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Dwingeloo -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:12:21 AM)
I’m relatively new to this site and I’m still learning the protocols. But no matter what kind of site I’m on, I thought it would be ordinary decency to expect a reply from someone I’d been communicating with a few times if only to say, “No thanks, I don’t think it can work out.’ Or is it part of the game for emails to go unread for weeks despite pleading for a reply?

LadyAngelika -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:41:39 AM)
Maybe you'd rather read the 29 page thread for insights rather than revive a 4 month old thread? Just saying... - LA

SacreBleu -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:47:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Maybe you'd rather read the 29 page thread for insights rather than revive a 4 month old thread? Just saying... - LA I see reviving old threads as a total no win situation. If someone starts a thread they get told to go read old threads. If someone revives an old thread they get asked wtf they were doing reviving an old thread. As always when someone complains about a thread I wonder why they didn't just skip reading it, be it the topic or the poster that causes irritation. Is it just a part of human nature, to react to something that irritates rather than just ignore? I see this happen all over the forum.

sexyred1 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:52:39 AM)
I think it is because the regulars have seen every permutation of question there is and the worst questions are the ones like the OP asks, about non response. It gets a bit tiresome to always tell adults that no response, equals no interest. What else can one deduce from no response? You can try and change your profile or style of communicating but really, no one on a website is required to behave in any manner that YOU think they should, as in life, you just go with the flow here. And have little expectations, a sense of humor and then your time here could be fun, at the very least.

SacreBleu -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:55:31 AM)
Maybe. But its only a 4 month old thread! Its not like it was dredged up from 8 years ago and it a topic that had no interest. Obviously since it went to 29 pages it was something that at least SOME people thought of interest. I just dont get the hostility or the cutting attitude toward so many of the new posters here.

LadyAngelika -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:57:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SacreBleu quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Maybe you'd rather read the 29 page thread for insights rather than revive a 4 month old thread? Just saying... - LA I see reviving old threads as a total no win situation. As it should be. quote: If someone starts a thread they get told to go read old threads. If someone starts a thread they get told to go read old threads. Really? All the time? I just looked down the first page of General BDSM discussion today and that advice was not given once. I did see someone answering the OP and being told "oh and btw, there are also many disussions on this topic that might interest you". Ok, so it was a small sample but completely random! That was a pretty broad sweeping statement, no? quote: If someone revives an old thread they get asked wtf they were doing reviving an old thread. And that is what I did. It wasn't like he started a new thread, unable to find information, and then I chastized him for it. What I said was "look, there are 29 pages of information that might answer your question, right there at the click of a mouse, and you chose to restate the question to revive what was obviously a ridiculously uncessarily long debate over a very simple, one dimensional question." quote: As always when someone complains about a thread I wonder why they didn't just skip reading it, be it the topic or the poster that causes irritation. Is it just a part of human nature, to react to something that irritates rather than just ignore? I see this happen all over the forum. Same here. You'll find posts I made yesterday saying exactly that. What I was doing here was pointing out good forum etiquette. - LA

kiwisub12 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:57:50 AM)
Oh oh - theres an old thread about that too! [:D]

sexyred1 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 10:59:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SacreBleu Maybe. But its only a 4 month old thread! Its not like it was dredged up from 8 years ago and it a topic that had no interest. Obviously since it went to 29 pages it was something that at least SOME people thought of interest. I just dont get the hostility or the cutting attitude toward so many of the new posters here. Not sure where LA was hostile..in any case, if you are offended by perceived hostility on forums, it may not be a place for you.

funnelgag -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:06:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SacreBleu I just dont get the hostility or the cutting attitude toward so many of the new posters here. I totally agree with you, SacreBleu. The forum is an exceptionally hostile place. The aggressiveness, sarcasm and general rudeness puts me (and I'd imagine, many others) off from participating more. Some of the regulars would need to be taken down a peg or two - maybe a yellow card/red card system might be useful.

DomMeinCT -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:07:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SacreBleu quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Maybe you'd rather read the 29 page thread for insights rather than revive a 4 month old thread? Just saying... - LA I see reviving old threads as a total no win situation. If someone starts a thread they get told to go read old threads. If someone revives an old thread they get asked wtf they were doing reviving an old thread. As always when someone complains about a thread I wonder why they didn't just skip reading it, be it the topic or the poster that causes irritation. Is it just a part of human nature, to react to something that irritates rather than just ignore? I see this happen all over the forum. I'm answering this with no intent to be snarky or short, but simply to respond to the limitations you posed in the bold text above. There is actually a 3rd path: do no posting and simply read the existing and extensive thread - but it only works if someone accepts that a new thread isn't needed, nor revival of the existing and extensively-beaten topic is needed.

