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fastlane -> A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:02:24 AM)
What are the traits you look for in a Dom/Domme? What makes him/her the sexiest thing on the planet to you? What makes your knees buckle, your eyes drop down, your willingness to submit and serve dripping from you like a popsickle on a hot day running down your inner thighs. O.K. so, I have an icecream fetsih..but I am curious about what you seek in a Master/Mistress. Thanks and lets go have a Sundae with extra nuts. Peace, Kevin

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:17:17 AM)
Well what I LOOK for are the same things anyone would look for in a solid relationship- understanding of self, social awareness, good relationships skills or the willingness to learn them, and general compatibility in terms of humor, desires, interests and perspectives. What pushes my buttons right away are things like arrogance, good clothes, and a dashing smile.

ProtagonistLily -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:21:14 AM)
quote: What are the traits you look for in a Dom/Domme? What makes him/her the sexiest thing on the planet to you? What makes your knees buckle, your eyes drop down, your willingness to submit and serve dripping from you like a popsickle on a hot day running down your inner thighs. O.K. so, I have an icecream fetsih..but I am curious about what you seek in a Master/Mistress. Thanks and lets go have a Sundae with extra nuts. Peace, Kevin Ugh, here we go with another hard question.... This is SO subjective. I was not attracted to my Dom's profile here on Collar Me. He went into the reject pile months before I actually met him in person. I often wonder what would have happened if I hadn't gone to the munch I went to where we met. I wasn't particularly attracted to him on that first meeting either. He was nice, and I liked him in a 'friend' sort of way, but I wasn't thinking to myself "Yeah, I can't wait to clean this man's toilet naked..." I think attraction evolves. I don't think it's merely physical either. I think it's very much like chemistry. The more we talked, the more we got to know each other, the more I found myself wanting to be in his company. The more I got to know him, the more I wanted to know. I was more than a little cautious about this relationship as there were variables from the get go that made me so. It became clear one night after about 6 weeks of knowing him that he was persuing me. That, in and of itself, really got my attention. I guess you could say he grew on me. But this would have never happened if I hadn't met him face to face in a safe environment at first. His profile not only didn't attract me, it put me off. He was unlike anyone I'd ever met before, and that was a little strange at first. I think his favorite word is "why". I would say something, and he would want to know why I thought or felt the way I did. At first, it drove me c r a z y and once, even made me cry, which sounds so silly now. I had never met anyone who wanted to know me like he wanted to know me before, and this was way before we even played or kissed for the first time. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. For as many individuals as there are, there are as many differant combinations of what it takes to make you click with another person. As my mom used to say, you gotta kiss a lot of frogs.... Lily

fyreredsub -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:27:55 AM)
he has that 'attitude' he is strongly mentally than i am he oozes power makes my knees weak everytime course cute ass, blue eyes and nice hands doesnt hurt,sense of humor, intelligence...ya da yada,lol can i have a carmel sundae no nutz[;)]

fyreredsub -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:30:22 AM)
men are like lottery tickets, gotta scratch off alot of losers before you get a Winner[:D]

nephandi -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:40:18 AM)
i fall for somone that is spiritual, that is interested in the occult, i also fall for somone that can be both kind and stern, that make me feel captured but not frightend, that is patient yet know what he wants.

fastlane -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:41:32 AM)
one caramel sundae coming up...hold the nuts.....That be you! LOL Scratch and sniff , or hope for a winner.... hmm, I'm sure you are right. I too have found many frauds on these boards. The one most recently, really stung. I'd love to melt Ice cream all over her and tie her in the desert for the ants to crawl upon her naked sticky limbs and bite.....Damn, now I'm getting horny!

