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no reply - 12/8/2005 10:58:43 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		just a question for the mistresses...

why is it that when someone takes the time to write to you,
you give no reply?

now i know the most obvious answer is likely to be, oh he was disrespectful! or he was after one thing!!

i want to know what a mistress considers disrespectful?
isnt simply ignoring someones email disrespectful?
i just want to understand why some of you women ignore someone who is trying to communicate with you?
its not fair to judge someone before you at least exchange a few emails and if the guy is after something you arent prepared to do
why not just write back and say so?
unless you are so full of yourselves and really believe you are superior and expect people to kiss your arse to get a reply out of you?

it just really pisses me off big time
and im getting to think that most of you women are prick teasers and when it comes to it you aint dominant at all
your only power is to ignore and block people from communicating with you.
and dont tell me noone in this forum cannot relate to what i am saying?
i think this so called lifestyle sucks big time and the reason for that is the non communicating, prick teasing fakers.
i dont care whoever disagrees with me, that is the way i feel and im entitled to my opinion..just dont say my point aint true.
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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:05:26 AM   
KatyLied


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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:10:15 AM   
Krasnaya


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Status: offline 		The only time that ignoring a message is rude is as if they asked you for it. You can't really demand attention from someone who doesn't want yours. Just a thought.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:11:40 AM   
AbstractSavant


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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:16:58 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I reply to evey email I get, whether its appropriate or not--and yes I can see you have a perception---"perception is reality and reality is an important concept" ro so people think

that said, your profile indicates you are a Dom seeking slaves, since Mistress's don't fit that category, why would We respond? There are plenty of other sites especially in Europe that you could make use of instead of as well...

I think this so called lifestyle sucks big time and the reason for that is the non communicating, prick teasing fakers.


So it safe to assume you will be leaving the "life"?




< Message edited by MHOO314 -- 12/8/2005 11:19:27 AM >

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:18:23 AM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		There are SO many reasons for this, I can't even name them all.

If you use the search function and search for soemthing like "no reply" you'll get, at least, 20 threads on this.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:20:02 AM   
Cloudz


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Status: offline 		I respond to all appropriate emails. I would also wonder why you are writing to female Doms if you seek full time slaves? That may be an answer to your question.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:20:57 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		if someone takes the time to write to you, you should write back even if its to say sorry but no thanks.
to ignore someone who is trying to communicate with you is rude.
it doesnt take much effort to type a few words and leave it at that.
when you choose to ignore its unfair and leaves the person feeling confused, as if they have said something in a foreign language.

why cherry-pick the replies that suit you and ignore the others?
it dont cost a thing to reply, so why hold back?


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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:23:34 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		yes i am leaving

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:28:41 AM   
Krasnaya


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Status: offline 		If someone doesn't reply theres obviously nothing there so don't be so worried. It just means they aren't interested. Many people here have lots to go through in their emails and honestly don't want to take the time to say thanks but no thanks to every person that sent a basic hello to anyone they found that has a similar interest.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:33:20 AM   
darkinshadows


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quote:

it just really pisses me off big time
and im getting to think that most of you women are prick teasers and when it comes to it you aint dominant at all
your only power is to ignore and block people from communicating with you.
and dont tell me noone in this forum cannot relate to what i am saying?
i think this so called lifestyle sucks big time and the reason for that is the non communicating, prick teasing fakers.
i dont care whoever disagrees with me, that is the way i feel and im entitled to my opinion..just dont say my point aint true.


I am confused by this. You are a dominant - at least that is how your profile relates. The whole profile is about a slave search - yet you are contacting Female Dominants? This could be a major factor on why you are gaining no response. Without knowledge of what you are writing, your complaint is vague.
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if someone takes the time to write to you, you should write back even if its to say sorry but no thanks.
to ignore someone who is trying to communicate with you is rude.
it doesnt take much effort to type a few words and leave it at that.
when you choose to ignore its unfair and leaves the person feeling confused, as if they have said something in a foreign language.

why cherry-pick the replies that suit you and ignore the others?
it dont cost a thing to reply, so why hold back?


Because nobody owes you anything. Again, without knowing your initial posts, its is too vague to respond apart from that even politeness is not owed. If I write to someone, I do not expect anything. Some people are inundated, especially women - sub/slave or Dominant. Maybe you do not fit their criteria. They don't have to write to tell you that and no matter how your morals or politeness code is - others will be different. Maybe they are unsure why you are bothering to contact them? People tend to be wary. I hope this helps explain possible reasons and helps you contemplate.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:35:59 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		i am arguing from the sub male side...in the past i advertised as a sub and i made no rude suggestions etc and i got no reply?
and then when i write to ask why i was blocked?

i dont understand why some mistresses do that?
its very rude and childish and suggests the mistress has a problem communicating.

i mean if it cost 50 dollars or pounds to reply to each person i would understand, but it cost nothing to respond!
i bet there must be many a male sub and female that come up against non communicating masters and mistreses.
i mean the other day i wrote to a woman who i thought was doing a fine job as a domme and she wrote back and gave me all this attitude!!
oh im not a domme!! and i wont reply unless i am addressed correctly!!
and all i said was well done and keep up the good work!!
and when i tried to apologize and explain she blocked me!!
if that isnt a childish attitude i dont know what is?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:36:19 AM   
truesub4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

yes i am leaving




too bad.. so sad...

