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When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 6:26:44 AM   
greeneyedreamer


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Status: offline 		When did you KNOW that your dominant was the perfect one for you?

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 7:20:45 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		I have never considered our relationship perfect, but then I believe there are no perfect relationships.  I do not believe there is only ONE who will be right for a relationship, nor do I believe in a single soulmate.

I knew we were right for each other when we could both accept each others' ways, including annoying habits.  We laughed together lot.  We had fun.  We discovered that we actually care what the other thought and said.  We enjoy being together.  We are best friends, Dom and sub, as well as lovers. 

The relationship works so there is no reason to second guess it and wonder if it's perfect. 

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 7:20:48 AM   
donnaamarie


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Status: offline 		Hi greeneyedreamer,

The first time he touched me I knew.  I had picked him up at the airport and we stopped at a place for him to eat.  I was standing waiting for him to get out of the men's room and then he came up behind me.  He did nothing more than put his hand on the small of my back, but that touch was enough to send shivers down my spine. 

It's been almost 6 years and that touch now not only makes me shiver but also makes me feel very safe.

donna

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 7:48:43 AM   
IvyMorgan


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Status: offline 		When he asked real nice if he could hold my hand.
When she let me give her cuddles after she had a nightmare.
When something I wrote made her unhappy.
Pass - I don't know him well enough yet.

When he made me scream/melt with one finger, after being quite determined to get it right and not listening when I said it didn't matter.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 8:13:16 AM   
NuevaVida


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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 8:16:01 AM   
slaveluci


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Status: offline 		I began to get the first inkling when we spent our first day in conversation without so much as a whisper about kink or sex or anything of that nature.

We talked for hours about our favorite music and books and our tastes were uncannily similar.  We turned each other onto some favorites that were formerly unknown to the other and just talked as if we were old friends.

I had never felt so comfortable or seemed to have so much in common with a man like that before.

Yep, that's when I began to get that first inkling.....................luci

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 9:01:21 AM   
BeIgnited


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Status: offline 		He got my Seinfeld reference while we were in the shower together. 

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 9:12:47 AM   
LydiaSciKitten


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Status: offline 		Mm, I actually didn't know anything at all for a year, and still don't know if' 'he is the one for me', as I don't actually believe there is one for each one of us, like matching underwear froma  factory. What I DO know is that He is the one I want right now, and that I feel He will be the one I will want for quite a long time. So the question is, when did I realise that He was what I wanted.

It was some 10 months after we'd started talking, and some 6-7 since we'd been sleeping together. Funnily enough I had that moment without Him being around. It was not something He did or said, it was a purely personal realisation. I was in the shower, listening to Perfect by the Cruxshadows, and singing along the lines of  'I don't think you know that I believe in you, I don't think you understand how much I love you still, I don't think you realise that you are perfect in my eyes...etc'. And all of a sudden it occured to me that I felt exactly like what the song described. Which terrified me, because I was quite the commitment-phobic. But yeah, it was my moment, and only one or two weeks later I told Him about it too.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 9:42:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy knew i was the right daughter for Him the moment we met. it took me a little more time to reach that point - 4 months to be exact. i knew He was right for me upon presenting me a wrist chain and then saying the collar will arrive soon.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 11:13:04 AM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		The first time I set eyes upon Him. I turned around in the bar of the restaurant where we were to meet (He had called to say He was stuck in traffic), and there He was, walking towards me. He was so tall, so broad, so handsome and the power was radiating off of Him. I was motionless for a second- caught between the impulses to either reach out and place both my hands on his arms in recognition or fall to my knees in acknowledgment of His Dominance. I know it sounds strange now, but I think I proved love at first sight to myself that evening.
 
And with every major and minor life event- the first time He had me drive the 40 minutes to Him so He could use me and send me home; our first long bike trip (and is THAT a story..); after six months and knowing we were permanent, His meeting my children; flying with us across the country when their father died, our first public play, meeting my mom, meeting His mom.....on and on- He proves to me over and over that He is the perfect one for me.
 
And I do respectfully disagree with Him on one thing- I am the lucky one.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 1:07:25 PM   
natasha66


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Status: offline 		When He asked how my stepdad was doing after cancer surgery.  We'd only been chatting online a few weeks at that point but something clicked inside me.  i had to take a chance....and i am glad i did.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 11:05:28 PM   
babygirlkitten


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Status: offline 		The first time I heard his voice. There was just something in his voice that made me (and still does) melt. It only got better after that.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/9/2008 11:19:37 PM   
scottishdove


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Status: offline 		the first moment i set on eyes on him when we met in person for the first time, it was instant comfort.

then, when he touched my face and talked to me during our first meeting, i was mesmerized and completely at peace.

alice

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 12:04:02 AM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		I do so love reading your posts, hejira:)

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 12:11:29 AM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		Your question made me smile OP.  I’m not exactly sure when that moment became clear to me, after knowing Him for six months I knew that I loved Him.  I would say within a year I fell in love with Him and knew my life was better for having Him in it, and that He was and is the perfect Man, Dom, lover, and friend I could ever want. 
I’m still amazed how our relationship has evolved into what it is today.  At the moment I can’t find a word to describe how I feel about Him and what we have together, and actually I don’t think there is just one word…. I am truly blessed and very thankful for what we have together.

girly

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 6:21:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Third meet. We were meeting halfway and I got totally lost. No GPS and I was upset and crying into the phone, and tossing it down every minute to try to find out where I was. Wound up on the Merritt Parkway somewhere in Connecticut instead of back on the Hutch to give up and go home, found a gas station and pulled in and just sat there and cried. He managed to figure out where I was, come there, held me for a long time and had me follow him back. When it was time for me to go home, he first drove me to where the entrance to 297N was, then had me follow him to it, and told me if I got lost on the way home he would again come find me.

He dealt with me panicking without ever getting angry. Just calmed me down and solved the situation, as he has several times since. How could I not love him for that?



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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 9:44:39 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Master knew he wanted me when we wrer just talking on the phone had not evem met face to face yet.  He said you will be mine, i said how can you say that we have not even met yet.  He says it was his Irish intution.  When i knew he was the one for me was actually in our first face to face meeting.  I knw i liked him from out phoe conversatoins.  We were in a Starbucks and it was noisy, so i had to lean in close and talk almost in his ear. I leaned in to say something he turned his head and our lips met that is when i knew.  That was almost 3 years ago.

Matt's littleone

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 3:54:41 PM   
IAMChristine


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Status: offline 		i've thought twice now that i had that "knowledge" i was wrong both times.  maybe the long in the future third time will be the charm.

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 10:06:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know if I can pinpoint the exact moment but it was very soon after we started talking.  It was something about the way he could make me laugh and they way he really listened when we talked. 

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RE: When did you KNOW? - 11/10/2008 10:18:01 PM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		I knew, after we grew apart after high school, and I moved halfway across the country but still thought about "gee, I wonder whatever happened to____ I sure miss him".  When I moved back to my homestate, and one of the first questions I asked her was "hey do any of ya'll ever run into ___ I sure miss him".  When we ran into each other at the bar one night shortly after the x and I split up, and he came back to our house for snacks, and kissed me.  On the 13th of Sept, when he declared that I belonged to him. 

Awww, now I have the warm and fuzzies after reading everyone's tales and sharing my own!!!  I'm gonna go find that ornery ass man right now, and give him a hug. 

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