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Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 9:46:22 PM

Klaio

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Consider the following scenario: A sub is told that he is smart and should figure things out for himself, and the sub is very concerned and tries to make things easier for his Mistress by trying to offer suggestions and ideas. The Mistress is new and and stated that the sub should bring ideas and concerns to her.

At first it started as a online relationship for a few days and things went well. The first meeting was scheduled for a wednesday. For the 4 days beforehand, the Mistress mentioned that she would send a e-mail or message on collarme with instructions.

Wednesday came and the meeting time passed, while the sub waited for the e-mail. The sub was later told that the Mistress was trying to phone and text the sub. The sub was at his school library waiting for the e-mail in a electronically shielded environment.

The next meeting was arranged for saturday and the sub was given instructions beforehand. The sub travelled through a unfamiliar route for two hours and arrived ten minutes early and waited. An hour later, the sub was told the Mistress was at a hospital visiting a friend who was involved in a accident the previous night.

Sunday, the sub was given permission to cum. The following two weeks, the sub had no contact with his Mistress. Eventually the sub chanced calling her and had a short chat. The Mistress was recovering from a very bad case of flu. The sub was never given clear instructions on contact and thought that calling was acceptable.

Another week went by. The sub was told during the first week that wednesdays would be left open for the sub. The sub tried contacting tuesday night without luck and grew worried. The sub wanted to confirm that the session would be on wednesday or for permission to cum. The sub had trouble sleeping, swollen balls and gut pains.

Later, the Mistress texted that she got in trouble because the sub called her during work on wednesday. "I am not interested in having a pet top me from the bottom and making my life more difficult than it should be."

All the sub did was out of concern for his Mistress and to make her life easier. Is the message warranted?

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 9:52:02 PM

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The sub is being jerked around by a so-called mistress and should thank his lucky stars he didn't get involved further.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 9:59:19 PM

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the sub should cut his losses and not hold his breath to ever met the so called mistress. the "mistress" probably is worried her husband will hear your phone calls.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 9:59:36 PM

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He had trouble sleeping because of swollen balls from not being allowed to cum??? Is that possible?

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:04:09 PM

Klaio

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

He had trouble sleeping because of swollen balls from not being allowed to cum??? Is that possible?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2231517/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2231517

I posted the specifics of that there

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:08:14 PM

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Klaio,

God created the world in less time than this, and got to rest.

You would probably get more satisfaction from a can of silly string.

Forest, trees, and I am not speaking of your avatar.

Being a submissive does not have to hurt, unless it is your desire for such.

You have choices in life which will either fulfill or destroy your happiness.

Make them.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:10:39 PM

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Sorry, It's the best photo i have that only has me in it, isn't from a school photo session (see Collarme's legal disclaimer on photos) and doesn't look silly. It's a bit old, but it serves it's purpose.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:18:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Klaio

Sorry, It's the best photo i have that only has me in it, isn't from a school photo session (see Collarme's legal disclaimer on photos) and doesn't look silly. It's a bit old, but it serves it's purpose.

Klaio,

My reply to you was about everything but your photo.

It is fine.

However that might be poison oak to your left.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:23:19 PM

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She is either avoiding you because she is new and doesn't have the courage to go through with this, or she is enjoying jerking you around. Either way, it doesn't sound like she's going to come through. Too many excuses add up to a very clear picture.

I would suggest moving on, and finding someone who's willing to take this off a computer screen.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/25/2008 10:27:29 PM

Madame4a

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What everyone else said... and remember -- I don't know you, but simply by virtue of common humanity -- you deserve better... take your time... find what works... this clearly doesn't...

best to you

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 5:03:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Being a submissive does not have to hurt, unless it is your desire for such.

You have choices in life which will either fulfill or destroy your happiness.

Make them.

chia* (the pet)

I could not agree more.
Seriously Klaio,, are you checking your brain somewhere in order to do this?   Find someone compatible, and do this in real life, unless you trully are happier having a relationship with a keyboard and whoever is typing on the other side.
Here is a safe standard: if someone has enough drama happening to stand you up twice, it should than be up to her or him, to find a way to get to you where you are, and prove they are not just yanking your chain online!  Ever hear some song saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."   I saw your profile, and that you're young, but that doesn't mean you have to put away your senses, and follow to your detriment (unless that is the kind of hurt you like).    M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMaam -- 10/26/2008 5:24:21 AM >

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 8:51:47 AM

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quote:

Klaio wrote:
At first it started as a online relationship for a few days and things went well. The first meeting was scheduled for a wednesday. For the 4 days beforehand, the Mistress mentioned that she would send a e-mail or message on collarme with instructions.

