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StarmanJr -> Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 8:58:41 PM)
Hey there. So, lets say one's new to the whole scene. What useful nuggets of information or wise anecdotes would ya tell em? Any useful information, websites, etc?

atypicalsub -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:02:06 PM)
Be careful! There are a lot of great people on here, there are also a few certifiable psychos. Hang around here, ask lots of questions. Try to attend local munches. Don't let the excitment of trying something new override your good judgement.

softpjOS -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:02:22 PM)
most useful nugget i can think of : life doesnt revolve around BDSM, BDSM revolves around life welcome to the boards :) pj

OttersSwim -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:08:14 PM)
Sometimes it is better to be -kind-, than to be -right-. Welcome to the boards. Read a lot, post a bit, and enjoy yourself. [:)]

slavelet -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:08:39 PM)
Welcome StarmanJr! Search every topic of even remote interest to you right here on these boards! The information is invaluable, and you will he quite entertained by the writing styles of a lot of the posters. i have garnered an amazing amount of new ways to look at things going on around me... And you will get a lot of insight on what can be a red flag warning from some of the... ummm loose marble types. That could save you a lot of time, trouble and heartache as well as keep you safe! Good luck! slavelet

SailingBum -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:21:37 PM)
Long Live sex drugs and rocking roll BadOne

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:24:11 PM)
Keep an open mind, but not so open your brains fall out. And if you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one?

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:34:50 PM)
never give money to any one for any circumstance, unless you're already involved with them and have been for a long time, and know they're trust w*orthy. And even then think twice about loaning money. And when you loan it never expect to get it back, but be pleasantly supprised when you do get it back.

myotherself -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:40:15 PM)
Listen to your inner voice - if it tells you to run away from a situation or a relationship, do it!

yourMissTress -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 9:58:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StarmanJr Hey there. So, lets say one's new to the whole scene. What useful nuggets of information or wise anecdotes would ya tell em? Any useful information, websites, etc? Know yourself. Have fun. Ask lots of questions, of yourself. Have fun. Read a lot. Here, there, everywhere. Have fun. Every answer you find, ask yourself "would that be right for me?" Have fun. This is all about you. There is no right way or wrong way to do any of this. There is only what is right for you, what works for you, and eventually when you find a partner, what works for the two of you. Have fun. There is no "one true way" or any other combination of words that imply that there's a rule book to BDSM. If anyone tells you differently, understand that they have an agenda, and it's not about helping you. Oh, and the one thing I forgot to say, it's just a little important.... HAVE FUN.

proudsub -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 10:08:22 PM)
Communicate Communicate Communicate Communicate

GreedyTop -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 10:08:44 PM)
Ask questions..take what works for YOU, discard the rest.. and in case MissTress didn't mention it? HAVE FUN!!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 10:13:24 PM)
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Flogmaster -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 10:23:16 PM)
Be Honest in your approaches, keep an open mind, trust your own senses of a person, and By ALL means ask questions, don't even try to fake your way through it'll come back on you...

SlaveSimone -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/23/2008 10:43:52 PM)
Don't throw out every thing you've learned about relationships thus far in your life, it will still come in handy, as the basic foundations of any relationships will always be the same, vanilla or otherwise. Just keep your head screwed on tight, and have fun! Good luck, Simone

Rover -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/24/2008 3:44:42 AM)
Don't eat yellow snow. John P.S. - BDSM does not descend upon you like the Holy Spirit, making you into something you are not. You tailor BDSM to suit you.

thishereboi -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/24/2008 3:46:01 AM)
QR Don't tell your Mistress she hits like a girl.

colouredin -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/24/2008 3:56:02 AM)
FR There is no right or wrong, dont let 'fitting in' keep you from being you, and beware of semantics

Twicehappy2x -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/24/2008 4:34:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover P.S. - BDSM does not descend upon you like the Holy Spirit, making you into something you are not. You tailor BDSM to suit you. Damn it Rover, next you are going to tell me that Scooter is not really God! And on the subject; trust your instincts. Always use a safe call when meeting some one new. Keep you money and your identity in your pocket. And to echo another remember, Have Fun. If you are not enjoying something, you should stop doing it.

CatdeMedici -> RE: Tips for a newbie (10/24/2008 4:54:17 AM)
Embracing this life does not absolve you of your daily responsibilities. Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear. SSC still applies, embracing BDSM isn't a condom against disease. Don't use this to hide from reality--it will haunt you like a dog.

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