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Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 9:51:31 AM

sallysally

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Any advice? He has called me in this afternoon, i'm sure to discuss my collar. Master is intransigent on this. What should i do/ say/ beg? i've never been out of work before.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:04:03 AM

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Be respectful, say that you understand and did not mean to create a disturbance.

When you can, talk to your husband about it. He can either do what will allow you to keep your job, or do what will allow you to lose your job. It depends on where he puts his priorities.

Either way, you trust him and obey him and if you are out of a job I'm sure he considered that a possible consequence of his new standards and will have things taken care of.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:08:21 AM

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I really have a hard time when things like this happen that show (IMHO) insensitivity to people in the vanilla world---He insists, she gets fired---its her resume that gets trashed not His--if He has thought about it then He should have told her to quit--then it wouldn't have become an issue---hmmm where is Mercnbeth--they may have a good response we well---

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:11:22 AM

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Ive mentioned this to Master and He agrees No Good Master would ever put their slaves job in the line of fire. Id remove the collar while at work only. Gosh Im so glad He is not mine........

shy

Sorry but this is just so off the wall, the man is a control freak........

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:16:09 AM

sallysally

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Wow, you guys don't like my Master. i adore him!!!! But what do i do when i go see my Boss in a few minutes? i can't say i'll take it off because that is clearly not going to happen.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:25:37 AM

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Wow, you guys don't like my Master. i adore him!!!! But what do i do when i go see my Boss in a few minutes? i can't say i'll take it off because that is clearly not going to happen.

It isn't that we dont' like him. We don't know him. It's that we're seeing a marked insensitivity to anything in your life that isn't your power dynamic. He seems to be putting your physical body at risk, your job at risk, and your family at risk. That isn't a dynamic that sits well with me, personally.

As to meeting your boss, I would ask if it speisifcally violates any elements of the dress code at your place of work. If it doesn't state that it's something you prefer to wear. If it does, well, you have a choice of removing it and keeping your job or risking termination over violating your company's rules.

there really isn't anything other than that.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:32:27 AM

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Whether others like your Master is irrelevant.

I manage a large staff. If you're being asked to remove an article of clothing or decoration, there has to be a bona fide employee dress code policy that allows for this. Just as with your Master, RESPECTFULLY inquire as to how your dress is not in compliance with this code. You can even inquire as to how the collar violates that code...does it interfere with customer relations, for example. (It has to be a dress code that's defendable in court. Don't go that far in your discussions...that's just a FYI.)

If it is, then ask if it's possible to simply cover it with an article of clothing.....a ribbon...something that covers or disguises the collar.

If you've no way out...it's back to discussions with your Master.

A respectful discussion by an employee is not a bad thing...and most employers are willing to explain their positions.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:33:51 AM

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Bruce Springsteen? Did anyone else think that?

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:43:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sallysally

Wow, you guys don't like my Master. i adore him!!!! But what do i do when i go see my Boss in a few minutes? i can't say i'll take it off because that is clearly not going to happen.

Then you clearly have an easy choice to make.

I don't know what sort of job you have or what sort of boss you have. It's highly unlikely they will come out directly and tell you that you have to take it off. They might want to know why, they might explain why it's inappropriate or questionable. Your best bet is just be respectful, say you had no intention to cause any disturbance.

Then later when you have time you can discuss. I find it disturbing you and he did not already discuss this possible course of actions as it seemed very likely to me.

You obviously place your masters orders above everything, so if it comes down to it, obviously the choice is to leave your job.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 10:55:44 AM

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I would ask your master to pick out a different collar to where at work,
one that would not stand out in the vanilla world. A lot of girls and women
are wearing choker collars, one of a nice sliver or gold design would pass at work.
Then when you get home you could change into the one of your masters choice.
If your master is unwilling to make this compromise to save your job and your
sense of accomplishment(you say you have never not had a job) I would take a
serious look at the relationship. If he is unwilling to compromise over something
so important to you, you may want to re-evaluate if this person is the right master for you.

Not only will being fired be an offset on your resume' I wonder if there may be some
hidden agenda on your master's part to have you loose your job and be totally dependent
on him, hence him having more control over your life.
Think about it, losing your job can hinder you in many ways, especially if you were to break up, you would be possibly left with no way out to support yourself and go on with
your life without any security under your feet, falling flat on your face.
It's not easy trying to find a new place to live when you are not employed.

