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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/17/2008 3:32:49 PM

anamericaninfife

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Okay, everybody...I get the point. No need to hammer me on my page, as it's changed now. Back to the original question: What makes for a good profile???

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/17/2008 3:53:16 PM

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So, honestly there A, people really were just trying to be helpful. While you got a bit of snark in some of the comments, it was light, and when someone asks about profiles - in general or specific - people will read the authors and respond to it. It is as natural as breathing. So maybe a bit sensitive especially in light that these are strangers on the Internet - what you got was decidedly polite. Welcome to the forum, BTW.

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/18/2008 12:46:18 AM

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read my profile sometime, mebbe u'll get the idea, LOL

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/18/2008 7:51:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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And the whole bit about not being willing to contact people first, might turn a lot of girls off. Of course this is your option, but you may want to consider that the approach of adding them to your favorites, then basically saying "I won't contact you. It's your place to contact me because I've shown you my interest by putting you in my favorites" comes off like a very passive aggressive approach. Think about it: You read someone's profile and they are of interest to you, and instead of writing and directly telling them you're interested, you are saying, "I've added you to my favorites because I'm interested in talking to you, but I'm not willing to initiate contact to tell you why I'm interested". That might come across not only as "off-putting" to a lot of females, but also like you lack initiative.

I whole-heartedly agree with this. This says to me that you're just sitting back expecting subs to come begging you to take them on. I know, you're probably afraid of contacting someone and being shot down, but that just comes with the territory here. One way to minimize that is to read the profiles (I'm not suggesting that you don't, I'm just saying in a general sense) and only contact the ones who sound as though they'd be compatible with the type of person you are and what your wants and needs are. A flattering photo helps, too.

You can have the greatest profile in the world, but it's not about attracting attention, it's KEEPING the attention after the profile is read. And, it takes time, lots of time, a whole lot of precious time. And patience.

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/18/2008 9:40:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: anamericaninfife

Okay, everybody...I get the point. No need to hammer me on my page, as it's changed now. Back to the original question: What makes for a good profile???

A good profile is not too long, not too short.
A good profile shows personality...so make it humorous, witty, intellectual..,whatever suits you.
A good profile never complains.
A good profile explains what is being sought...as in LTR, or play partner, or whatever.
A good profile shows that you are human. You can't do BDSM all day long, so tell about the activities that make your day rock.

I saw the quotes about how you required that a sub write to you first...even though I'm getting the very much shortened version of your profile now. That was a bad idea, at least equal to sending a cmail that says only "hi" and probably a bit lower than that.

The first Dom who attracted me sent a great first note. He discussed his garden. Gardening is one of my interests and was in my profile. We spent a couple months connecting in areas that were not kink before being able to meet. We didn't click for a LTR, however, he, Gary, me, and his sub are all great friends to this day...chatting on phone, and meeting south in Yuma for part of the winter. We visit each others' homes several times a year even though we don't live in the same states.

Please don't depend on Collarme as your sole way of finding a submissive. I met Gary at a kinky camping trip. Most couples I know met in places other than kinky sites like Collarme.

Good luck.

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/19/2008 6:23:56 PM

subsong

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One that clearly shows personality, a sense of humor , and most of all - sincerity .

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RE: What makes for a good profile??? - 10/19/2008 9:31:12 PM

moonvine

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A good profile is one that appeals to the person you want to attract. If it attracts a bunch of interest from people you don't have interest in, that may be gratifying but isn't really useful. I haven't figured out how to write one yet:)

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