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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 6:40:53 AM

MrBiguun51

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that definitely sounds weird

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 6:44:48 AM

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Lacie youve run into a scam artist from nigeria most likely ...theyve somehow learned of this site...and are suckering people in when they can...unfortunately the report a profile button doesnt give us an option...of this person is under suspicion for being a scam aritst...just ignore it and keep your eyes peeled...theyll come back at you as another profile two or three times
just keep blocking...these people are incrediably persistant but eventually they WILL go away

hope that helps
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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 7:07:30 AM

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I too have had some strange conversations on the internet. I tend to enjoy talking to just about anyone about nearly any subject. I've had several respond to my profile that were supposedly from the UK or Russia. I'm always interested in learning more about life somewhere else. A trend I noticed was that either initially there was a hard luck story (daughter with cancer or something like that) or after the third email there was a request for personnel information.

I once gave out a little too much information and received some kind of Walmart checks in the mail for a total value of $5,000. I suspect the scam was that I would cash the checks for the person and write a check to her before the ones I cashed cleared the bank. I did not respond to any additional coorespondance from the person I suspect sent the checks and I never heard from her again.

I think you can pretty much weed out the wackos and scammers by looking for inconsistancies in their stories or by their own impatience. I think it's hard to put up a front for too long without giving something away. I also think that it's very hard for a person to hide their true nature when you have some kind of real world interactions with the person especially if that interaction is in the rain or cold and involves hard work. lol.

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 1:20:19 PM

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Let's say i'm a sub getting to know a Dom from the group. By nature she's taking a commanding "posture" in the dialogue. asking questions, almost interviewing me. i expect that. It fits what we're doing here....but.......how does one submit during the "get to know ya" stage and not be wondering....is this gonna bight me in the ass tomorrow?

I think my boy said it best, when you first meet you should feel as if the leash is being offered. It is normal to feel like you may be making a huge mistake the first few weeks because you are negotiating to trust this person with your life & well being. In the beginning it should kind of feel like one of those retractable leashes...give and take until you decide whether to keep it on or take it off and run like heck.

Not sure how I feel about the beginnings of our relationship being compared to a leash but I understand what he means. You feel the tug of the connection pulling you closer and closer but being new you have to discover where the boundaries are.

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 2:54:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

My guess is it was just some jerk whack job having a prank. On the other hand I'm enough of a bastard to report them to the Feds as my idea of a "prank."

I like the way you think on this, and I'd tend to lean that way myself.

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 5:56:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: LacieDoll
First I am smart enough to know the FBI... wouldn't have any idea I was online.

Guess again, sister.

Still, Im sorry this happened to you. I can imagine it caused you a great deal of stress and worry. I hope that you are able to let it go and not waste too much energy on it, as it is most likely just some oddball playing a stupid game. Still, the degree to which we sometimes open up to people online can be a little dangerous. There was one particular Dom I spoke with very briefly who gave me that same kind of wiggy vibe from the beginning and lo and behold, revealed himself to be a wack job after not-too-long a time. Of course, in the journal the next day you know he made some comment about ME being weird.
Glad to see you were able to follow your gut. It's usually right in cases like this.

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 6:02:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

It is normal to feel like you may be making a huge mistake the first few weeks because you are negotiating to trust this person with your life & well being.

Id have to say that if I felt I were "making a huge mistake" in the first few weeks with my Dominant, Id not be with him. Maybe it's because Im able to distinguish the voice of my head (which is full of fear at times and resistant to change) and the voice of my gut (which, aside from the gurgle gurgle of my bowel sounds, usually has some pretty important things to say), but I dont think that feeling as if you're making a horrible mistake is something to to ignore. Not if it comes from your gut. I certainly reached points (I refer to them as a series of crossroads) where I had to decide whether or not I could handle things the way they were going to be if I were to cleave to him, but I never once felt it was a mistake or questioned my own personal safety. Just my experience, but Id hate to think people are out there ignoring good instincts because they think it's "normal" to feel that way "at first".

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RE: What you see is not always what you get - 12/17/2005 6:07:23 PM

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CM has its fair share of little silly folk that get their kicks out of attempting to get a rise out of someone. To me, that doesn't sound like much of a scammer, just more of a dumb prankster. Whoever the person was, prolly went onto some other message board site right after you blocked them and did the same thing.

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