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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/27/2008 4:54:47 PM

StrictnSaucy

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Congratulations on your new relationship. Everyone deserves drama free!

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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/27/2008 5:03:59 PM

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First I like to say congratulations on your new relationship. Second i can't see me mastering anything, but perhaps understanding more. Then the more I get the know, the more I realize I know little. D/s is new to me and I cannot even perceive all of what it entails. Other areas in my life, people might want to look at me as a master in this or that, but that isn't me. My life evolves and opens more and more and will until I die.
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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/27/2008 5:26:56 PM

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Well dare I make this post regarding D/s relationship and difference between relationships I have had. However some of my partners D/s needs have been somewhat different. Some general areas that are somewhat different.

Be these sexual, organization, structures, rules, the strong desire to be of service, self-esteem stroking, or whatever else... Just different needs on the end of the submissive.

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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/27/2008 5:32:52 PM

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And once you have *mastered* it...

Then what...

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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/27/2008 9:10:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThundersCry

And once you have *mastered* it...

Then what...

LOL.. I love short one liners like this. Perhaps the word "Mastered" is not the best choice of words here. Because in reality it's more along the lines of Comfort of knowing the other person, their needs, wants, quarks, flaws and faults and being able to deal with it. Type of thing that takes time to occur.

In terms of fully Mastering anything, that's open to debate, since when does anybody fully Master anything. But if you have Mastered 80% of it compared to say 20-30% of it, so much the better.

It's the knowing in what aspects one needs to master, what they have on their hands, and what skills they need to improve upon or even work on more. Different partners in my experience can bring out different things/qualities of me, and vice versa so I have been told. I myself have had to face myself in the middle of relationships while they grow and develop. So Mastering including not only my partner by myself in the process.

The whole shaping and molding concept, which is a two way deal. Both the Dom and submissive tend to shape and mold one another along the way. That was a whole different topic, on another thread at one time on here.

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RE: Mastering D/s - 10/28/2008 4:55:47 AM

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Agree and disagree. Agree in that every person you are with is different than the previous ones, and that each relationship must work out on its own. And that just because the ex loved or hated something doesn't mean the new one feels the same about it.

Disagree because our own core personalities don't change that much. If you need micromanagement in a relationship, or humiliation or whatever then you need that to be happy and if the person you are presently seeing doesn't do that then you are going to be unhappy with that need unmet long term.

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