I understand your frustrations. But you need to understand that not every thinks like you on having e-mails replied to. I get on average 5 e-mails a day, be it from the same ones. or new ones. I can't always think of a quick response to one. So i wait to answer.

What I like, is the e-mails i get telling me they liked my journals, or a nice compliment on my pic. I don't want every one of my e-mails to be Doms wanting something. I get e-mails from other female subs, and switches as well. Because I don't answer one doesn't mean i'm being rude. I just don't have time, words, oh hell.. energy. Sometimes i like to be lazy and not answer one. And yes, time does go by and I forget to answer it. And it gets deleted when i take out the trash in my e-mails. Still doesn't mean I MENT TO BE RUDE!

Still don't understand why you lashed out at the Dommes only?... One would think you would of gotten less e-mails from subs... with that attitude

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:37:27 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		If someone has not clearly payed attention to my profile and contacted me anyway I ignore their emails. It's not rude it's my right. I'd say it's rude of the people sending the email to waste my time by trying to contact me when they have not payed attention at all to what was said in profile.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:40:25 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		good point
but if they aint interested why cant they say so ?
is it so unreasonable to expect a reply?

if you ask someone the time of day, wouldnt you expect a reply?

its common courtesy to answer when one is spoken to and it costs nothing.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:41:35 AM   
MHOO314


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

i am arguing from the sub male side...in the past i advertised as a sub and i made no rude suggestions etc and i got no reply?
and then when i write to ask why i was blocked?




You are writing from the past? I suggest you bring your reference to more of the present and stop generalizing----people are people, if you walk up to a woman in a public place, speak to her and she walks away, are all women then "teases" because she happens to be in the same place you are and has chose not to speak---

a dose of reality here is what's needed---and after all you are now a " Dom" so why the issue?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:43:41 AM   
truesub4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

good point
but if they aint interested why cant they say so ?
is it so unreasonable to expect a reply?

if you ask someone the time of day, wouldnt you expect a reply?

its common courtesy to answer when one is spoken to and it costs nothing.



as God put breath in my lungs.. he also gave me the right to not reply to a damn e-mail!

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:44:57 AM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

good point
but if they aint interested why cant they say so ?
is it so unreasonable to expect a reply?

if you ask someone the time of day, wouldnt you expect a reply?

its common courtesy to answer when one is spoken to and it costs nothing.


As an experiment I responded to all the sub emails I got even if it was a polite, "No thank you."
About 50% of them wrote back and said "Why not? Can you tell me?" So, is it rude again if I don't answer that one? And if I answer that and say "We just aren't compatible" and he writes back and goes, "Why? Can you tell me more?" am I rude for not responding? Some guys KEEP WRITING until you don't respond, or they get rude.

If I have 5 minutes to go online and check emails, I would rather spend that time writing to someone I feel a connection with, not sending oneliners to subs when half of them will just keep writing to me because they see it is an open invitation to a DIALOGUE and are far more offended if I stop responding after that.

Complain to the other "subs" that are rude and don't take no for an answer when you are looking for a reason why some femdoms don't reply to all emails.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:50:22 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It's not rude to ignore spam. And that's exactly what an unrequested email is.

I pick the replies that suit me because that's what I prefer to do, it saves me time and energy.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:55:03 AM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		yes i do apologize that i didnt point out that at one time i did advertise as a sub and when i took the time to write to mistresses i just kept getting blanked and blocked and without any explaination.

after a while it becomes frustrating and disheartening and i guess that is why i gave up being sub and switched to dom and you know what?
im finding the same thing is happening.
so with alot of sadness i have come to the conclusion that this lifestyle is not for me..im like a piece of jigsaw that just wont fit and a man has to face facts when something just aint working.
i switched to being domme because i just felt that for some reason noone wanted to take me on as a trainee slave.
part of me still wants to be a slave to a good mistress but man im really tired of trying and getting nowhere fast.
i dont know whether its because im black?
im not accusing mistresses of being racist but i have noticed there are a hell of alot of white sub males and very few if any black sub males.
ive also noticed that alot of sub white guys dig black mistresses dominating them, and alot of black mistresses specifically ask for white male subs only to the point of excluding any black guys who are sub.
i just dont understand ?
are black male subs undesirable? or do you prefer dominant black men ?

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