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A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 5:42:17 PM   
DeepWaters


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Status: offline 		This is sort of my rebuttal to Foxer55's post.

Girls please tell us guys: whats it like on the other side of the fence?

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

Sincerely
DW
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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 5:51:42 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeepWaters

This is sort of my rebuttal to Foxer55's post.

Girls please tell us guys: whats it like on the other side of the fence?

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

Sincerely
DW


LOL oh my.

I get about 75 emails a day, but my profile is purposefully vague as to what I am exactly looking for. I don't give out alot of information, and I pretty much state that things will go very slowly with me. That cuts down on alot of mail :)

Out of those 75....I would say that 73 are creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, idotic asses, and form letters :) The rest are actually nice, out of those two a day, I have managed to make some pretty good friends already ( and yes, met them in RT ).

But then, who's not to say that maybe 1 in the 73 that I toss out is not a gentleman to some degree? Someone very interesting could have been included in there, and maybe he was just having a bad day or something, and when he emailed me, it reflected that.

I think the thing I get most frustrated with is the fact that I am very opinionated, and I don't try to hide it...alot of mail I get comments, quite rudely, that I need to basically shut my mouth up and be more of a lady.
/shrug

Not sure if that is what you were asking or not, but...LOL...there it is.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 5:57:42 PM   
willing2serve


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quote:

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

Sincerely
DW


When my orientation was submissive, I received many emails up to 100-150 a week, even though my profile said "owned".

Master had me change my profile to couple orientation, now I get about one a week. THink He knew what he was doing? LOL

Ironically, my wording wasnt changed, just the search orientation.

I have been very fortunate...Ive been on callarme for a very long time and I've probably only received one rude email and I cant even recall what it was about.

Ive met many from collarme, I wouldnt say any one of them were fakers, to them their perception was real...Just not the same as mine (smile)

Respectfully,
BTs willing

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:01:40 PM   
Redb


Posts: 41
Joined: 1/19/2005
Status: offline 		I have my PM box filled with about 30 messages every day...

i immediately delete the following:

one-liners (say something interesting),
badly spelt (make an effort will ya),
blanket mails (i have more than one ID, i know that you've sent the same mail to every domme in my area)
ones with naked pictures (i dont want to see your flabby arse before my morning coffee).


Once i've weeded out all those ones, i read the mail i've received and if it doesnt annoy me, i'll look at the profile.
If he matches what i'm looking for, i'll think about it for a bit and then reply. Its a long process..

Maybe i'll chat with one new person a week... if even that !! :D

**shamelessly cut and pasted from a post of mine in another thread**

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:13:13 PM   
foxglove716


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Status: offline 		Like Irishmist, I average about 75 a day. My profile clearly states "do not contact me unless you have something interesting to say" , and the fact that so many people think simply "hi how are you" is interesting depresses me. I get a lot of people telling me how sexy I am, I never take the time to discern the creeps from the admirers and just take it as a compliment. I get a lot of "repeat offenders" that I just delete immediately. Ive only had a few blatently rude messages, my favourites are the ones that inform me how terribly submissive Im not. ha!

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:30:41 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
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From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I changed my first picture, so I don't get all the annoying emails here that I used to--but I still do on that site that starts with A! Yes, much of my mail is from wankers, men who in no way match what I am looking for, men from far off lands (Islamic countries, especially), married guys, and of course, Random Insults. I remain most baffled by those.

I am extremely specific in my profile, and I use Larger Words. That alone chases most of the wannabes off. It's a tiresome thing, hunting via internet. I do scan profiles now and then, and get very little response to the letters I write, or wind up in chats that never turn into RT meetings. Such is life! At least I can multitask while on the boards!

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:33:41 PM   
MsIncognito


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Joined: 5/24/2005
Status: offline 		Lately I seem to be getting emails from people who are too far away to be anything more than penpals but who seem compelled to implore me "Don't think the distance is an obstacle." Of course the distance is an obstacle. If you read my profile it's blatantly clear that I am not available to relocate and that I'm not interested in any cyber or online activities so if a person isn't within a reasonable driving distance ( a couple of hours, max) then it'll never ben anything more than penpals and that's not what floats my boat.

The number of emails vaires a lot. Sometimes it's a couple a week. Other times it's several a day, but rarely more than that. It's hard to determine which category people fall into with just one email, especially the ones that say nothing but "hello."

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:34:09 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		well i've been on here about 6 weeks.i have about 15 pgs of mail(i'm an ole bitch,hehe, so i get left alone)i did meet one from here and talk to another on the phone.coreesponded briefly w/ another 2.
i have met my mentor and sister here.my mentor takes care of the idiotic mailers for me.
i hate it when i state 'i am not seeking' and they write anyway.maybe they think i dont mean them,lol.
i generally tell them i'm spoken for so 'go away',thanks but no thanks.
had loads of idiots that don't bother to even get a reply,like a blank profile, one liners, the wonderous form letters..........

