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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:50:40 PM   
blackdomuk


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Status: offline 		yes i realise that my profile is quite extreme and thats likely why i get no replies?
this is why i like communication or feedback because its given me something to think about and perhaps change too.

really my bark is worser than my bite!!
im quite shy in person and made the mistake of putting on a hard exterior to hide my shy sensitive side.

all in all i dont think this is the lifestyle for me cause im too demanding and too sensitive.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:51:42 PM   
williebdenied


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Status: offline 		I'd like to add that in many cases the profile clearly states that the person is looking for subs (or whatever), and then goes on to provide a list of characteristics that they want...that does not fall under the definition of unsolicited mail - in my opinion - if you respond to that. (If you don't want emails - say so in your profile)

So when someone sends an email under those circumstances, indicating that they feel like a match for that person, wouldn't at least a polite reply be warranted?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:52:42 PM   
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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:54:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: williebdenied

I'd like to add that in many cases the profile clearly states that the person is looking for subs (or whatever), and then goes on to provide a list of characteristics that they want...that does not fall under the definition of unsolicited mail - in my opinion - if you respond to that. (If you don't want emails - say so in your profile)

So when someone sends an email under those circumstances, indicating that they feel like a match for that person, wouldn't at least a polite reply be warranted?


No.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:55:00 PM   
blackdomuk


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quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u


quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

ok me too
but if someone has taken the time to write to you, dont you think they deserve a reply?




If I write someone... No.. I do NOT think.. I DESERVE a reply... to recieve one.. would be great.. But I DESERVE nothing just because I sent a little.. "hey how you doing " note to anyone.. to think that I do DESERVE a reply.. would make me out to be an idiot, self centered, egotistic Dumb Shit( no-way!!!)


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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:58:33 PM   
williebdenied


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ORIGINAL: darkangel

No.


to each his own.

I guess common courtesy & simple human decency isn't practiced as often as it should be in the vanilla world; why should it be practiced in this one.

< Message edited by williebdenied -- 12/8/2005 12:59:37 PM >

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:58:52 PM   
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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:03:00 PM   
LadySonelle


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Status: offline 		There are some emails I don't reply to, but very few... I try to reply to all. That includes some like the following actual examples I have gotten:

"Ho! u want a good slv 24/7?"

"Mistress plz let me b ur doggy slave u can keep me caged 24/7 please"

"i'm your slave. Write me!"

or those who CLEARLY do not read My profile! Amazing! I reply to the slaves wanting Me to train, house, cage and keep them as nonworking pets. One persistent fellow kept on pestering and IMing Me begging Me to "take care of me like I was your doggy." and when I told him he would have to follow My guidelines as set out on My site, he whined "But Mistress, I could be your whore! You could sell me to other mistresses!' "No!" "Buuut wwwhhhyyyyyy nnnnnnnnnnnnooooottttt???" "Because I cannot AFFORD a "dog" who won't follow My commands. I was CLEAR with him that I could not afford to own a dog who did not work but was kept caged and walked on a leash (what's in that for ME??) but he never wavered in his determination that I should support him! I finally had to block him and he probably wonders to this day why I was "rude" or a "prick teasrer" to him!

As for the idea of racism, I acknowledge and am combatting the racism I was brought up with. I have not had a long term Blaxk slave but I have scened with two wonderful Black submissive persons, one male one Female and have 8 or 9 Black telephone submissives and I would *leap* at the chance to have a RT long term Black slave!

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:04:55 PM   
truesub4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Okay, I want extra butter on my popcorn.