LaMalinche -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 9:57:20 AM)
Well, I look for intelligence first, and a sense of humor second. Bigger than me physically also (not that that is difficult). What else. . . hmmm. . . I suppose it comes down to chemistry. Wow big help that. I did my best.

littleone35 -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 10:01:10 AM)
I must say the thing that attracts me most is confidence not conciet under just confidence. Also someone who is comfortable around others does not feel the need to prove what a great Dom he is. I guess there is that confidence thing again. Physically i am attracted to tall men probly because i an so short (5') and a man who has broad shoulders that is my big wekness a broad shouldered man. It may seem strange to som but not for me. Then the eyes colar does not matter i get a strong sense of a person by the look in their eyes. Of course i don't just go by that if they talk to my like a person instead as a sub that scores them BIG points. A sence of humor is nice too. After getting to know them other things may com up but these of the first things that i notice. Please forgive any typos. littleone

snowangel -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 10:01:28 AM)
It might be easier to ask what we don't look for. I tend to go for the quiet ones. The ones who have that quiet confidence thing going on. They're not walking around with floggers hanging off their belt, and they're not showing off how they snap a singletail or carrying a huge knife and fiddling with it as they talk. They're not telling me "I'm the greatest Dom/me since God" they're going about their business with a quiet confidence and emotional serenity. Being secure in one's self is what works for me. They don't come in and expect me to call them Master or Mistress or get on my knees as soon as we meet. I don't like men who brag about their cock size. I don't like women who are all telling me that they are God's gift to Lesbianism. Don't tell me, show me! They don't demand or expect auto submission or treat me me like a doormat. I really really hate the whole "on your knees wench, and suck my winkie!" attitude, and that is almost a direct quote from a PM I got from a guy here in CM. I actually cleaned up the language a bit. I'm not good as swearing. I won't call him a Dominant; he seemed more like a playa to me. And even if I was available, I just don't have time to waste on playas.

candystripper -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 10:04:27 AM)
Character...Honor..and Sex Appeal. candystripper

AlderTheKitty -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 10:26:41 AM)
strengh does it for me a strong dominant woman is like jail bait to a pedophile who has been in side for 40 years. i find that i like strong women because i know they can protect me when i am afraid stand by me when i am down and all other varius needs i have also something i like is intelagance smart women turn me on cause who wants to date someone who is dumber then a bag of door nobs. hmm what else oh women who can create stuff this may be working on cars computers wha7t ever is a turn on because it shows they won't do the same thing over and over. and be honest guys what more would you like after a hard day of yard work guys then to find out that you wife while you where sweeting had changed your oil and got down and dirty for you hmm there is also the kind and stern thingm is a big one having that nurtuing vibe to them that they like to teach and take care of otheres is one two lastly boobs

IrishMist -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 10:57:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane What are the traits you look for in a Dom/Domme? What makes him/her the sexiest thing on the planet to you? What makes your knees buckle, your eyes drop down, your willingness to submit and serve dripping from you like a popsickle on a hot day running down your inner thighs. O.K. so, I have an icecream fetsih..but I am curious about what you seek in a Master/Mistress. Thanks and lets go have a Sundae with extra nuts. Peace, Kevin a sense of humor a sense of self...confidence, charisma...call it what you will the ability to hold a conversation, or just sit in silence that is comfortable someone who makes my knees go weak, and my insides turn to mush just with the sound of his voice someone who can exert a calming influence over me...I tend to react violently to emotions at times...what can I say, it's the Irish in me /shrug someone who can 'persuade' me to give my all, without exactly coming right out and demanding it the list can go on and on...there are so many small things that attract me to someone...

fastlane -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 11:01:34 AM)
Two nuts on a Sudae, two nuts in a park, two nuts that are compatible, two nuts who are in love.....I'm such a romantic .... and I am also too nuts to find my lover/slave/submissive today, but I am looking!

