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So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 1:35:53 PM   
hedonist


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The question is tossed out.
Now for clarification-
Real= Actually desires to meet in person
Real= Wants to Dominate you, not just 'f' a girls brains out
Real= Has time in life to tend to 'maintenance' of a submissive or slave
Real= 3D, has a life and is not HNG

Submit your answers to my wrath !!!  <lol>

psst yes I realize slave spelled salve is incorrect. Is it a Freudian slip  acknowledging the soothing and relaxing ability a slave has on their Dominant ?


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 1:39:49 PM   
Lynnxz


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On a more serious note, I'd suspect that common sense would play a big part into the equation.


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 1:45:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Even those who meet your 4 criteria might not be "real", they might be playing the part still. I know at least 1 dominant that comes to mind who dominates his girl because he thinks she expects it, not because he actually wants to. Does that count as real?
Finding someone you consider a good match, real by someone elses standards or not, is hit and miss. You talk, see if you click and then move from there.
Like Lynn said, its a lot of common sense.

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 4:40:30 PM   
celticlord2112


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 5:33:26 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hedonist

Now for clarification-
Real= Actually desires to meet in person

um, ok if you say so

quote:

Real= Wants to Dominate you, not just 'f' a girls brains out

uh huh ...again that's your opinion. Daddy does more than "dominate".  He also cares, nutures, mentors, etc etc

quote:

Real= Has time in life to tend to 'maintenance' of a submissive or slave

you make it sound like submissives/slave are objects. i'm no object ...real human being who doesn't need maintaining

quote:

Real= 3D, has a life and is not HNG

some real dominants don't have a life either

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 5:35:06 PM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 6:58:56 PM   
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Look for guys with an avatar of two elephants fucking.


Doggone it LAM... I was always told it was the guy who carried his toys on his belt. 

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 9:32:30 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		It begins with the submissive knowing what qualities she believes HER 'real' Dom should possess and then going about chatting and communicating with Doms until she finds one, using her common sense as Lynnxz suggested, who suits her needs and desires, and vice versa. 

Edited to add:  the fucking elephants and toy belt are dead giveaways.  As is dressing head-to-toe in black, with at least two articles of clothing being leather. 

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/9/2008 10:48:51 PM   
babygirlkitten


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Status: offline 		There's no real way that you can tell with 100% certainty until you're there in a real life relationship with that person, and even then, you can always be wrong. However, there are certain things that are pretty indicitive of a fake (emails immediately demanding you serve them, immediate requests for nude photos, a refusal to talk on the phone, unavailable on nights and weekends, etc). But, mostly, it comes down to intuition.

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:02:56 AM   
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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:04:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Their cunt gets wet, their brains turn to mush, and they giggle like a schoolgirl.

speak for yourself


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:46:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Their cunt gets wet, their brains turn to mush, and they giggle like a schoolgirl.



Hello?  Is it time for roll call?


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:48:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Their cunt gets wet, their brains turn to mush, and they giggle like a schoolgirl.



Hello?  Is it time for roll call?


Cali


i was thinking more of a reality check.


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:51:40 AM   
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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 8:58:07 AM   
sirsholly


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I wasn't aware I could do anything else.

you did. you spoke for me, as a sub.

i am a weal twue sub, and will take the leap that you are a weal twue Dom.

if we were to ever meet, please allow me to assure you i would not be wet in any vital areas, my brain would remain stable, you would not be addressed as Sir, Dom or Master, and i would not giggle like a schoolgirl...though i might laugh my ass off if this is the attitude you present.


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 9:16:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		You kidding holly? 
Maybe just for clarification I should "spill the beans"  that almost everything Michael or I post is, on some level, meant to excite the other.  I LOVE the fact that so many other women enjoy His posts as well, but He wrote that because I do get wet, my brain does turn to mush, and He LOVES when I giggle like a schoolgirl..

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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 9:46:41 AM   
sirsholly


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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

You kidding holly? 
Maybe just for clarification I should "spill the beans"  that almost everything Michael or I post is, on some level, meant to excite the other.  I LOVE the fact that so many other women enjoy His posts as well, but He wrote that because I do get wet, my brain does turn to mush, and He LOVES when I giggle like a schoolgirl..

If Michaels post was directed to you then he should have made that fact known.
He uses the word "Their"..implying all...not just you.

To say that all slaves/subs have a preset response to a Dom is simply silly.


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 9:57:20 AM   
RCdc


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And answers.
 
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RE: So how does a slave spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 10:06:21 AM   
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LOL



<Edited to correct the word "slave" in the topic>


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RE: So how does a salve spot a 'Real Dom' ? - 11/10/2008 10:12:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

You kidding holly? 
Maybe just for clarification I should "spill the beans"  that almost everything Michael or I post is, on some level, meant to excite the other.  I LOVE the fact that so many other women enjoy His posts as well, but He wrote that because I do get wet, my brain does turn to mush, and He LOVES when I giggle like a schoolgirl..


There are other women on this planet? 


 (Legal Notice: to those who object to unilateral statements, I do realize there are other women, there are even other women who I am with, but this is what we call flirting and so one is allowed to make grandious and or silly statements, not valid in Hawai, Alaska, and Gor)

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