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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/14/2005 5:59:23 AM

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Mentor...sorry!
But if your ever in need of a good Tormentor, I can certainly give you that!

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/14/2005 5:14:53 PM

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Well I can always find someone that needs torment.. So i could send them your way.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/19/2005 11:27:25 PM

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There's a yahell group centered in Chattanooga called the Chattanooga Exchange that was fairly active whenever, I lived in the area. They also interacted with the Smokey Mtn's Power Exchange and a couple of other groups for instructions, demonstrations, etc, plus a kinky bizarre.
I would caution you to be somewhat reserved about proclaiming yourself a Master, and no, I'm not going to debate the inherent semantics here, when and if you manage to meet with them. There are some submissives and slaves in that group that could mentor you as a dominant, but Mastery doesn't come from a simple declaration or selfpronouncement.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/21/2005 11:36:30 AM

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i think what he means is that he is new to BDSM however, has been dominant all of his life. He probably just discovered that there's actually a name for it. Same happened to me some 6 or 7 years ago when i first came about BDSM, i had always been a submissive female but didn't know about BDSM. i suspect it's been the same with him. Then again, maybe i am wrong. : ) lol

Leave it to a slave girl to get it right... lmao

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/21/2005 11:44:00 AM

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"Not new" to being a "Master," but "new to the lifestyle?" What is it that you are a "Master" of, that makes you so experienced and not new? I'm not understanding this either.

LMAO.. how POMPUS is that? First a "let me bash you" followed by "welcome?
And "What is is that causes YOU to question his Mastery of anything? You label yourself as a "top" for christs sake.. Your BDSM'r kinky sex thing gives you the cause to berate a Man who is seeking to better himself? You who "do NOT seek a 24/7-TPE, relationship with a submissive/slave" are not in a position to question someone elses mastery.

Ceallach, consider the source..

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/21/2005 11:47:39 AM

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Hmmm. I guess the Voodoo would be a place to start?

Write me off line, I'll get you in touch with the right folks..

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/22/2005 12:52:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Ceallach

Well to begin I am a Dom, that part is easy. The part that is difficult would be the fact I am new to both the lifestyle an community. So not only would it be helpful to learn the ins and outs of the community, it would help me set aside misconceptions I may have about some things. Masters and Rulers throughout history had teachers and mentors. So in saying I would like to have some good guidance down a new road.

I notice in your profile you checked you are an expert in role-playing. Perhaps you could say more about that. Role-playing can be very arousing but also dangerous. That would not be where one might best start out, but perhaps you are an expert. Just a word of caution.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 12/22/2005 1:20:25 PM

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I congratulate you on making what I believe is a very wise action. Start showing up to the local scene events and get aquainted with their policies and practices and see if there is a local BDSM 101 being ran, which often is a sub-group of your scene Munch or play parties. They can normally point you in the right direction of who does hands on training. while I personally believe experiencing sub life before becomming a Master is very good to gain a greater understanding as well, some people are unable to control themselves to that degree and would be better off with just direct training. You'd be suprised how willing people will be to helping someone out in gaining a better knowledge of the life when approached with respect and understanding.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 1/3/2006 2:00:47 PM

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I was going to post on this issue with some brilliantly stated age old advice that made me look very wise and knowledgeable at my age LOL but when I tried to look up the OP's profile, it said "profile not found"..... I guess I was a day late and a dollar short....again WEG

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/20/2006 12:05:32 AM

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I'm not sure why, I came back to read the responses to the original poster, and I was pleasantly surprised to find that there were no blatant "flaming rockets fired up his anal orifice for being a tad presumptious.
Finding that his profile no longer existed made Me hope that he had taken some of the good advice expressed in the replies, but, I suspect that he most likely started a new profile so that he could hide his newbie status behind some other huff 'n' bluff nonsense.
Mentoring on-line is only marginally successful, and then only if the student is eager enough to question those things that he doesn't understand instead of reading and then "parroting" the words of others that can be found so readily.
Hopefully his first real life encounters are with some gals that are experienced and they can "school" him a tad before he hurts himself or someone else.
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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/26/2006 7:15:23 PM

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how can you be new to the lifedtyle but not new to being a Master

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/26/2006 7:58:52 PM

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The first step in finding a mentor in the lifestyle is seeking out local munches in your area. Second step is to find local yahoo groups so you can get to know people in your area. This site would be a good start by doing a Dominate search for your area so you can contact them. They could give you links to yahoo groups in your area this is a good start finding a mentor.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/26/2006 8:54:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: kateindenver

how can you be new to the lifedtyle but not new to being a Master

Well I think that comes from a different way of terming things. Most of us weren't raised "knowing" about the BDSM lifestyle. But, have always had that inante sense of dominance or submission, yeah, we can wake up one day and realise it, and it happens to a lot of us, but they might have always been the dominant without knowing it was "being" a dominant.

My parents? Had a very equal relationship. My adopted parents? Have a very traditional 1950's marriage. He's in charge of all financial decisions etc? She cleans the house etc and cooks. They would never call their relationship a D/s one? But there are certainly elements there that with the right label could be called D/s.

Different strokes for different folks and all that.

Just my thoughts.

Regards.

Isara.

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/26/2006 11:13:16 PM

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I had and still have the same problem. The problems stems (IMO) from the belief of many BDSM folk that you cant be a Master and have no experience in BDSM. I was a Gorean Master with a girl on a collar long before I even wanted to come into BDSM I originally had no interest I the BDSM activities. Bondage is natural for a Gorean Master as is discliplining a trik with a crop or a whip but this was punishment not play. a cage is not uncommon either.. It took me meeting some great folk, reading and watching a couple of demos and then playing with a flogger to get me involved. Where I come unstuck as far as many locals are concerned, is that I don't have experience in BDSM and there fore I can't be a true Master.. We'll leave the anti Gorean aspect out ...

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RE: Looking for a mentor - 2/27/2006 4:54:38 AM

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IronBear, I just love that you're so open to discuss your personal feelings on so many topics. We have a few men that identify as Gorean here, and with the exception of one, I've not found them to be so open with regards to their own feelings/experiences/philosophies. I guess I feel them projecting an either "know-it-all" attitude, or a "don't ask, cause I ain't tellin'" attitude.

I look forward to whatever you have to offer in posts. It appears that the man behind the Bear always has something enlightening to say, that I enjoy reading.