Wednesday came and the meeting time passed, while the sub waited for the e-mail. The sub was later told that the Mistress was trying to phone and text the sub. The sub was at his school library waiting for the e-mail in a electronically shielded environment.

Well, that could be a misunderstanding but she shouldn't have specifically said she'd E-mail if she was going to phone. And, when she found she couldn't get through on the phone, she should have sent the promised E-mail.

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The next meeting was arranged for saturday and the sub was given instructions beforehand. The sub travelled through a unfamiliar route for two hours and arrived ten minutes early and waited. An hour later, the sub was told the Mistress was at a hospital visiting a friend who was involved in a accident the previous night.

If the accident was the previous night, she surely had enough time to tell you that she wouldn't be able to make the meeting.

quote:

The following two weeks, the sub had no contact with his Mistress.

Byeeeee. She had the 'flu so badly that she couldn't even send you a quick E-mail or a text message?

Ask yourself the following simple question: `Would I put up with this in a vanilla relationship?' If the answer is no, you shouldn't be putting up with it in a D/s relationship, either. Charitably assuming that her excuses are genuine (and I would speculate that they aren't), they aren't reasonable.

beeble

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 9:09:18 AM

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Klaio, sounds to me like you allowed yourself to get too emotional attached to someone too fast.

Frankly the first time you both set up a meeting and she didn't show would have shown me that she honestly isn't that interested in you.

Time to move on and find someone who is actually interested in you. The best way to do that is to get offline and start attending munches, workshops, meetings, lectures, etc, of various kink groups. If that isn't a regular possibility get more involved in online discussions so you can get known and get to know others.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 3:36:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Klaio

quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

He had trouble sleeping because of swollen balls from not being allowed to cum??? Is that possible?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2231517/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2231517

I posted the specifics of that there

I think you will find this link helplful:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_balls

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 3:57:27 PM

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She is either avoiding you because she is new and doesn't have the courage to go through with this, or she is enjoying jerking you around. Either way, it doesn't sound like she's going to come through. Too many excuses add up to a very clear picture.

What do you think, marieToo - is it worth this sub sending a little "challenge"? I'm not talking about something like "I bet you hit like a girl anyway" - but something gentler like "I understand that you're new to Dommish feelings - I'd be glad to help you with them if you feel unconfident."

After all, said sub could be in a position where he could be thinking, 'what have I got to lose?'

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 4:12:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

She is either avoiding you because she is new and doesn't have the courage to go through with this, or she is enjoying jerking you around. Either way, it doesn't sound like she's going to come through. Too many excuses add up to a very clear picture.

What do you think, marieToo - is it worth this sub sending a little "challenge"? I'm not talking about something like "I bet you hit like a girl anyway" - but something gentler like "I understand that you're new to Dommish feelings - I'd be glad to help you with them if you feel unconfident."

After all, said sub could be in a position where he could be thinking, 'what have I got to lose?'

You do like to stir the pot, don't you? It must be really enjoyable giving you a beating.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 4:32:47 PM

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hey come on guys, doesn't anyone else see that there is an obvious age/language barrier and he doesn't get the sarcasm?

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 4:39:38 PM

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What??? I'm only asking, Venatrix! OK, maybe "challenge" is the wrong word. This might just be a Domme who's new to the whole thing, unsure herself of the transition from fantasy to reality. Isn't that possible?

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 4:43:10 PM

PeonForHer

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hey come on guys, doesn't anyone else see that there is an obvious age/language barrier and he doesn't get the sarcasm?

Thanks for your support for this poor innocent boy, Manxy.

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RE: Fine Line for Topping from Bottom - 10/26/2008 5:02:48 PM

CatdeMedici

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pffftt please, the so called Mistress was probably a wanking guy--count your blessings and keep looking and remember, for everyone you chat with---1 of 10 are real.

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