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So my question is, are there others of you that feel this way? Do you need physical pain to whatever degree to help purge strong emotional pain? If so, does it work at all? Does it help you get through it?

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So my question is, are there others of you that feel this way? Do you need physical pain to whatever degree to help purge strong emotional pain? If so, does it work at all? Does it help you get through it?

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ORIGINAL: sub4mistressnsir




SweetSarijane.. Although I can not say that it will help you to do this.. here is my experience..
My grandmother recently past away.. emotionally I was a mess.. I couldn't cry at all even though I knew I needed to. 2 weeks went by and I finally begged my Mistress n Sir to whip/flog me til I cried... They did so for my emotional health.. I ended up crying for about 2 hours, in thier arms, after it was all said and done..
I think it all comes down to trust.. they knew I loathe to cry.. they knew I needed to so they did and then helped me through it. I trusted them to keep me safe and they did.
My thoughts are with you!
~ sub

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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

yes, i have sought to be released of emotional pain through physical pain.......to find comfort in the tears that the physical pain brought on..........



Has it helped you......given you a break...a chance to regroup and deal with it better?

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ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion


I know I am a bit late in the post and many people have replied to you so far, but I felt that I should add my .02 also.

I used to use physical pain to help me ease the emotional hurt that I felt. The pain on the outside sometimes helps us release the pain that is deep inside. But never, ever, allow yourself to become addicted to the pain and rely on it totally to ease your emotional pain. It becomes a nasty burden and something that you will have to fix later on. Sometimes it is better to deal with things now rather than later.

Once I learned this I realized that physical pain is an excellent way to rid yourself of stress...so long as it is not a crutch for you and as long as you know how to deal with things without the pain there to help.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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So my question is, are there others of you that feel this way?

yes. but this slave always thought of it as somehow tied to her masochism.

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Do you need physical pain to whatever degree to help purge strong emotional pain?

sometimes. depending on the level of emotions, and the the length of time that has been spent pushing that emotion down instead of truly letting it pass through and out. it has been this slave's experience that releases that "let off steam" and ones that "purge" are distinctly different.

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If so, does it work at all?

like a charm.

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Does it help you get through it?

not just through it, but PAST it. this slave did a lot of mental work and attitude preparation before going through any physical pain that this slave attached an emotional trauma to for purging.

another consideration that you might have is you might want/need/feel as if you would like to have heavy aftercare after such an intense release, however, this slave does not wish to have ANY physical contact with anyone for a while after something cathartic. it is a time for deep meditation and reflection for this slave. this slave has witnessed cathartic floggings where the sub needed LOTS and LOTS of aftercare, so this is a subjective thing to keep in mind. this slave would suggest meditation exercises and also look into what is referred to as "cathartic flogging".

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

A good beating between consenting adults can release all kindsa emotional and mental stress.

i think the key tho, is when you start to release not to direct that release to any negative emotion.

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ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

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So my question is, are there others of you that feel this way? Do you need physical pain to whatever degree to help purge strong emotional pain? If so, does it work at all? Does it help you get through it?

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Sarah

for myself it isn't just emotional pain, it can also be the accumulation of dealing with daily challenges and frustrations.

this is something i wrote a couple of years ago about how i view my subspace.

my sub space is real unique to me, and took me a long time to figure out and explain to my Lord and myself. In the beginning when we first started to play, it took me a long time to find it, but even when i had, i could not describe to him what i was seeing.

It wasn't till this week that W/we figured out why i see nothing when in sub space, and here is why *grins*

Even before play starts or during the warm up, i take the part of me that is my core (spirit) whatever you wish to call it. This is not my mind, or emotions it is my being *my being is what i am, not how He has shaped me or what He has taught me, it is the basis of me and can never be changed, only added to. *

i move it from my body and my mind, and it seems like i move it deep into the earth where my power base is, this is the base that i draw my strength and patience from to do my daily tasks and help me through my daily life struggles. In this power base there is a waste section that holds all the stresses and bad emotions that have affected my life.

During play, my crying, sobbing, and general crying out is me taking out that waste garbage and making room for more power to be put into the base.

