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Jeptha -> RE: Getting what I need from my sub--information (10/31/2008 12:08:12 PM)
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Those last paragraphs of Whiplashsmile2's reply are along the lines of something I'd be interested in. Not exactly what he laid out there, but I'd be curious...well, just because I am curious, but also to know if I could incorporate her activity somehow into our shared fantasy lives in any fashion, of which he gives just a couple of possible examples.
I'm more tolerant to the online thing (provided she has *some* self-discipline about it, isn't constantly online to the neglect of your relationship, etc.) because I've heard a lot of people say it's just fantasy - like a sort of porn, say, only with a slightly more interactive quality.
I think it offers a lot of opportunity to learn about your wife's fantasy life, desires, inclinations, etc.; but only if she's sharing it with you.
I refer to transparency because, for me, there is a "fear of the unknown" when other people are involved - even if only online, and I want that to be respected. Other people may not have that kind of insecurity, however.
Anyway, it sounds like you two are communicating, and that's good. Remember; even if you are "the dom", it's ok to not know how you feel about something until you've tried it, to make a time in the future when you will both re-assess your experiences together, figure out which directions to explore, on what terms,etc.
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