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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 4:01:35 PM

persephonee

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LOL... you people are way too polite.

I just threaten to shove my dick up their ass and piss, if they don't write me back... hahahahahahaha......

And that would work, because I would most likely respond to a message like that. And yes it would be very rude.

See...and i would review Whips posts and then respond favorably to that sort of comment....life is strange.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 4:06:42 PM

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I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

If someone does take the time to write a courteous, decent letter, I will reply. But if the message is so generic that it is obviously a mass mailing to every woman on this site, or the writer obviously did not even glance at my profile (submisive men, usually), or the message consists of just a few words "Hi, wanna chat?", they are probably not getting a reply.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 4:27:02 PM

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naughtysubk: I agree! I can appreciate a well thought out email. In fact, its rather refreshing!

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 4:28:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

I'm not a religious person, but I would certainly take what the Bible has to say over Miss Manners any day, after all, she is NOT an all knowing god. How many have ever heard of the Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."? Or as it says in Luke 6-31 "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." In other words, if you want to be treated with courtesy and respect, then you should treat other people the same way, and ignoring them is NOT treating them with courtesy or respect aftet they have taken the time to write you a courtious and respectful letter.

Another thought along those same lines, "What goes around comes around."

And Confuscius, "Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself."

The Dalai Lama, "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion"

Hinduism, "That man who regards all creatures as his own self, and behaves towards them as towards his own self, laying aside the rod of chastisement and completely subjugating his wrath, succeeds in attaining to happiness."

Muhammad, "The most righteous of men is the one who is glad that men should have what is pleasing to himself, and who dislikes for them what is for him disagreeable."

Judaism, "That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. That is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn"

I think Miss Manners is outnumbered.

I am doing to others what I expect others to do to me. If I wrote to a straight women and tried to hit on her, I would expect to be ignored. If I wrote to anyone who states clearly in their profile that they are not looking, I would expect to be ignored. If I wrote to someone, and I have, and was ignored, I would move on to the next one. After all this is the internet and no response is a way of saying "no thanks"

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 4:30:21 PM

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Typo. Fixed it fer ya.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 9:40:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

For those coming in late, I offer again this suggestion:

After you send an initial email to someone on collarme, go immediately to your sent folder and delete it. If you do that you will never know if it was read or not and voilà…you will NEVER be disappointed that someone didn’t respond to one of your emails.

PS I know my last post said it was my final word on the subject, but what can I say, I am not only a Sick Fuck, but a liar too!!

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 9:58:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: OneSickFck

For those coming in late, I offer again this suggestion:

After you send an initial email to someone on collarme, go immediately to your sent folder and delete it. If you do that you will never know if it was read or not and voilà…you will NEVER be disappointed that someone didn’t respond to one of your emails.

If you still don't get a response, what will you do?? Did she read it?? Was it lost in cyberspace?? Did CM eat my mail?? Did a mod intercept it?? Did she block me??

Then the most important question: Should I send again?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/14/2008 10:00:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: zakkan

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ORIGINAL: OneSickFck

For those coming in late, I offer again this suggestion:

After you send an initial email to someone on collarme, go immediately to your sent folder and delete it. If you do that you will never know if it was read or not and voilà…you will NEVER be disappointed that someone didn’t respond to one of your emails.

If you still don't get a response, what will you do?? Did she read it?? Was it lost in cyberspace?? Did CM eat my mail?? Did a mod intercept it?? Did she block me??

Then the most important question: Should I send again?

I've said earlier on the thread I PREFER no response to a cut and paste "thanks but no thanks" email because if they are not interested it saves me 10 seconds of my precious free time to open, read and delete such emails. I get more than my fair share of no responses and my feeling (no doubt due to an overinflated sense of self worth) is "It's their loss, not mine!"!

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 12:01:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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Not all th ebooks of the Bible were written by men.

I don't recall any that were written directly by the hand of a diety. Just people who say they were inspired by a diety.