Well if veronica ever gets back with those martinis ...... we'll send out for the extra butter

MHOO... seen those martinis yet either?... lol

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:05:54 PM   
blackdomuk


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thanks for your advice...you are perfectly right..i have little experience in being dom and the way i wrote my profile makes it obvious.

the truth is i do want to learn about the lifestyle and try out both sides sub and dom and see which one suits me.
i guess ive got a bit frustrated at the little progress i have made.
ive never been to a munch, i dont even know what one is?
so what im saying is(and i should have said this from the start)is that i would like to make friends with people in the uk who can in a sense show me the ropes.
once i learn that then im sure things will change for the better.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:08:03 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		I was raised to be polite. Answer the phone. Open the bills when they come and pay them on time. Answer letters. Common courtesy. And when someone emails me with common courtesy, I will reply, even if it's a "thanks, but I don't think I'm what you're looking for." Always.

If, however, someone approaches me with an email stating "I want to lick your...", I don't consider that common courtesy, and delete it forthwith, no reply. They don't *deserve* the courtesy of a reply, unless it be a "get lost" which is 1) basically a waste of my time, and 2) is probably what they are expecting or needing, and get off on that, so why accomodate the wannawankers?

quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

just a question for the mistresses...

why is it that when someone takes the time to write to you,
you give no reply?

now i know the most obvious answer is likely to be, oh he was disrespectful! or he was after one thing!!

i want to know what a mistress considers disrespectful?
isnt simply ignoring someones email disrespectful?
i just want to understand why some of you women ignore someone who is trying to communicate with you?
its not fair to judge someone before you at least exchange a few emails and if the guy is after something you arent prepared to do
why not just write back and say so?
unless you are so full of yourselves and really believe you are superior and expect people to kiss your arse to get a reply out of you?

it just really pisses me off big time
and im getting to think that most of you women are prick teasers and when it comes to it you aint dominant at all
your only power is to ignore and block people from communicating with you.
and dont tell me noone in this forum cannot relate to what i am saying?
i think this so called lifestyle sucks big time and the reason for that is the non communicating, prick teasing fakers.
i dont care whoever disagrees with me, that is the way i feel and im entitled to my opinion..just dont say my point aint true.




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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:14:02 PM   
blackdomuk


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadySonelle

There are some emails I don't reply to, but very few... I try to reply to all. That includes some like the following actual examples I have gotten:

"Ho! u want a good slv 24/7?"

"Mistress plz let me b ur doggy slave u can keep me caged 24/7 please"

"i'm your slave. Write me!"

or those who CLEARLY do not read My profile! Amazing! I reply to the slaves wanting Me to train, house, cage and keep them as nonworking pets. One persistent fellow kept on pestering and IMing Me begging Me to "take care of me like I was your doggy." and when I told him he would have to follow My guidelines as set out on My site, he whined "But Mistress, I could be your whore! You could sell me to other mistresses!' "No!" "Buuut wwwhhhyyyyyy nnnnnnnnnnnnooooottttt???" "Because I cannot AFFORD a "dog" who won't follow My commands. I was CLEAR with him that I could not afford to own a dog who did not work but was kept caged and walked on a leash (what's in that for ME??) but he never wavered in his determination that I should support him! I finally had to block him and he probably wonders to this day why I was "rude" or a "prick teasrer" to him!

As for the idea of racism, I acknowledge and am combatting the racism I was brought up with. I have not had a long term Blaxk slave but I have scened with two wonderful Black submissive persons, one male one Female and have 8 or 9 Black telephone submissives and I would *leap* at the chance to have a RT long term Black slave!

Lady Sonelle

i understand what you are saying 100%.
us guys need to understand that the mistress has to get some satisfaction.
and what use is a slave if he or she is caged night and day?
slaves have to be flexible.
and lastly its good to hear a mistress say she would leap at the chance of having a realtime lt black slave!!

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:14:39 PM   
darkinshadows


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quote:

ORIGINAL: williebdenied

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkangel

No.


to each his own.

I guess common courtesy & simple human decency isn't practiced as often as it should be in the vanilla world; why should it be practiced in this one.


Commen courtesy or human decency has nothing to do with it. If you knock on someones door - do they have to answer? Courtesy or decency suggests familiarity... which does not exist in strangers. In essence it is you who is not showing decency by invading someones private space and expecting a response. No response is the response. Whilst it may not be part of your morals or ethics to not respond, you should not expect everyone to have the same morals or ethics as yourself... if they do not respond, then you already know your not compatable - so move forward and learn from the occurence. Do not dwell on what will not be - it leads only to disappointment and negativity.

