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Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond to ... - 10/17/2008 10:19:25 AM

Blaakmaan

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Greetings:

I'm curious: When a Dominant or Master that you've never communicated with before contacts you, do you read his or her profile before you respond?

I don't know about other Dominants, but I put important information about me in my profile, and the reason I put that information UP FRONT is so it will weed out the submissives who are not interested in or compatible with me and my particular circumstances. I actually put some small amount of time into writing my profile, to give some indication of who I am, what I want, and what my situation is--and I appreciate it when it's read.

Not to mention, it's a waste of my time (and theirs) to begin conversations with people who ultimately aren't interested in or compatible with me.

Thanks to all who respond!

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:42:19 AM

ilovepink

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yes i do, unles the mail they sent me is rude or the same one they sent to all my girlfriends here :)

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:44:55 AM

JustDarkness

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovepink

yes i do, unles the mail they sent me is rude or the same one they sent to all my girlfriends here :)

if He would send you and your girlfriends different ones..you would fight...and be jealous :P
the uniformity has the goal to make one not feel more special then the other

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:47:42 AM

missturbation

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Do i hellers like!

Just recently and i have no idea why i have been recieving 20 - 30 offers a day and i just don't have the time to read all those profiles.

Besides i'm too busy plaiting snot

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:47:54 AM

IrishMist

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quote:

I'm curious: When a Dominant or Master that you've never communicated with before contacts you, do you read his or her profile before you respond?

Yes I do. What they have in their profile usually determines whether or not I answer them nicely, or whether I just delete the email unread ( yes, I always look at the profile before I read the email )

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:49:16 AM

Subductrssss

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Yes I do read the profile before I respond, as it does give me information about the person and our compatabilities, the more information the better for me to determine if I would be wasting the person's time or if a polite decline is applicable or if a more interested response is called for. I admire the OP and O/others who do put the time and effort into T/their profiles to make the "match" more clear.

Those who do not have profiles or have very short ones or those who tell me nothing about themselves, it really depends on how they approached me but more often than not I will respond first and foremost to those with profiles and try to make mine as personal and as "me" as I can.

Good Topic and Thank You

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 10:57:22 AM

WyredWraith

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I usually do... and it also relates to whether I respond or not... and if I do in what way.

I sometimes look at the 'one liner' comments but mostly just delete those as being too rude to bother with.

Mostly... if the approach is a nice one... then most definitely yes.

Conversely - I have a very complete profile... but it doesn't stop people asking to own, or be owned by, me. Does that mean most/some people who write do not read the profile of the person they're writing to?

lw

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 11:22:42 AM

apiercedkitty

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It totally depends on what His email says to me. If it's a one liner such as "hi, how are you?" Then no, i don't bother to read as those almost never go anywhere anyway. If it's a nicely written note then yes, i most certainly read first.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 12:04:19 PM

lovingpet

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Curiosity gets the best of me and I read each and every profile of a person that sends me mail, unless I have a good sense of them from other areas of contact, such as the boards. I don't care what the content of the message, I just have to know who took enough interest to bother writing me. Of course, I don't get much mail in the first place. Also, if I have sent a message to you an an initial contact, then I have read something that was of particular interest to me. It may be your view of dominance/submission, your kink list, or something as simple as where you happen to live, but something has gotten my attention. I write very few people first, so I really appreciate it when folks write back in some form and, when they do, I hope they have read my profile beforehand.

lovingpet

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 12:12:41 PM

hopelesslyInvo

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i read the profiles of anyone who writes, ends up on my admirers list, or even views my profile before i do anything, whether they're dominant or not has nothing to do with it.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 12:43:15 PM

monywildcat

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I do, I want to see who is viewing or emailing me. No matter if they are dom/sub/whatever. I also perv people's profiles when something that they posted or responded to on the message boards catches my eye.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 1:11:22 PM

littleone35

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I was different when i was looking i used to respond then read the profile i did it backwards.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 1:24:42 PM

sweezy

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It makes sense, doesn't it? To read the profile before you respond. To even see if you want to respond in the first place. I read the profile of every person who sends me a message. Even one-liners. If they don't have a filled-out profile, I usually just delete their message.

I mean, there's a reason there's a profile option.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 2:03:08 PM

Usako

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I have to agree with an earlier post; it depends on what the e-mail says. If it's just "Hi" or "You're very pretty" or some other one line nonsense then no, I don't bother to read the profile. If they actually put some thought into the e-mail then I check the profile to see who it is.

And of course if the e-mail is just plain rude or totally proves they didn't read my profile then I just delete and move on.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 2:06:17 PM

servantheart

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Always

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 2:13:15 PM

ExKat

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I do, unless the e-mail is so vile that I don't even want to give the man the satisfaction of a view.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 2:24:30 PM

IvyMorgan

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I respond (politely mostly) to every mail I get sent.

If we get to about memo number 3 ish, I'll look at the profile.

I am upfront about "friends only" and "in a relationship" (it even says so in my profile now, as I realised tonight it still called me single, oops)

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 3:35:13 PM

kiwisub12

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I got an email from a local dom - its totality was "Hi".

He hadn't looked at my profile, so me being the intelligent and deductive subby that i am figured that he was sending bulk email. So i did with it what i do with bulk snail mail - i filed it under the X-file.

Do i look at profiles before talking - hell , yeh - i want some idea of who i am talking to .

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 3:42:21 PM

dangerousangel

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It depends a LOT on what the person says. If it's a "hi" e-mail, I gererally reply back in a suitably non-commital way. If it's a creazily inapropriate e-mail (telling me to be his/her slave, etc) I generally read the profile to see what the heck the person is thinking. If it's a nice e-mail, I -always- read the profile.

S

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/17/2008 3:43:30 PM

littlewonder

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It depends.

If I'm seeking a relationship then yes I do. I read their profile, their forum entries, their likes/dislikes..everything.

If I'm not seeking a relationship then I might depending on what their comment was to me in their initial email.

If they're just rude or completely boring to me then no I won't. I just hit the delete button.

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