Cali

I could be wrong, but I am assuming he means that there are some females who wrote books - although not offically in the bible as they were purposefully excluded. But they still exist in the original text/writings.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 12:03:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: zakkan
If you still don't get a response, what will you do?? Did she read it?? Was it lost in cyberspace?? Did CM eat my mail?? Did a mod intercept it?? Did she block me??

Then the most important question: Should I send again?

'Sensible' people can read that it has been deleted unread - it tells you. But then, 'sensible' people wouldn't get torn up over no reply anyhoo.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 12:04:07 AM

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Really for me the truth is like the.dark said, I except it's rude but I'm okay with it..at least she understands it. I hope that's what ya meant?

Yes.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 12:22:12 AM

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New to the site, though been in and out of the scene for a while now. I know I've been spoiled in many ways with the tops I've played with thus far (courtesy and respect? Goodness me!), so I suppose I shouldn't have been surprise that after one back-and-forth with a fellow, in which he stated he was looking for the "real deal" (not to mention his profile said he was looking for the "ULTIMATE SUBMISSIVE" - hardly how I'd describe myself), he responded poorly to my email politely saying I wasn't really interested in playing with someone looking for those things (and gosh, if he'd READ my profile, he'd probably have known that). He got defensive more than anything else, no insults, but perhaps only coz I blocked him immediately after that exchange. And now I've learned my lesson like a good li'l girl. Hehe.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 1:48:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Two from this morning, "Hey you" from a guy with a (literally) 2 word profile, and "What kind of flower are you?" from a guy with a one paragraph profile about BDSM gardening. Somehow, I don't think either one sent their message only to me, nor are they waiting with baited breath for my reply....

oh...the flower guy...lol.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 2:26:50 AM

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LOL, Everhope! Yeah, the flower guy. Do I get a merit badge for him? Pretty sure there is one for the porn link guy and that guy with the egg...

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 4:54:11 AM

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What I find weird..in this discussion .(which is very very interesting) is the fact that we allow and let others have influence on our politiness ..in such we that we find it normal to be inpolite in return.
Polite is a positive word..lol..but still it seems to attract anger/irritation. Ofcourse there were given plenty of good examples why people don't reply....but what do people do against those nor replying? Do you report them for example?

In short; I hope we all agree that beeing polite in its core..is a good thing

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 5:17:39 AM

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Hope? That is very touching there lassie.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 5:21:01 AM

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I know...did it for you ;)

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 6:39:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

Actually I respond to about 90% of the messages I get on Collarme simply because I hope that if I can point out why their request to "submit/dom" me is inappropriate they might learn something... that's not about me being polite; that's me being my teacher self.

If someone wants to talk about something else, I always reply.

The other 10% get ignored because their message indicates to me that they would learn nothing from a reply. They are too rude, they are too insulting, or they simply and clearly are sending out multiple form letters to anyone who may have breasts.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 6:42:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

What I find weird..in this discussion .(which is very very interesting) is the fact that we allow and let others have influence on our politiness ..in such we that we find it normal to be inpolite in return.
Polite is a positive word..lol..but still it seems to attract anger/irritation. Ofcourse there were given plenty of good examples why people don't reply....but what do people do against those nor replying? Do you report them for example?

In short; I hope we all agree that beeing polite in its core..is a good thing

I do not allow others to influence whether I am polite or not. I do not find it rude to not respond to people that should not be contacting me in the first place. My choice and nothing to do with anything else. I do not respond to Double Glazing salesmen or other cold callers either.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/15/2008 6:42:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Last post on the subject and any who want to disagree can and I'm sure will. Don't really care...No response has become a response to many yet in truth you cannot reply to something by not answering it. If you call my name out and I look at you yet don't say anything I've ignored you and so there is my reply?(try that with your mom or your boss or most people on the street and see what you get back) It's rude and you know it so stop bs'ing yourself lol.

Actually if someone has looked at you, they have responded by acknowledging your presence. By not doing more than this they may either be waiting for you to continue or depending on how they look at you attempting to send a message of their own.

In meatlife, ignoring someone would be not even looking at them let alone talking or writing to them.

It's difficult to translate this into online when we can't honestly be "looking" at each other as we do in meatlife.

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