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time out! - 12/17/2005 10:56:16 PM   
foxglove716


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Status: offline 		On the profile interest page one interest option is "corner time." Im assuming that is where the sub is made to stand in a corner following bad behaviour. I am curious to hear from the subs (and masters and mistresses for that matter) on corner time. Do you think its effective? What was your experience with it? Thanks

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RE: time out! - 12/17/2005 11:14:27 PM   
veronicaofML


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From: from iowa..now in wisconsin
Status: offline 		you are asking the wrong one if ya ask ME.
it would only make it worse.

if things can't be talked out,..corner time is only going to make me madder. just like they say,..take a walk to cool down? NOT!
the farther i walk the madder i get.

the last long walk i took...i threw the coffee table out the door...after i was done walking..after i kicked it in two pieces.......

it's best for ME to strike while the iron is hot..........talk out the issue while it is at hand...
it just makes it worse if i have to wait.......

take care

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RE: time out! - 12/17/2005 11:58:27 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Very very effective.

I'm a masochist. You don't hit me when I've messed up. You deny me hitting.

I get put in the corner for missbehaving. It makes me feel childish and horrible more breaking rules.

It's not good if we're having a discussion, but it's a wonderful punishemnt for me

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 3:01:30 AM   
tigress31047


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Status: offline 		This punishment works for me as well...I love talking and and sometimes i get can get caried away and get quite mouthy before i even realize i'm doing it .when i misbehave(either intentionally or not) He knows that taking away the ability to (discuss) things for a while will work , so putting me in a corner naked, cuffed , blindfolded and orded not to speak will get my attention and it always does..i am getting to the point now where i actually see that corne before i speak and it has saved me a few hrs in it..(lol)

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 6:47:14 AM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		that is my punishment...kneeling in the corner,,,with nose to it....30 mins...........i hate it...so yes its effective (and if i'm really bad, i have to kneel on rice too)

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 7:07:57 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I find it very effective, however, I use a humiliation twist, in the corner, arms raised, hands on top of the head, pants down---it works very well to get one's focus back where it needs to be--

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 7:19:04 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		When it's used as a "calm down" time to make the sub settle and think through things, it's great, just like being told to meditate.

When it's used as "I'm sending you away because I don't know how to deal with you" then there may be further complications.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 8:08:45 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Since I am a lover of pain, putting me in the corner is a huge punishment, and one that, in the past, worked very well at altering my, umm, somewhat bratty behavior :P

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 8:22:36 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		Any punishment session is followed by quiet kneeling time in a corner. Reflection in silence is the final purging of the behavior that caused the punishment. Usually followed by doing out for an elegant dinner. I just love to see beth squirm on her chair at a nice restaurant. There was a transition when fear of disappointment became a bigger deterrent than any physical consequence. Since I see the need for punishment as an indication of failure on the part of the Master as much as the slave, I'm happy that at this stage of our relationship, punishment is very infrequent.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 9:01:30 AM   
sub4mistressnsir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Since I am a lover of pain, putting me in the corner is a huge punishment, and one that, in the past, worked very well at altering my, umm, somewhat bratty behavior :P


Oh I do hope Mistress n Sir don't just happen to read this thread <giggles>... they would use it that is for sure because I am also a lover of pain and I can be a brat at times...

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 9:22:35 AM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		Corner time for me is very effective as i hate not having attention from my Dominant. Ive even been made to put a nickel between my nose and the wall to prevent fidgeting. Hoping My new owner doesn't read this... no new ideas.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 12:38:10 PM   
ThatLilBrat


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quote:

Since I see the need for punishment as an indication of failure on the part of the Master as much as the slave, ...


An interesting statement for me to ponder. Thank you.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 5:39:03 PM   
phoenixMF


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quote:

ORIGINAL: foxglove716

Do you think its effective? What was your experience with it? Thanks



How effective is corner time? That would be different for each sub/slave... as we are all different in our respects.