sappatoti -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:09:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dwingeloo I’m relatively new to this site and I’m still learning the protocols. But no matter what kind of site I’m on, I thought it would be ordinary decency to expect a reply from someone I’d been communicating with a few times if only to say, “No thanks, I don’t think it can work out.’ Or is it part of the game for emails to go unread for weeks despite pleading for a reply? As many posts in this thread have stated, sometimes the non-reply is the final reply, taken to mean "no longer interested." Having written that, I can understand if the conversation had been going along for some time and there was no indication of anything going awry with it, the lack of receiving that expected reply in the fashion and timing of what had become customary for the conversation could be somewhat disheartening. Perhaps something has happened to the other person and/or their ability to access their email system(s)? If you have any other contact info, such as a postal address or phone number, you may wish to write or call the other to find out what's going on. Perhaps the other person no longer has an account with their usual email system and, because neither of you exchanged other email addresses or contact methods with each other, has no way of informing you of the change. There could be any number of reasons why the other person hasn't responded, including the possibility they became bored or suspect with the direction the conversation was taking and simply chose to no longer respond. That's one of the frustrations of building a relationship online; you can never be sure of what exactly is going on in the other's mind or thoughts, or perhaps even physical condition.

OsideGirl -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:10:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT There is actually a 3rd path: do no posting and simply read the existing and extensive thread - but it only works if someone accepts that a new thread isn't needed, nor revival of the existing and extensively-beaten topic is needed. Ahhhh....the voice of reason. To simply stop beating the dead horse and read what has been written.

EbonyWood -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:11:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: funnelgag Some of the regulars would need to be taken down a peg or two - maybe a yellow card/red card system might be useful. 'Taken down a peg or two' sounds hostile to me, which you are railing against. If you don't like something, report it. The Moderators will do their job. Otherwise participation isn't mandatory.

sexyred1 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:13:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: funnelgag quote: ORIGINAL: SacreBleu I just dont get the hostility or the cutting attitude toward so many of the new posters here. I totally agree with you, SacreBleu. The forum is an exceptionally hostile place. The aggressiveness, sarcasm and general rudeness puts me (and I'd imagine, many others) off from participating more. Some of the regulars would need to be taken down a peg or two - maybe a yellow card/red card system might be useful. [sm=rofl.gif] Try implementing that system, sparky!

NihilusZero -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:21:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT There is actually a 3rd path: do no posting and simply read the existing and extensive thread - but it only works if someone accepts that a new thread isn't needed, nor revival of the existing and extensively-beaten topic is needed. "Isn't needed"? What's the actual downside? LuckyAlbatross used to be fantastic in these situations. She would just reply with a handful of links to places where the topic had similarly been discussed. The entire point of a message forum (as opposed to any regular website) is the ability to interact with other posters and make a discussion personal. Admonishing someone for starting a thread that's familiar to you or admonishing them for adding their own curiosities to an older thread doesn't do that.

LadyAngelika -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:24:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT There is actually a 3rd path: do no posting and simply read the existing and extensive thread - but it only works if someone accepts that a new thread isn't needed, nor revival of the existing and extensively-beaten topic is needed. Ahhhh....the voice of reason. To simply stop beating the dead horse and read what has been written. I guess you missed the part where I discussed seeing this as an opportunity to tell a new comer about good forum etiquette. Ok, in hindsight, I admit, I could have added a "and welcome to the boards". - LA

LadyAngelika -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:25:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EbonyWood quote: ORIGINAL: funnelgag Some of the regulars would need to be taken down a peg or two - maybe a yellow card/red card system might be useful. 'Taken down a peg or two' sounds hostile to me, which you are railing against. If you don't like something, report it. The Moderators will do their job. Otherwise participation isn't mandatory. Yeah EW. This from the dude who spams Dommes with his new website asking us to look at it. - LA

funnelgag -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:25:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 [sm=rofl.gif] Try implementing that system, sparky! I rest my case, your honor.

VeryMercurial -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:26:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT There is actually a 3rd path: do no posting and simply read the existing and extensive thread - but it only works if someone accepts that a new thread isn't needed, nor revival of the existing and extensively-beaten topic is needed. "Isn't needed"? What's the actual downside? LuckyAlbatross used to be fantastic in these situations. She would just reply with a handful of links to places where the topic had similarly been discussed. The entire point of a message forum (as opposed to any regular website) is the ability to interact with other posters and make a discussion personal. Admonishing someone for starting a thread that's familiar to you or admonishing them for adding their own curiosities to an older thread doesn't do that. This is how I feel also, and if you are "tired" of a topic, just don't answer it. No one is forced to answer threads they are not interested in.

sexyred1 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (1/31/2010 11:27:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: funnelgag quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 [sm=rofl.gif] Try implementing that system, sparky! I rest my case, your honor. You have no case. You can't handle the grown up party? Go sit at the kiddie's table. Play nice now.

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