Peace and Love

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:18:57 PM   
truesub4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: williebdenied

I'd like to add that in many cases the profile clearly states that the person is looking for subs (or whatever), and then goes on to provide a list of characteristics that they want...that does not fall under the definition of unsolicited mail - in my opinion - if you respond to that. (If you don't want emails - say so in your profile)

So when someone sends an email under those circumstances, indicating that they feel like a match for that person, wouldn't at least a polite reply be warranted?


Ok so when I respond to a e-mail, that i'm not interested. And then they completely ignore that and insist I talk to them. I go into ignore mode.... and that make me rude????

I'm one of the most rudest people on here then. Because I don't respond well, or politely, to people in general, who try to push themselves on me and demmand I respond. I will be polite in my first response. But only if the first e-mail was a polite one as well. The "Hey Baby, I'm Your Master!" will not even get a F***K Off from me.


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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:19:26 PM   
brightspot


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good point
but if they aint interested why cant they say so ?
is it so unreasonable to expect a reply?


When thay don't reply they ARE saying so

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:23:25 PM   
darkinshadows


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A munch is a group or meeting in an informal setting where people who are involved in BDSM get to meet and chat about BDSM and other things... there isnt usually a dress code and it is in a public setting - usually a bar or restaurant so that no one feels obliged to do anything. Its relaxed and usually friendly... depending on the group...lol.

Parties can be private or public... these have their own codes that can be found out by contacting those that run it.

There are lots in the UK and you are near enough to London. I am sure there must be somewhere in Wembley - have you had a look on IC?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 1:35:19 PM   
talmar


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Status: offline 		I think it has probably happened to all of us. What sort of annoys me is when people say they are looking for kinky friends & that they reply to everyone & then they still don't respond. That baffles me. And in my opinion is bad form.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 2:07:26 PM   
Tazgirlx


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Status: offline 		While I understand your confusion and frustration blackdomuk, this issue isn't uncommon. I hear it time and again from friends trying to communicate or connect on any number of boards or sites, Match.com, Yahoo Personals, BDSM communities, you name it. Part of the intrigue of internet communique' is the anonymity of it all. Its so easy to just do nothing and not have to see, hear, feel another's response. Who knows why? With the enormous decline of etiquette in person, one can only expect that it would be twofold online. All I know is its a very common issue.
Cheers, Taz

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 2:17:37 PM   
AbstractSavant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It's not rude to ignore spam. And that's exactly what an unrequested email is.

I pick the replies that suit me because that's what I prefer to do, it saves me time and energy.


Ditto.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 2:20:15 PM   
AbstractSavant


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ORIGINAL: blackdomuk

yes i do apologize that i didnt point out that at one time i did advertise as a sub and when i took the time to write to mistresses i just kept getting blanked and blocked and without any explaination.

after a while it becomes frustrating and disheartening and i guess that is why i gave up being sub and switched to dom and you know what?
im finding the same thing is happening.
so with alot of sadness i have come to the conclusion that this lifestyle is not for me..im like a piece of jigsaw that just wont fit and a man has to face facts when something just aint working.
i switched to being domme because i just felt that for some reason noone wanted to take me on as a trainee slave.
part of me still wants to be a slave to a good mistress but man im really tired of trying and getting nowhere fast.
i dont know whether its because im black?
im not accusing mistresses of being racist but i have noticed there are a hell of alot of white sub males and very few if any black sub males.
ive also noticed that alot of sub white guys dig black mistresses dominating them, and alot of black mistresses specifically ask for white male subs only to the point of excluding any black guys who are sub.
i just dont understand ?
are black male subs undesirable? or do you prefer dominant black men ?



I prefer men who aren't glaringly insecure who switch their orientation on a whim to get kinky pussy.

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