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Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:25:10 PM   
SaFireRose


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Status: offline 		For the Masters and anyone else that would like to respond to these questions:  On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most important) how important is it to you and that your's attend the BDSM Community munches, play parties and the 101 sessions?  How important is it for you to keep up with the latest information and/or just socializing with other' like yourself?  If you get very busy and miss a few times do you feel the loss of not making it and if so, what is it exactly that you find yourself missing? 

Is there anyone who can say they do not attend or do not have anything to do with the local bdsm community?  Any mavericks out there that like to blaze their own trail?

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:28:45 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: SaFireRose

For the Masters and anyone else that would like to respond to these questions:  On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most important) how important is it to you and that your's attend the BDSM Community munches, play parties and the 101 sessions?  How important is it for you to keep up with the latest information and/or just socializing with other' like yourself?  If you get very busy and miss a few times do you feel the loss of not making it and if so, what is it exactly that you find yourself missing? 

Is there anyone who can say they do not attend or do not have anything to do with the local bdsm community?  Any mavericks out there that like to blaze their own trail?




My Daddy has socialized in the past with those in his local community, but he has other things he is up to a lot of the time, so he doesn't so much anymore...

He would like for us to go to a munch or to a local club sometime in the future when he is up to it.... he has not been physically well for awhile

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:40:26 PM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		In terms of 1-10, I'd say it is about a 1 for me.  If I'm really, really bored and lacking in things to do the night a munch is happening, I'll go.  I usually end up going about once a year; this year I've been twice.

I'm a heretic in that I don't think just because others like to beat or be beaten, doesn't necessarily mean they have much in common with me, I guess.  It might be a starting point for a conversation, but so might any shared vanilla interest.

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:44:08 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		It's a 1 for me.  Never been to a munch, play party, public dungeon or anything along those lines.  This message board is as close to a community as I get.  Just because I like to get pissed on doesn't mean I have any desire to hang and eat with others that like that too.  I'm very private.  Just not my thing. 

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:57:22 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		I used to occasionally go to the odd munch or play party (usually at the behest of someone else).  Now, nah, cant be bothered.

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 4:59:03 PM   
littlewonder


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I just don't find any kind of connection or friendship within "the community" so it doesn't bother me to not attend parties, munches, etc...I've tried them before only to find I'm usually the one who's bored to death and I find I have nothing in common with anyone else at them.

About every couple of years I'll attend one just to see if anything has changed but it hasn't yet.


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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 5:00:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've never been to anything like that.  Id like to check out a bdsm club or dungeon someday, but more out of curiosity than a need to connect with the "community."

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 5:04:46 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I'm going to say that I'm about an eight.  There are some reasons why I chose such a high number.  One of them is that I happen to be on the board in My little community.  If the organizers don't show up to the events, who's going to support these kinds of things?  Another has to do with the place I live.  There are a lot of folks who drift in and out around here.  Education for new folks coming in is always important.  The social aspect puts it pretty high up there for Me, too, even if the other two reasons weren't especially true.

At the same time, I can't get to everything.  I don't put the BDSM community above things like My job or My family.  I can't make every event and I just attribute that to the fact that I have a life and other obligations.

I've done My own thing in the past.  I can't say I got quite as much enjoyment out of doing private only, as opposed to private and community.


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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 5:32:00 PM   
califsue


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Status: offline 		For me it would be about a 2 and it is more out of being curious than anything else. I did finally attend a munch and it was okay. Like chat rooms and everything else even here on the boards those who have been around long have made friendships and for me who is fairly shy makes it hard to fit in and form friendships..but that is true for me even in the best of vanilla social situations.

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 5:49:58 PM   
girlivy


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Status: offline 		A 5 for me. I have met some very nice folks there, i also  feel for someone new to the lifestyle, the munches, 101's, etc. can be a useful  learning tool.   The first Munch i  ever attended, i sat in my truck in front of the place for at least half hour debating if i should go in or not.  Was very glad that i did. 
Now a days it's not so often, but do keep in touch with a few folks from the munch.
Clubs i have never attended for "play'   (Not counting the one and only time i atended a club and stayed in the cage until it was time to leave)   Been to a few 101's.  
i do love cages! :)

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 6:24:29 PM   
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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 6:25:28 PM   
Lashra


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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 6:49:38 PM   
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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 7:24:39 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		For us it's a 1, we do none of that.  This message is board is the only BDSM socializing i do, and He does none.

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 7:28:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

It's a 1 for me.  Never been to a munch, play party, public dungeon or anything along those lines.  This message board is as close to a community as I get.  Just because I like to get pissed on doesn't mean I have any desire to hang and eat with others that like that too.  I'm very private.  Just not my thing. 

Yep, I couldn't agree more.  Master used to go to some munches years ago and didn't care for any of it at all.  I never had any desire, myself.  Different strokes for different folks but we just don't do audiences................luci

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 8:30:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		1 here. I am a hermit by nature. You might find me walking on a beach, laying up against a tree or walking, when I am not in my condo. I read cm boards and am starting to cmail a few people. My whole life has been this way, playing my own drum, walking my own walk, tripping over my feet or visiting with a few close friends. I occassionally will go into Ds rooms on Aol or the psychic chat rooms and that is my extent of group socializing.
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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 8:44:51 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Codes?

We have codes?

Well fiddlefuck, why was I not informed?



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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 8:52:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SaFireRose


Is there anyone who can say they do not attend or do not have anything to do with the local bdsm community?  Any mavericks out there that like to blaze their own trail?



Mavericks?
Not exactly, more like disinterested in most of what is available localy here in Nashville at the moment.
I have not yet attended anything, because Fox and I do nothave any interest in public play and the majority of the events center around it, or orgaizing it. Not our thing, so I make no effort to go.
Now socalizing is something ompletely different. I socalize privately with members of the lifestyle all the time. Some of my best friends here in Nashville are Angel and Silk, who are a D/s couple. I have may other friends into it, and have traveled and met quite a few CM members.

Being involved in the public scene doesnt make you a better or worse Master or Mistress or sub or slave. I woudnt consider myself a maverick for not involving myself. Regardless of what I was involved with, I wouldnt change how I do things within my own relationship anyway. I dont tailor my life around what the latest trend or activity is, never have and never will.

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 8:54:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

quote:

ORIGINAL: SaFireRose


Is there anyone who can say they do not attend or do not have anything to do with the local bdsm community?  Any mavericks out there that like to blaze their own trail?



Mavericks?
Not exactly, more like disinterested in most of what is available localy here in Nashville at the moment.
I have not yet attended anything, because Fox and I do nothave any interest in public play and the majority of the events center around it, or orgaizing it. Not our thing, so I make no effort to go.
Now socalizing is something ompletely different. I socalize privately with members of the lifestyle all the time. Some of my best friends here in Nashville are Angel and Silk, who are a D/s couple. I have may other friends into it, and have traveled and met quite a few CM members.

Being involved in the public scene doesnt make you a better or worse Master or Mistress or sub or slave. I woudnt consider myself a maverick for not involving myself. Regardless of what I was involved with, I wouldnt change how I do things within my own relationship anyway. I dont tailor my life around what the latest trend or activity is, never have and never will.

DV

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RE: Codes of the "community" - 10/19/2008 10:40:31 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		My community is important to me. I present, I volunteer, I attend, both at the local level and at the national level. I do international, if I could afford it. As for 101, I'm much more likely to present it than go to it.

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