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kyraofMists -> RE: A submissive's perspective (12/13/2005 5:38:40 PM)
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These are traits that I would look for in any person that I consider having a significant intimate relationship with, not just a Dominant:
Integrity – This is not just about being honest with me but about being honest with yourself as well. Integrity is also about speaking the truths that are difficult to hear. An honest person can be silent and still remain honest, but a person of integrity will say the things that need to be said even if they may cause pain.
Acceptance – Accepting me for who I am is crucial. I will not change who I am for another person. Very strong domineering people throughout my life have attempted to shape me into their ideal image and have failed. I will be who I am whether you like it or not. I will grow and change because of the interactions I have but it will never be to satisfy someone else’s idea of who I should be.
Courage – Someone who has the courage to be who they are without apology, the courage to look within and find out who they are and to bring that out into their day to day life, the courage to share their weaknesses as well as their strengths and the courage to be vulnerable (I find vulnerability a huge turn-on)
Honor – They have to have similar values and morals that are compatible with mine and have the conviction to stand behind them.
Intelligence – They don’t have to be the smartest person on the planet, but they have to have a love of learning, improving oneself, curiosity about the world. They have to respect and appreciate my intelligence and give me an outlet to express and exercise it.
My Lord has all these traits and then some. He is a man of character and seeks to enhance his strengths. He is not an easy man to love, he has high expectations and is quick to correct that which does not please him, but loving and serving him has significant rewards.
Now what makes my Lord the sexiest thing on the planet… *g*
He has this quality about him, a playfulness, almost glee when he is being true to his inner-sadist. It is probably why I so often end up giggling when he is tormenting me. Alandra generally uses the analogy of a little boy in the sandbox playing with all his toys.
He loves and encourages my smart-ass nature. Alandra and I have a saying, “If he is laughing, we can’t get in trouble”, so we make sure he laughs often.
He is one of the most loyal and secure men I have ever met and he is not afraid to share his weaknesses. I know there are some who believe that a Dominant should not show any weaknesses, but I would never be able to be completely vulnerable to someone who does not.
He cherishes and guards my well-being, as if it is the most precious thing on this earth. But he is not afraid to give me the good, swift kick in the ass when I am being foolish.
And he loves ice cream *w*
Knight’s kyra
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