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God Forbid they should show some common sense in who they choose to talk to.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

I absolutly love threads like this. It's so much  fun to sit back and watch all the so called in control of themselves dominants lose their cool because some wittle bitty subbie girl/boy does not answer their emails. God Forbid they should show some common sense in who they choose to talk to.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys


Lady I'm talking simply about a first reply..I don't care what you say after that if He's not being nice. Other than try to be a human being.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: Icarys


Lady I'm talking simply about a first reply..I don't care what you say after that if He's not being nice. Other than try to be a human being.

OK Icarys, here's an experiment for you. I JUST received an email which said:

Can you handle this if you were my sub/slave?

http://redtube.com/2845
and
http://redtube.com/10320
and
http://redtube.com/14530
and
http://www.redtube.com/14281

Let me know your thoughts. Have a great day.


It's a series of videos, which aren't that impressive if you ask me (actually I only watched one of them and didn't want to bother with the rest).

So...is this a rude first email - to link dumb videos into my email? He did say have a nice day, after all. Typically I wouldn't reply to this. For the sake of this thread I will. Yes, I can handle it, as what I saw seemed mild to me. But based on this being his first email, I'm not interested in being his slave.

I'll let you know the result.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

But was that a rude opening email? And if you received stuff like that all the time?

I'll let you know his reply.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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so you told them no the first time right?

I've told a few "not interested", I've received responses to that which vary from begging to rude.  Therefore, I now choose the no response = not interested.  It is not rude, I owe strangers on-line nothing.  I couldn't care less if people think it is rude.

your right..you owe them nothing..
you don't owe the people next door anything
you don't owe your friends anything..your mom your priest your kids. you get the point i hope... It's not about owing anyone anything. It's just about being a decent person i think. Takes about 2 seconds to give a courteous response....I know..takes even less to do nothing.

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness


bit different from messages. But what I find weird is that people post questions or ask help in a journal. You reply or help...and they don't respond.
Messages in a profile can be unwanted. But a reply to your own question, would be decent to reply too.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Then this conversation with you is futile, since it is one way. You don't answer the questions asked here, and shrug at people, yet tell them they are rude. In an experiment trying to illustrate to you what we deal with, you are uninterested. So it seems your whole point in this thread isn't to gain understanding, but to preach from your pulpit.

Have fun with that.

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

there are none so blind as they that will not see

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ORIGINAL: susie

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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so you told them no the first time right?

I've told a few "not interested", I've received responses to that which vary from begging to rude.  Therefore, I now choose the no response = not interested.  It is not rude, I owe strangers on-line nothing.  I couldn't care less if people think it is rude.

your right..you owe them nothing..
you don't owe the people next door anything
you don't owe your friends anything..your mom your priest your kids. you get the point i hope... It's not about owing anyone anything. It's just about being a decent person i think. Takes about 2 seconds to give a courteous response....I know..takes even less to do nothing.

You are still missing the point. Even if you recieve a polite email and respond with "no thanks" you open the door to further communication which in the main constitutes the "I am DOM do as I say" type response. I really am not interested in so called Doms stamping their feet and throwing their dummys out of the pram because I have said no. Perhaps if you regularly received upwards of 50 messages a day even when you have clearly said that you are not looking for anything you too would tire of responding.

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What's the harm that's done with dealing with this?

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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What's the harm that's done with dealing with this?

It's a waste of time.  Unless you decide to play with them for a while.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: susie

You are still missing the point. Even if you recieve a polite email and respond with "no thanks" you open the door to further communication which in the main constitutes the "I am DOM do as I say" type response. I really am not interested in so called Doms stamping their feet and throwing their dummys out of the pram because I have said no. Perhaps if you regularly received upwards of 50 messages a day even when you have clearly said that you are not looking for anything you too would tire of responding.

What's the harm that's done with dealing with this? You have a choice how you let it affect you. You also have the choice not to deal with it which i see alot doing that than not. Nothing good comes out of that in the long run.

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here's some good behavior.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
OK Icarys, here's an experiment for you. I JUST received an email which said:

Can you handle this if you were my sub/slave?

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ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008

I am growing deeply concerned about the sub's and slave's that do not ever reply/respond to message's sent to them by Masters/Mistreess's, not even a polite 'Thanks, but no thanks' would be nice. However, increasingly, I find that its virtually impossible to receive a response from sub's and slave's when they are contacted thru here. A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.
Another matter, on a different subject is...there has been a huge outbreak of 'supposed' subs/slaves sending message's to Masters and Mistresses from out of the USA, from Ghana for example. They claim they want a 'owner', but then go  on to 'demand' extreme funds for plane tickets, visa's, and passports, making claims that all can be had within 72 hours time, IF they have the money. I have, personally, checked this out....the shortest time anyone can get a passport/visa from Ghana, or most anywhere else is actually 6 months or more, and even then, some governments require that the person requesting thses documents have a large bank account balance and real property in they're country, there-by assureing thery're return. I have not found any country willing to grant visa's and passports within 72 hours, and normally there is a long and detailed process by which said items are gotten anyway.
My advise to all Masters and Mistresses, if you get a message from someone outside of your own country, simply do not reply, its most likely a 'con-game' to simply get your money. And for those who receive message's from those in your country, be sure that if you assist with transportation for these subs/slave's, you pre-pay for the ticket, so you can get a refund if the ticket is not used and it cannot be cashed in by anyone else...
On a final note, I hope everyone here, Masters,Mistresses, slaves and subs have a wonderful day and night!!
Master Chip 2008