The power that i am talking about is the power that is given off by the
Dom and the sub during play, the power of each strike, and the power that my body makes or absorbs when taking those strikes, some strikes I can only absorb a little and have to push the rest of the power away from me, either it is to strong or not the right type of power needed.

So really in a way my body is like a lightening rod for the power to come into, my mind is off watching and sometimes participating *grins* in the play. my being (core) is at my power base making sure everything is all right there *my power base is the safest place that i know of* and connecting my body to my power base is this conduit that transfers the power to the base and the waste is let out of it.

At this point i have never felt that my power base has very been over filled, but when it is getting to the point of empty, my emotions and my life suffer greatly, i am sad and depressed about my life and my life at times has no meaning or reason. Everything is out of control and i don't have the ability to bring things into focus or straighten them out.

i don't know if any one else feels this way about sub space but that is my take on it.

my subspace helps me to find balance within my life and myself.

it does not always need to be intense play, but i do find that then longer between play sessions or the more stressful a time, the more intense the session has to be to get me to that center of peace and balance.

Knight's alandra

(in reply to SweetSarijane)

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ORIGINAL: alandraofMists

i don't know if any one else feels this way about sub space but that is my take on it.

my subspace helps me to find balance within my life and myself

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ORIGINAL: alandraofMists

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ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

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So my question is, are there others of you that feel this way? Do you need physical pain to whatever degree to help purge strong emotional pain? If so, does it work at all? Does it help you get through it?

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Sarah

for myself it isn't just emotional pain, it can also be the accumulation of dealing with daily challenges and frustrations.

this is something i wrote a couple of years ago about how i view my subspace.

my sub space is real unique to me, and took me a long time to figure out and explain to my Lord and myself. In the beginning when we first started to play, it took me a long time to find it, but even when i had, i could not describe to him what i was seeing.

It wasn't till this week that W/we figured out why i see nothing when in sub space, and here is why *grins*

Even before play starts or during the warm up, i take the part of me that is my core (spirit) whatever you wish to call it. This is not my mind, or emotions it is my being *my being is what i am, not how He has shaped me or what He has taught me, it is the basis of me and can never be changed, only added to. *

i move it from my body and my mind, and it seems like i move it deep into the earth where my power base is, this is the base that i draw my strength and patience from to do my daily tasks and help me through my daily life struggles. In this power base there is a waste section that holds all the stresses and bad emotions that have affected my life.

During play, my crying, sobbing, and general crying out is me taking out that waste garbage and making room for more power to be put into the base.

The power that i am talking about is the power that is given off by the
Dom and the sub during play, the power of each strike, and the power that my body makes or absorbs when taking those strikes, some strikes I can only absorb a little and have to push the rest of the power away from me, either it is to strong or not the right type of power needed.

So really in a way my body is like a lightening rod for the power to come into, my mind is off watching and sometimes participating *grins* in the play. my being (core) is at my power base making sure everything is all right there *my power base is the safest place that i know of* and connecting my body to my power base is this conduit that transfers the power to the base and the waste is let out of it.

At this point i have never felt that my power base has very been over filled, but when it is getting to the point of empty, my emotions and my life suffer greatly, i am sad and depressed about my life and my life at times has no meaning or reason. Everything is out of control and i don't have the ability to bring things into focus or straighten them out.

i don't know if any one else feels this way about sub space but that is my take on it.

my subspace helps me to find balance within my life and myself.

it does not always need to be intense play, but i do find that then longer between play sessions or the more stressful a time, the more intense the session has to be to get me to that center of peace and balance.

Knight's alandra

That is well written and amazing. Thank you Alandra for sharing that. The subspace I go into is quite different from that in that I basically leave the world behind, have no awareness of anything, save the Dom's voice and command. I become totally, exclusively focused on him. He is in effect my entire universe at that point. Anything I do or say is by his command and wish with no real thought, only pure reaction/response, and I feel like I'm literally floating or flying free. I've only achieved that state a very few times. It's difficult to really describe it clearly.

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Sarah2
Deviant Mind
Wild Side Readers KCSass

(in reply to alandraofMists)