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housemouse61 -> RE: Stating attachent (10/14/2008 4:23:02 PM)
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Like Master, i also prefer to keep my private life just that...private. my statement regarding His ownership in my profile is at His direction. But, i suspect anyO/one paying attention could probably figure it out w/o that statement, as well. In real time associations, i am quite proud to say that W/we are a C/couple and all of O/our F/friends know that this has been a truth for a number of years now. And i know that Master feels the same although He's not nearly as mushy about it. ;-) When it comes to P/people i have dealings with only on line; i'm pretty much a "nunya" kinda girl. As far as other Dominants or even submissive males; it doesn't seem to make much difference in this venue, anyway. Even with the statement of Master's ownership; T/they still hit on me like a pinata. LOL
As to the issue of why Dominants may choose not to mention attachment to another in Their profiles; i don't quite buy into the "maybe He's/She's poly" theory. To me that seems to be an excuse for dishonesty by omission. No reason to not disclose an already in place relationship in Their profile if it's already been established that He/She is poly or even in an open relationship. i can more readily accept a "nunya bizness until you *need* to know or until I *want* you know" stance in this regard. Obviously, that's not the kind of statement One would want to include in Their profile unless They're looking to sabotage the possibility of adding to Their household. If you understand my meaning.
If someO/one i know real time is "hiding" a relationship; i'd just have to wonder how long that relationship is going to last. Dishonesty and deception are death blows to any relationship. Sometimes a very slow and painful death, at that. Not to mention that it's just plain unfair to everyO/one involved...even the Dominant, Him/Herself, in some ways. (An awful lot of stress and trouble just to "have Your cake and eat it too".) But, some get off on "playing the game".
i'm all about openness and honesty in a relationship and i'm lucky enough to have a Master who makes it easy to accomplish just that on both sides of the whip. Still doesn't mean everyB/body needs to know O/our relationship business, though. ;-)
Just a few of my thoughts on the subject. And as Dennis Miller said, "That's just my opinion; i could be wrong."
Peace favor and blessed be.
nikki
Property of Cruel Desires
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