Sensualips -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 11:07:26 AM)
Mostly I look for the same things I'd look for in any partner. Sense of humor. The ability to make me laugh so hard that chocolate milk squirts out my nose. (If I happen to be drinking chocolate milk - otherwise that would just be weird.) Intelligence. Specifically the ability to have diverse and interesting conversations. I like complex people. And I will admit, really poor grammar and spelling and incoherent emails are a turn off. Attitude. Oh sure, I like the bad boy. The smart ass. But behind the confidence and sardonic wit, there should be a sweet sincerety and an openess. Vulnerability. God, I am a sucker for that. Strength. I don't mean physical strength, although that is nice. I look for strength of spirit, strength of self. Eyes. Just having two of them is not enough to turn my head. I like expressive eyes that you can get lost in, intense eye contact, eyes that act as windows to the soul and all that crap. Smooth Skin and Good Smells. Yummy. Passion and Playfulness. If you are not having fun, what is really the point? Patience. If you are involved with me, you will need it. Proximity. If all of the above are not available at it is the third Saturday night of the month at 11:30 pm...I just might throw myself at the nicest ass in my general area. From a purely s/D perspective I would also look for someone that had compatible kinks and attitudes.

girl4you2 -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 11:46:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane What are the traits you look for in a Dom/Domme? What makes him/her the sexiest thing on the planet to you? What makes your knees buckle, your eyes drop down, your willingness to submit and serve dripping from you like a popsickle on a hot day running down your inner thighs. O.K. so, I have an icecream fetsih..but I am curious about what you seek in a Master/Mistress. Thanks and lets go have a Sundae with extra nuts. Peace, Kevin i look for someone who is honest, trustworthy, respectful, consistent, passionate, fun, well-read, can express himself well and does, has an openness and emphasis regarding communication, is bright, undestands honour, is politically aware and socially conscious (and a democrat/liberal), can show compassion, is affectionate, has a certain "je ne sais quois" in the area of chemistry, understands about getting into my mind first and foremost and staying there (all else follows that), treats people in everyday life kindly (grocer, waitress, door person, etc.), with whom i've some common ground (i.e. shares the same basic values and ethics--i want someone who compliments who and what i am/is compatible, and understands how they fit together), that sort of thing. hobbies, interests, lists, those can all come with some negotiation. first the basic person has to be right. this is a relationship involving two (or more) people, and if you've no foundation upon which to build trust and the rest, the upside down pyramid of purely physical attraction is destined to fall. i also look for someone who is looking for the same thing that i am in the type of relationship; long term versus play or occasional get togethers. life ain't easy, but if you hold out for the good, eventually kharma/kismet/fate comes to visit and decides to stay (at least that's what i'm counting on). i am willing to take the time it takes to slowly learn and develop this when the time is right again. Edited to add: what makes my knees buckle and my submission to pour out of every pore in my body are the things he learns about me on the way to the relationship, and he will find them all--i will hold nothing back. a glance, a change in tone, a word, or a touch and i'm instantly responding from the deepest level of my soul. a simple gesture, look, or uttering and he is instantly reminded that i will be his, wear proudly his collar, and live for pleasing him.

fastlane -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 1:06:01 PM)
nice, girlforyou2sub

camigirl -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 2:17:24 PM)
quote: What are the traits you look for in a Dom/Domme? What makes him/her the sexiest thing on the planet to you? What makes your knees buckle, your eyes drop down, your willingness to submit and serve dripping from you like a popsickle on a hot day running down your inner thighs. O.K. so, I have an icecream fetsih..but I am curious about what you seek in a Master/Mistress. Thanks and lets go have a Sundae with extra nuts. Peace, Kevin I look at his character traits first, but what turns me on...its a mental thing. camigirl _____________________________ Too Wise...Too Fast....makes for a red Ass

fastlane -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 2:29:47 PM)
you had me at hello Now, stay

fyreredsub -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 3:02:33 PM)
sprinkle some nuts so she can follow the path.... quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Two nuts on a Sudae, two nuts in a park, two nuts that are compatible, two nuts who are in love.....I'm such a romantic .... and I am also too nuts to find my lover/slave/submissive today, but I am looking!

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