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gutted... - 10/11/2008 1:41:48 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		eh, am I overreacting?

Been chatting to a Dom for a few weeks now, everything was going great so I thought, had talked about meeting up in a few more weeks time, etc etc, he said we had a connection, I was special ...(you get the picture huh?)
he told me before that he is a flirt, but I mentioned to him for me...to believe somethings real then I take things literally, I only say things I mean 110% ..and if I saw that he was acting with other women the way he does with me, then how could I trust in what we have?
so he knew my views, said he was happy with me, and understood

so..yea..maybe you guessed it, but I found him quite happily cybering full on with any girl that was willing, he didnt even realise I had come online as he was so wrapped up in it..

so I said to him, eh..okay we talked about this I know where I stand now..I was obviously a bit of amusement

and now...sadly hes done the age old trick of turning round things onto me, saying I am at fault....blah I'm gutted..
do you think im overreacting?

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 1:54:40 AM   
ApathyRomance


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Status: offline 		Yes.  He didn't take your guts.  He just took a little time which is the only way you learn what you want and how to get it.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 1:54:45 AM   
missunderstood88


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Status: offline 		Welcome to collarme.com. This sort of thing goes on all the time if you let it. There are a lot of time-wasters out there, and not so many worthwhile prospects.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 1:56:57 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		lol....ahh bugger it

im gonna become a nun

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 1:59:34 AM   
pixidustpet


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Status: offline 		i dont know if you're over-reacting or not.  you told him how you are.  he chose not to take you seriously.

but he *was* honest with you in that he's a flirt.  to him, it obviously doesnt mean as much as it does to you.  it doesnt mean he's a bad person, it means you're a bad match with him.    its ok to feel gutted, as you put it.  but much better to find out in the early stages of getting to know him than to come home one day to find him "going at it" (as it were) once you were an established item.

i know it sucks.  but he isnt the only dominant in the yellow pages, and someone who is more on your page is going to be a better fit with you.

kitten

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:00:22 AM   
ApathyRomance


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Status: offline 		Don't be a nun!  You sound cute.  You'll find the right person, don't worry.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:01:47 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starx

lol....ahh bugger it

im gonna become a nun


Hello! 

i am one of those that seem to take things to heart on here, so don't worry lol!  i got told i was a bloke last week; got really upset (the idiot wished me "happy wanking, son"

There are a shed load of idiots on here, but every now and again you will find someone who is well worth your while!

Hugs

Gabrielle x

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:04:36 AM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		Well, you're entitled to feel any way you feel.  If he's saying it is your fault he was cybering with other people, that sounds abusive to me and not someone I'd want to be involved with.  If you only have a few weeks time invested in this, I'd definitely move on, but that's just my opinion and worth what you paid for it, I reckon.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:07:42 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		pixidustpet - yea I agree with you, I just hate that whole turning around guilt trip thing people do when you say to them 'hey enough is enough' it sucks

Apathyromance - aww thankies

Gabrielleslave - yeah I take way too much literally and to heart....I think I need to stop taking everyones words as the gospel truth lol.....I mean next time someone tells me they are a alien from the planet Zonk, I'mma question it more haha

no but seriously *slaps self* I gotta stop thinking everyones honest

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:16:13 AM   
ApathyRomance


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no but seriously *slaps self* I gotta stop thinking everyones honest


Eh.  That leads to bitter profiles with a page of grievances that scares people away. 

*Sighs*  I am, however, an anarchist who believes people are innately good. 

Just be positive and careful!

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:24:31 AM   
pixidustpet


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Status: offline 		star and apathy....

i'm 45 years old.  i've been treated badly, am going into the 3rd marriage (gods help us both lol) i've buried two dominants and had to leave a third.

i STILL believe in the goodness of people and am STILL astonished at when they arent.  and yes i do believe in the tooth fae and in santa claus (they're distant cousins, you know). 

TheEngineer and Daddy both say i'm an eternal 12 year old and never stop believing.  i can live with that.

kitten, content

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 2:45:04 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		naw lifes too short to be bitter..

anyway I never stay down for long

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:32:11 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starx

anyway I never stay down for long


Even when ordered to stay down there? 

Hey, you can't call yourself a twue submissive till you've dealt with your share of wankers.  And you still have some to go...

Don't become a nun.  Some of the best of us Doms are Jewish.


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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:43:59 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Yes, you are over-reacting and also over-reaching.  You'd not met in real time, yet you expected some sort of cyber-monogamy?  

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:48:37 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		Yes, you are over-reacting and also over-reaching.  You'd not met in real time, yet you expected some sort of cyber-monogamy?  

~~~

I dont expect anyone to do anything

if someone wants me to meet them though or take them seriously to their word...then yeah before I meet them I wanna be sure they arent the biggest player around..




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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:50:17 AM   
starx


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Status: offline 		and lol DarkSteven...eh if im ordered thats another matter

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:56:45 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Seems like a lot of energy invested in someone you've never met.   Maybe next time you should meet someone in a quicker time frame so you know whether or not there's chemistry and you aren't wasting time.
edited to add....yes, I think you're overreacting.  How can you be gutted by someone you've never met?

< Message edited by Aileen1968 -- 10/11/2008 3:58:01 AM >

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:06:19 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

How can you be gutted by someone you've never met?


Cyber gutting hurts!


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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:15:15 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

How can you be gutted by someone you've never met?


Cyber gutting hurts!


And why cyber anal is sooooo good without lube...or spit.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:22:13 AM   
Raechard


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Status: offline 		This sounds like a chatroom situation and from my limited understanding of chatrooms I can safely say that if you are not flirting then no one is typing. It would be a bit unrealistic therefore if someone logs on on a regular basis they will not be flirting with someone else in your absence. Mind you sometimes they like to talk about D/s fillosofy etc. I take flirting deadly serious though it shows deep commitment to my online women folk.
Yeah I spelt philosophy wrong cos I’m role playing being in a actual chatroom. Some people dream of 24/7 chatroom, one day that will be me, it is my dream and lifelong ambition.

< Message edited by Raechard -- 10/11/2008 4:23:06 AM >

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