seaturtle50
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Recently had a 9 year relationship with my nilla gf and fiancee end. I had it pegged absolutely. Even knew who the other guy was. But I allowed her to get me to doubt my own inner voice (my inner voice does not lie to me). She managed to "throw me off the trail" for a while - but it was soon over. she lives with him now. Had said "I will NEVER date him."
The sad part was that because of her attempt to "trick" me, to deliberatly try to get me to doubt myself, I lost my best friend. (My friends do not treat me that way). I could understand her falling for someone else. I could even have loved and supported her through the transition. And we could have been friends for life.
Sad, that loss. I responded to you because near the end I did the whole phone thing too. Yes - it does feel so terrible while doing it, does it not? The thing is ... I was right about exactly what was going on, and I did ask her about it, several times.
When she continued to lie to me and to mislead me - that drove me to dig deeper and deeper. Till I had her phone in my hand one late night. 
I would say this to you. No matter what is going on, it will all come out in time. The truth will never be denied. I did notice my GF often talking about this man, in the context of her friends interactions with him. In effect she was "telling" me. Listen to what he talks about. He may do the same.
She was completly honest and faithful to me right up until the very end when she was not 
Try your best to maintain your own dignity through out this process. In the end you may be very glad that you did.
Best regards
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