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:34:25 PM   
krikket


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From: Washington, DC Metro Area
Status: offline 		i get 2 or 3 a day from people i don't know - shrugs -- kinda comes with the territory.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 6:47:00 PM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		Some days I get 10 or more, some days just one or two.
Most are polite, funny and respectful.
Some are one-liners. They have obviously not read my profile.
Some are rude. (see above)
Some expect me to submit to them right away. (uhm yah, right)
Some are just on...a different level intellectually, than me. I have to be able to respect, and even hopefully look up to anyone I could consider as a dom.
I have met some v nice people here, and am happy to be here.
Thanks so much for all that I have had the chance to get to know!

Christina

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 8:51:53 PM   
liljoy


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Status: offline 		hmm i don't get any emails which is Good because i'm not looking. On the rare occasion that i have gotten emails they've been people commenting about somthing i've posted here. i never have a problem with that.
lil_joy

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 9:10:15 PM   
caitlyn


Posts: 3473
Joined: 12/22/2004
Status: offline 		I used to get quite a few, but for whatever reason, don't get that many now, other than from people I know or people commenting on posts made here.

I don't fit into that group that gets freaked out by form posts or one-liners, or even pickup line emails. I mean, it can't really be all that easy to figure out what to say to a woman, and if you're looking, you have to say something. I have a very hard time knowing how to answer these posts, so I give the benefit of doubt that the sender has some of the same problems.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/18/2005 9:34:20 PM   
cravinspankin


Posts: 127
Joined: 10/4/2005
Status: offline 		I get few messages anymore. And what I do get, they almost always seem to be from out of state, or they are married men, though I state clearly in my profile i seek a real-life relationship with a Dom who is not married or in a serious relatioship, and that i seek someone who is at least a reasonable distance from me.. meaning we are close enough to spend significant time with each other to get to know one another and build a viable relationship.
And of those who message me... some are very nice, very complimentary and gentlemanlike. I do get some who simply ask to spank or have sex with me.
I reply to most messages, but not to those, as I would never agree to let a stranger spank me or engage in any other bdsm play... nor am i looking for a roll in the hay.
But most often, the men have been fairly respectful in their initial contact.



< Message edited by cravinspankin -- 12/18/2005 9:37:01 PM >

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 2:11:39 AM   
swtnsparkling


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Status: offline 		I get a couple emails a day from a friend and maybe one a month from some one I don't know.
I guess I'm lucky I am of no interest. LOL

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 5:50:25 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Today, I still get about 4-5 a day,and half of those from petitions--even though My profile states clearly that I will only take mentoring questions--before I had boy, I was getting about 12-15 a day, 90% of those from the "freaks"--most never reading the profile, merely trolling, hoping for a wanker hit--

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 6:00:58 AM   
MstrssPassion


Posts: 2444
Joined: 1/1/2004
From: West Palm Beach, FL
Status: offline 		I don't bother to count the number I receive each day but the volume is high. Within those emails the percentage is extremely high. My profile lays out rather specific guidelines as to what I expect in a first email. My guidelines are not about the individual per se, it is more about the content of their introduction & indication that they DID read my entire profile.

I have adamantly expressed that I do not want one-liners or requests for chat.

I would have to estimate that maybe 2 out a 100 emails actually meet all of the guidelines I have set.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 9:08:54 AM   
windy135


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Joined: 10/17/2005
Status: offline 		all depends somedays I'll get 15 somedays I'll get 3 or 4. I don't get as many now that my profile says switch and not submissive. I'm kinda stuck in the middle I want a Dom. but I'm not a 24/7 sub. and would like to try being a Dom. I'm one of those people who is not sure what she truely wants.. :)

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 9:32:23 AM   
Wildfleurs


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Joined: 9/24/2004
From: Connecticut
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeepWaters

This is sort of my rebuttal to Foxer55's post.

Girls please tell us guys: whats it like on the other side of the fence?

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

Sincerely
DW


I probably get about two or so emails a week from people I don't know. It doesn't really bother me, I just delete them.

C~

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 9:38:29 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		i don't really know how many emails i get on a day; it's higher on the weekends, of course. Most are new people; some are repeats. i rarely get the insulting emails at first; usually i have to p*** off the guy first. i have a enigma; i correspond they correspond and somehow they manage to fall off the radar. Most are probably married.

candystripper

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 10:13:27 AM   
MasterLark


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeepWaters

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

Sincerely
DW


I have belatedly read the responses to your question and found it rather illuminating.

I wonder why none of the ladies were so turned off by the "bad mail" that they have not left. Perhaps the occasional "wheat" in all that chaff makes it worthwhile periodically?

I am thankful I get only a minimum of mail from "creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile..."

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