Think about the consequences, talk to your master, if he does not see or does not want to look at what it may mean for your future, I would reconsider if this man was the right one
for me.

Good Luck!

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 11:42:58 AM

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Hey, no worries at all, i've seen the Boss and everything is hunky dory. What a relief!!! He was fine with everything, said it was my right to wear anything i liked provided it was not offensive and he said i dressed so neat and smart and was always so polite and well behaved that no one in their right mind could complain about me being collared. He wanted to know more about it which was embarassing but i told him some of the stuff. He advised me to ask Master if i could wear the company scarf when in meetings with senior people so as to avoid the risk of confrontation and cover up the collar during the meeting. But he said i had every right to wear it in the office and he had spoken to some of the others who he expected were hassling me.

What a dear!! i've never really spoken to him alone before. If i was not so in love with Master i think i would fall for Him!!!!

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 11:49:57 AM

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quote:

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Hey, no worries at all, i've seen the Boss and everything is hunky dory. What a relief!!!

What a dear!! i've never really spoken to him alone before. If i was not so in love with Master i think i would fall for Him!!!!

I find that the fear of a thing is almost always worse than the actual thing. Fear of the unknown is sometimes very crippling.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 11:55:11 AM

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Now maybe you will be willing to TALK about these possible scenarios and what to do rather than having to freak and ask a board of strangers for advice?

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:02:08 PM

sallysally

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Hey, don't you want me on here?

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:07:15 PM

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I thought this but never said it. I think your master is a fool.

Im not the only one with these thoughts but im telling you direct and without any tact.
Asking us means you dont want to lose your job. It will affect your relationship greatly by having one less income. What if he wants you to work an a brothel to make up the money etc.

More thought needs to be put into your relationship.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:13:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sallysally
Hey, don't you want me on here?

I want you secure and stable.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:19:54 PM

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Please tell me how all of this turns out. I love daytime soaps and this is a good one.

Does she take off the collar and dis her Master?
Does she wear the collar and lose her job?
Does she contact the Human Resource department and say she is being harrassed?

And so, are the days of our lives.

Why don't you just start wearing turtlenecks and keep everyone happy? Just my .02

I went back and saw that you said everything is "hunky Dory"
Why can't I find that word in the Dictionary? Does it mean your boss showed you his hunk? Now you can get him for sexual harrassment too!

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:27:41 PM

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Hey, i am secure and stable, i just get worried about new things but i know He is right and knows what He is doing and we have a great relationship but it is clearly on the basis that He makes the decisions, i say what worries me whenever He asks me and i do the running around and make life as physically comfortable for Him as i can. We are very much in love but the terms are His and i need to know that and i accept that. That doesn't mean i don't worry, everyone would worry with such a lot of change going on. He was real good to me at the weekend, He forced me to tell my parents when we went to stay and He stayed up real late talking to them about it, long after He had sent me to bed. He knew keeping my lifestyle secret was agony to me, particularly with my parents, but also with my friends and work colleagues, so He has forced it all out in the open. My parents were a lot nicer to me on Sunday morning after He had spoken to them than on Saturday evening. He made me keep the collar on all weekend so that they would accept me as i am and not keep hoping to "resuce me".

i hate it that you can't see any good in Him. He is my life.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:32:27 PM

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quote:

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Hey, i am secure and stable

Actions show more. I think this is the FOURTH post you've had in about a week asking for advice on how to deal with life issues- REAL life issues from total strangers, ALL issues that could have been easily done with some talking.

How would YOU feel if someone you knew called you on the phone frantic for advice in four times in a week about their relationship they've been in for years? Would you call them stable and secure?

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i hate it that you can't see any good in Him. He is my life.

You and your husband both really like high drama. You will wear eachother out.

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RE: Got to see the Boss - 12/19/2005 12:36:21 PM

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He forced me to tell my parents -snip-. He knew keeping my lifestyle secret was agony to me, particularly with my parents, but also with my friends and work colleagues, so He has forced it all out in the open.

Okay, I have to ask....is this for real? I can see how some people would be agony.

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