Noah
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68
It's taken me many years to acknowledge and accept the fact that I am a submissive woman. I think it had a lot to do with realizing that I can be submissive and still be strong, independent and free thinking. They can go hand in hand. It's this realization and acceptance that has allowed me to become extremely comfortable and confident in the last half year or so with who I am and what I need. I've noticed, as has my family and friends, that there is a certain calmness about me now. I still look the same. I still dress the same. I still do the same day to day things. But I have to tell you that I have men coming out of the woodwork lately trying to connect with me, whether it's standing on line at the store, walking through Home Depot or browsing books and B&N. I chalk it up to what I call my sub vibe since nothing else in my life has changed. So I guess my question is...do you think there is such a thing as a sub vibe? A Dom/Domme vibe? Or am I just crazy?
Congratulations. By my method of accounting you're two thirds of the way there.
My prediction is that you are very much going to enjoy it--and blossom both as a person and as a submissive--when you've gotten to the point where you can say "I'm submissive" without having to append "but I'm smart and strong and independent (etc.) too."
For my part I consistently get a clearer sense of strength and independence from the woman who can calmly say: "Yes, I'm submissive" and let it ring in the air.
How often do you hear doms intone: "..(I'm a domly dom, but) I am also smart and strong and independent"?
Now you might point out in response that there is some sort of assumption that dominance is accompanied by or even in part made of those qualities. Any experienced person knows that domination can occur from weakness and insecurity. The assumption that a dom will be smart and strong and independent is as invalid as the assumption that submissiveness won't be. Now of course someone will post and explain to us the difference between that kind of domination and TRUE domination, and thereby illustrate for us just the sort of intelligence that they are bringing to the party.
There may be some readers who need to be told that submission in general--and yours in particular--doesn't involve weakness and stupidity. But do you really care what those people think? Any bright person will recognize instantly the people who lack the depth or sensitivity to appreciate these basic facts--and treat them accordingly. Do the potential friends or lovers you're looking for need to hear this? No. They already know. If you want the attention of the knuckleheads, talk to the knuckleheads. If you want the attention of people who know their (or your) ass from a hole in the ground then address them at a level which is founded upon your shared awareness of how the world turns.
Claims to intelligence are suspect at best. Think of the three smartest people you know. How often have you heard them say: "I'm smart."? Now how often have you heard them say so during an introduction? I know some really smart people and I have never heard any of them make such a claim in that very particularlets get one thing straight sort of mode.
Everybody is intelligent. Really. And everybody is stupid. That might sound like a pair of generalizations. It isn't. It is a carefully considered and razor-sharp description of the human race as I've encountered it. I'm charmed over and over again by the stupidity of my "brilliant" friends (and occasionally horrified by the stupidities of less good-hearted brilliant people) As well I'm frequently, very frequently, charmed by the genius of my "stupid" friends. I hope I charm them all as much, and in the same ways, as they do me.
On the other hand I try not to horrify anyone whose opinion I care about unless I intend to tie her up fairly soon.
There are all kinds of intelligence. I've never met anyone who didn't have something or other over on me. Show what kind you've got, and how much. In your case, Aileen, you posts show it. No need for the saying.
As far as the guys and the woodwork, well, us guys can smell easy pussy a mile away.
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