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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Guys on here usually don't get an answer no matter if they spend an hour reading profile, journal, forum postings, and then crafting a personalized letter. If you commonly did all that work and got nothing for it, wouldn't you stop  bothering also?

The odds are bad enough for male doms, for male subs it's like winning the lottery - damn near impossible. So why waste your time when you'll get the same answer?

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ORIGINAL: WidowSpiders

Sadly, making a post on this board is like preaching to the choir. The majority of people here seem to be eloquent and thoughtful.

Ugh.

That said...

Care to speculate as to why the vast majority of people on this site send one-lines and form letters?

To those who have done so, have you found more or less success with those forms of communication?

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e things. I read profiles and try to either make a personal comment about them and give some sort of conversation lead-in, but I've found the aforementioned difficulty in ge

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Last time I checked, in real life when someone came up you to say they were interested they didnt have to spout of 20 personal things they noticed about you, in fact when the do its considered creepy and stalkerish. Why would do you treat how you would approach someone online differently from real life? Sometimes all thats needed is one line, hell half the time words arent even needed just body language... 

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ORIGINAL: antipode

There are two reasons. One is the one other have mentioned. The second (an this is from my own research, and that of colleagues, in a telecommunications lab) is that there is now an entire generation that grew up with the PC and on the Interweb , and communicates almost exclusively online. I've seen a similar phenomenon in the corporation (300,000 employees), when we introduced all-electronic communications, and phased in online conferencing, and IM, on top of the Lotus Notes that was already there.

It turns out that specifically the youngsters multitask enormously, in ways that did not exist before. A teenager will eat, study, IM on the PC, and text on the cell, all at the same time. Those of you who have kids (I am saying this for the benefit of those who don't, and those outside of North America) are familiar with teenagers having conversations on both lines of the call waiting simultaneously - this has only gotten more intense. So at leat some of the onliners are caused by their "need for speed" - for them, a oneliner is a sentence in a conversation. Look at some of the postings by 18 year olds here - they don't write, they converse, so, for them, a single sentence "probe", to see what comes back, or just a sentence in a conversation, is totally normal. They just have too much to do, and too many people to communicate with. You think it is rude, for them, it is normal. They're commuinicators.

And if you think it is bad here, go to Beijing, as I just have done, and get on the subway. 85% of everybody under 30 on the subway will be texting. Continuously. In many countries, texting is a bigger revenue maker than voice communications. That is the new standard.

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ORIGINAL: Monkeyontuesday

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ORIGINAL: antipode

There are two reasons. One is the one other have mentioned. The second (an this is from my own research, and that of colleagues, in a telecommunications lab) is that there is now an entire generation that grew up with the PC and on the Interweb , and communicates almost exclusively online. I've seen a similar phenomenon in the corporation (300,000 employees), when we introduced all-electronic communications, and phased in online conferencing, and IM, on top of the Lotus Notes that was already there.

It turns out that specifically the youngsters multitask enormously, in ways that did not exist before. A teenager will eat, study, IM on the PC, and text on the cell, all at the same time. Those of you who have kids (I am saying this for the benefit of those who don't, and those outside of North America) are familiar with teenagers having conversations on both lines of the call waiting simultaneously - this has only gotten more intense. So at leat some of the onliners are caused by their "need for speed" - for them, a oneliner is a sentence in a conversation. Look at some of the postings by 18 year olds here - they don't write, they converse, so, for them, a single sentence "probe", to see what comes back, or just a sentence in a conversation, is totally normal. They just have too much to do, and too many people to communicate with. You think it is rude, for them, it is normal. They're commuinicators.

And if you think it is bad here, go to Beijing, as I just have done, and get on the subway. 85% of everybody under 30 on the subway will be texting. Continuously. In many countries, texting is a bigger revenue maker than voice communications. That is the new standard.

I disagree. I'm a "youngster" and of the "PC Generation", but I bother with mechanics, punctuation and thought.

The most one-liners I get are from middle-aged to older men (I would call them gentlemen, but they rarely warrant that title).

I believe it is a mixture of laziness, ignorance of the mechanics of writing and speed -- they want to get to as many people as they can, as many have already stated.

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but I bother with mechanics, punctuation and thought