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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 11:30:46 AM

thetammyjo

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I probably get 3 to 5 notes a week -- but I've tried to be very clear about what I want in my profile and I think folks who see my posts (sadly not a large percentage of the board participate in them) know that I'm interested in particular types of people.

My first month I got more notes, most of them honestly not from people who looked beyond the "dominant, sadist woman" part of the listing.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 12:09:15 PM

Chaingang

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ORIGINAL: DeepWaters
How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

What difference does it make to a sincere man even if the signal to noise ratio is very low?

Simply put: I don't care how a woman relates to the whole world, I care about how she relates to me. If the interest goes one way only, I just move on to the next one. No problem.

When my own profile was more filled in I used to get my share of "noise" communications. I just ignored them - which is what anyone with a brain does. My time is precious to me, I can't waste it on everyone with a meaningless demand for my attention. I understand if others do the same.

At the same time, if many women make no effort to weed out solid prospects from the frivolous ones, that's not my problem either. I care not at all. In my own experience, the world is filled with lonely subs looking for someone to Dominate them. They out number us guys by a lot. If the truth be told, most subs are appalling losers unfit to lick even the underside of my boots. So in my own estimation, worthy subs are also few and far between.

That there is this SNR problem online is no issue to me - in fact, if anything the SNR problem points up how few real Doms are truly available. I don't really waste my time worrying about why I don't succeed with some women, I focus on those with whom I do succeed. One of my requirements for the women I am into is that they also be into me. I chase no one, they meet me at least half way or I am gone.

Bottom line: I am real, sincere, and don't play bullshit games.

YMMV, feel free to carry on with a very nearly pointless discussion of how tough things are in a would-be sub's inbox. Yawn...

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 3:21:20 PM

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My first 2 weeks on this site, (been here about a month now) I would get 50-100 a day. But now that my profile is changed, and my Journal states my firm beliefs on where I stand on things dealing with my personal life. They've narrowed down to 3-4 a day. Sometimes more. And it's usually someone telling me to stand firm, and never allow anyone to move me from my position.

It shows me that I can still be true to myself, and have someone still look at me and know i'm not going to be something I'm not. Specially when they talk to me.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 3:29:52 PM

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I get between 3 and 10 a day

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 3:51:36 PM

YveGee

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I get 3-10 per day (dozens on the weekend) mostly from friends and penpals.

Creeps and wankers just get deleted so I don't keep count of them.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 4:11:20 PM

LadiesBladewing

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quote:

ORIGINAL: willing2serve

Master had me change my profile to couple orientation, now I get about one a week. THink He knew what he was doing? LOL

Respectfully,
BTs willing

SilverRose and myself have found the same thing. I only get a couple of emails a month, and they are usually directed to -us- or related to my posts here, rather than being huge numbers of trolling posts. I think that is because most people who are just trolling aren't searching for those who are already in declared committed relationships (even -poly- declared committed relationships).

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 4:52:32 PM

MissDiandSirHugh

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We do not get to many which probably both being Doms and a couple at least shows either the photo of us makes them move on.
But we do get some very nice ones from around the world just asking for some help from those who have a feeling of wanting to serve a couple and in what would they have to think of in deciding to go into that side of their Submission.
But have also had ones from those who once you read their profile see they are only after a Mistress and soon never to be heard of again when told it is the two of us

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 7:23:20 PM

physcsdrk

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I get quite a bit of email per day, I am not sure of the numbers. Most people don't read my profile (it is quite obvious), but that doesn't bother me in the least. I always reply to all of the emails. Now that I have a dom I don't read the men's profiles, but before I had one, I always read the profile before responding. (unless they were outside of my stated age limits, then I would just tell them that.)

A note on not wasting your time though, I never respond to anything beyond the actual content of an email; i.e. if the email says
"hello, how are you"
then I type back
"I am fine, how are you"

Especially if I am not interested in exploring anything further with the person. (note: I am always interested in new friends, that is not what I am talking about.) I never actually tell a person I am not interested until they ask.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/19/2005 7:28:04 PM

BalletBob

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Irish Mist. I didn't realize you went through that much mail, and apologize for e-mailing you. Please except my sincerest apology, and I won't let it happen again.....LMCLAO

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/20/2005 1:39:52 AM

themischievous1

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quote:

How many emails do you get an hour? a day? a week? a month?

and of those whats the precentage breakdown: of creeps, freaks, stalkers, players, people who are just plain rude A$$holes, and those who simple dont read your profile vs the gentlemen you want to meet?

It varies but usually several a day. Unfortunately, there are always a few that haven't read my profile out of these. I don't respond to those at all. The rest are very polite, friendly, supportive, and the majority comment on my profile in depth.

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RE: A question to the ladies - 12/20/2005 5:31:05 AM

IrishMist

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Irish Mist. I didn't realize you went through that much mail, and apologize for e-mailing you. Please except my sincerest apology, and I won't let it happen again.....LMCLAO

No worries Bob, LOL....Your emails.....I keep