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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/10/2008 8:08:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Second verse, same as the first....

All the good ones are TAKEN!

Ahem......

OK all the good ones are taken or living in a different country.....

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/10/2008 9:21:20 PM

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I am not sure that the "good ones" exist until they ARE taken, actually...there may be some Mary Poppins subs who are Practically Perfect in Every Way from the first day, but I think for most people it takes time and care to blossom. This description certainly is moving and a wonderful description of joy in service, but it also subtly says a lot about the kind of dominant that can make service joyful.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/10/2008 9:32:50 PM

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Service isn't a word I use, helping out would be a better term. If I can do something to "help out," free up her time, that is more time that she can spend with me.

Service is exactly the word I would use, if we were going to call it anything (gets a little tricky when dating a vanilla who doesn't realize...), and wouldn't date anyone who thought he was "helping me out." I'd expect it, and we may not even name it service, but in my head....

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/10/2008 10:17:58 PM

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Shakti:
You make an interesting point.
Since it really does take a good dom/me to make a sub/slave more than how they originally started.

Its also not true about what is said about a sub/slave having served another dom/me prior. If anything it makes it much easier for the dom/me to remove what they do not like and instill what they do want from their sub/slave.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 12:36:19 AM

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Its also not true about what is said about a sub/slave having served another dom/me prior. If anything it makes it much easier for the dom/me to remove what they do not like and instill what they do want from their sub/slave.

It may very well not be true for you Aszrae, but it is true for a great many submissives/slaves. I'm not even a little happy when someone tells me they have a lot of experience, and can serve me as a result. I would be very happy (were I searching), if someone said I have experience, but am willing to learn what you desire/need from me as your submissive or slave.

It is MNSHO that each dominant dominates to his/her specifications, so experience may or may not be wonderful to have... Unless of course it is all about kinky sex, than I really don't fit in, but this wouldn't be the first time, lol. I find that sexual domination, without the inconvenient/un-fun service part, is the easiest thing in the world to find. M

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 2:18:51 AM

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Thank you for that post. You have succeded in a few well written short sentences in explaining how many of us who would serve actually feel. It is not about the sex but the submission and the joy in completing the assigned tasks. Thanks again. You have put forth an excellent description.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 3:58:35 AM

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Oh! Oh! Oh! I might have found a houseboy! Keeping my fingers crossed. He talks a good game... now let's see if he actually shows up. Darn! WHEN? I need the house cleaned for the holidays but I'm so frelling busy... I don't have time to break in a new boy. We gotta do all the interviewing and so forth before I bring a stranger into my home. ARGH! My life is so complicated.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 10:16:01 AM

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Greetings A/all,

i am also a domestic house slave (part-time) to my Owner, Mistress Xena. i was on trial for 11 months before She decided to own me. i have to completely agree with the OP that the position of houseboy is ALL about service to the Mistress/Master.

i clean the house, from the kitchen to the bathroom and everything in between. i work in the garden. i sand the garden furniture to remove the old paint so that they can be repainted. i clean the outdoor jacuzzi. i go shopping and drive my Mistress around when required. And, i also give Her pedicures. The reward for me for my services is being allowed to be in Her presence and in Her service. Knowing that i make Her life easier. Becoming an indispencable part of Her life and Household. Seeing Her smile and knowing that She is pleased. That's all i require. i am so proud to be Her slave and Her domestic.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 11:09:33 AM

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Thank you all for your responses.

Shakti- you hit the nail on the head. The service I have provided and continue to give to my Sirs and Ma'am is based off of a mutually beneficial exchange. While outwardly it may seem like service submissives recieve nothing for their labors, in my personal experience nothing is farther from the truth. My Sirs check in with me weekly (if not daily) about my life, school, work, and progress towards my goals. They encourage the potential that I have to be a man of passion, integrity, and my own version of success. There is no absence on the part of my Sirs, on the contrary, they are always available to talk, even if it means the dishes don't get done.

I have never been the "perfect submissive". When I began my journey, I was an awkward 19 year old kid, just starting to figure out who I was and what I enjoyed in the world of kink. Today, that process continues. The work I do is constantly appraised by my Dominants, and I am given feedback which I am expected to respond to immeadiatley. The care and patience it takes to rear a service submissive to a Dominant's expectations is not for the weak at heart- it is a labor of love for both parties. It takes a nurturing individual with high expectations to meet the needs of a service submissive, and I am so greatful to those who have provided me and continue to provide me with that guidance. It is invaluable to me to have men to look up to in the scene, who care for me, and would put the task list aside in a second if they thought we all needed to check in.

It really is so much more than "helping out". No task is meaningless if your intentions are set on those who you serve.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 12:27:13 PM

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My house is pretty damned messy. Now, where do I find someone with your attitude in a female body? Your post made me 'D'awww'.

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 3:12:59 PM

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As a very committed male sub, i believe deeply in providing a sense of warmth........ie licking her feet to wake her up...breakfast in bed ...bathing her , dressing Her etc!

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 3:14:21 PM

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Somebody wakes me up licking my feet... gets kicked! And not in a fun way! lol

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RE: How to feed your Houseboy... - 12/11/2008 3:23:46 PM

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Thank you for this.
I do have a very happy sub, but as a switch I have submissive needs too....
This is why I do my own cooking and cleaning. Not only am I a perfectionist lol, but I get into a kind of subspace and I enjoy it. It would be so much more satisfying if it were for someone else....