My personal experience with corner time...

my father used corner time to an extreme during my childhood... so I learned to dissociate... while he was sitting nearby reading a book to make sure I didn't move... I wasn't even there at all... I was in a beautiful meadow... with the sun shining bright... riding my horse in a wild gallop all around the meadow... happy and smiling...

one day, he asked me... "How can you stand there, so still, for such a long time?"
I told him... "I'm not here, daddy... I make myself real small and I go through those tiny holes in the paneling... and I have a big world I go to... and I have so much fun there."

he didn't make me stand in the corner anymore, after that.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 5:50:30 PM   
SweetEscravo


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Status: offline 		I think corner time is best when in conjuction with other punishments. If I've gotten spanked or lectured, then put in the corner to think about it, also knowing there is more when I get out, it definitly gives me time to think about what I did and worry about whats coming next. But I think that if that was ALL I got, or the first thing he did while I was still angry it wouldn't be very effective. Do something like a spanking or lecture ect FIRST to get rid of your anger and then go to the corner.

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 6:36:59 PM   
DoYouHaveOne


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quote:

How effective is corner time? That would be different for each sub/slave... as we are all different in our respects.


we are different in our psyche's as well...what works for one is silly and useless with another...
what really works for one might be considered extreme and abusive and the same might never be used with another D/s, M/s couple cause it never crossed their mind....

a Master/Dom/Daddy uses what is effective on the sub/slave/girl

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RE: time out! - 12/18/2005 8:34:35 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		I think the worst punishment that my current boy has had was as follows:

Take a quarter and hold it against the wall with your nose
Upper body at a 25 to 30 degree angle to the wall
hands behind back
knees slightly bent at all times (locked knees can lead to passing out)
if the quarter drops time starts over
meanwhile forgiveness is begged and failings detailed

This punishment was rather short lived but HIGHLY effective. All I have to do is flip a quarter in my hand when he is pushing limits and it immediatly stops.

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RE: time out! - 12/19/2005 12:00:13 AM   
slavedesires


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Status: offline 		it is "the" reminder, no matter what it is ... that can be more highly effective than punishment...

had to smile Rose, it would have been VERY short lived and higly effective for me...
my inner thighs quivver as i think of it now.

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RE: time out! - 12/19/2005 7:34:39 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		It was one of the longest 20 minutes of my life and I didn't detail how long he'd been there until MUCH later. One of the benefits of this punishment is that time stops for the punishee and the intensity is their focus. I did remind him that he had to keep his body in the correct posture and only into the punishment did I tell him that he had to keep his knees bent or he'd pass out. Afterwards he said that was worse then the punishment itself. The idea that in that moment I had the control to drop him to the floor was what drove him to complete the task no matter what.
I think the hardest thing for me as the Top was rather coldly telling him to pick the quarter up in his teeth after he dropped it 8 minutes in and tell him time starts over. Watching him in tears following my bidding got the job done but I wouldn't say was one of my favorite D/s experiences.
I won't go for the cliche this will hurt me more than you but any Top/Dom/me that says that they enjoy discipline for negative behavior is nuts. I would rather hear sobs of pleasure than tears & sobs of abject humiliation anytime.

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RE: time out! - 12/19/2005 11:17:30 PM   
nonuts4thshoney


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Status: offline 		Well, corner time doesn't work for me because i enjoy alone time. i could be in the corner for a long time with no problem. my mind just wonders with random thoughts...LOL! Since i'm a masochist, beatings wont work because i'd like them. So, the only thing that works for me is kneeling on uncooked rice. That totally sucks big time. i've done it twice and i'll tell you, it sure did work.

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RE: time out! - 12/20/2005 7:44:02 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Corner time. Now that is interesting that is what my sister does to her little sons when they are bad. I personally don't think that would work for me. Some people i guess it would work very well for, i am just not one of them.

littleone

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