them; i can understand how that would be true for many and i don't wish to argue against it. 

me though, i could go back and be absolutely content and happy in some 'vanilla as can be' relationship, problem is... they just never seemed to like me and nothing quite worked out in the first place.

however, the reason i could go back if things would work out is... i didn't abandon vanilla life for kinky sex; i'm here for the individual, not for personal fetish fulfillment.  i'm sure my experiences with any partner in the world would be dynamic and if i'm fortunate... treasured, but i don't need to be tied upside down to a ceiling fan in a latex mask and be beaten to be happy with a woman, the idea is i'd be happy tie the rope around my ankles myself if it made her happy.  it's taking an active interest in the desires of someone you care for, no different than taking an interest in a vanilla woman's life by going to watch romance movies [although i love those, but just for the sake of example], and no different than how a woman might painfully watch football with her partner just to spend the time together if nothing else [and yes, i know plenty of women like sports].

my fetishes are tame, my fantasies are wild, my willingness is abundant, and my interest is limitless; i'm only as kinky as my partner.

i love the concept of taking an active interest in what someone else likes, it's not just 'giving it a go' or being experimental to see if you like it, it's trying to understand the enjoyment they get out of it.  i can understand the reasons a sadist enjoys inflicting pain, and just like a game i know the difference in what will rouse their excitement between a field goal, and a touchdown worthy of 6 replays; but not being a masochist let alone a sadist, i can never enjoy it. 

at the end of the night though, when i'm cuddled up beside them [at least i hope lol], laying there knowing i made them happy, and me being quite happy myself, i'll smile and be more proud of any bruise i may have than most people could imagine. 

in short, women and individualism are my fetishes, and i can find that in anyone, but my relationships don't work with 'just anyone', ergo i am here. 

i... like the rest of the group, am very curious and could probably offer some better advice if we knew what this fetish is you're speaking about, but i'll try to assure you; if you end up never wanting to go back to vanillaville, that's not a bad thing, and i wouldn't worry about it.  it doesn't sound like you're giving up what you want the most, it sounds like you're coming here to find it.

oh and i hate football, but i spend a lot of time watching colts games with my best friend~

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ORIGINAL: Usako

The more you hide it, the more we want to know.

Might it involve making you a bit more touched rather than untouched?

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ORIGINAL: ApathyRomance

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asshat

Where does this term come from?  How do you wear a hat on your ass, or an ass as a hat?  Ponder.