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wandersalone -> RE: Dom with vanilla tendencies, or vice versa? (10/15/2008 3:25:52 AM)
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Firstly welcome to the forums Bound21.... it is always good to have another Aussie here. [:)]
My first reaction on reading your posts is to gently suggest that you stop looking so hard for the right match.... sometimes (and I speak from experience) we get so caught up in finding the perfect person who ticks all our boxes that we totally bypass all of the fantastic people right in front of us.
Yes it can be frustrating to be a sub and not in a relationship, just as frustrating as I imagine it is if you are a domme. dom, switch, martian or any other orientation.
I stopped looking externally for the perfect dom and have instead focussed on personal development, working on aspects of myself that I felt could do with a little fine tuning so that I can be the best person possible for someone else. My experience has been that by letting go of my expectations and time frames my own life is so much more enjoyable and yes....I am now attracting many people into my life who I guess are recognising the work I have done internally.
The forums give you a fantastic opportunity to obtain lots of different opinions and the great thing is that you can discard or keep them, use the forums to inform you but not to dictate to you if possible and I am sure you will do well.
All the best.
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