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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 5:45:21 PM

LilWhiteWolf

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Bravo cravin ...smiling. sometimes that is the best way to wade through who is real and who is just a player. if they can't understand your apprehension about not meeting in a private place the first time and reply with an email like that horse's ass did...well you saved yourself time and possibly injury.
and thank you for sharing that...hugs

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 6:07:27 PM

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Nicely done :) And with such decorum too.

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 6:26:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin

I DID tell him NO, for several reasons.

Good choice, cravin!

His response back to you is proof too, that you did the right thing.

Stay safe.
K

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 6:34:05 PM

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i am sooo happy you didn't meet with this guy... and he is just a guy, a REAL Dom would be totally understanding of your rightful concerns ... i wish more subs could read and follow your example .... thank for sharing....

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 7:02:44 PM

Krasnaya

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Well everyone else has said it already but since it can't be said enough...

You are a lady with class who obviously deserves better. I'm just glad you knew that and didn't let that creep lay a hand on you.

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 7:14:31 PM

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I certainly agree that the OP was not comfortable, followed her instincts, and unfolding events proved she chose wisely.

I am little concerned with the idea that any Dom that wants to meet with a sub in a private location is more likely to be a dangerous psycopath than any typical male that wants to meet a chick in a private location. (I am getting gender specific here, which I normally try and avoid.) I have several well meaning friends that completel panic any time I meet anyone that I "found off the Internet" or met through any swinger or bdsm type event. Yet these same girls will pick up a man at a bar and head to his house or take him back to her place without much thought.

I am veering off topic, but it seems that we (the general we) are believing our own bad press. I am always an advocate for safety, common sense, and good judgment. But is the fact that he identifes as a Dom and she a submissive any more cause for alarm? Do we subconsciously believe what some suggest - that those involved with the bdsm lifestyle are unstable, unhealthy, be-careful-of-them freaks?

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/8/2005 7:42:57 PM

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you are soooo sick, LOL 55 gallon allows for body bloat and its the size we use in our chemical dumps---scary huh===

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/9/2005 4:50:03 AM

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Welcome to the online wold of people pretending to know about D/s (and BDSM). I think it's obvious that this man you were taliking with is NOT a Dom; probably knows what little he does from online.

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RE: 1st meeting with Dom - My answer to him - 12/9/2005 5:02:26 AM

LadyJulieAnn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRobert1

Welcome to the online wold of people pretending to know about D/s (and BDSM). I think it's obvious that this man you were taliking with is NOT a Dom; probably knows what little he does from online.

There are plenty of people offline who pretend to know about D/s as well. Starting out by using online sources to learn something about the lifestyle doesn't negate the knowledge gained in that manner.

Be well,
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