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Poly Relations Problems - 8/6/2004 11:26:39 AM

DomCpl4realslave

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Having been in the scene r/t l/s for 20 years now, on the web for 6, it seems to Us that submen, being the dogs they are, are far more real in their expections and follow thru when invited here.
subfems, on the other hand, make themselves out to be something they probably are not, and usually don't follow thru on metting or visiting.

Prior to using websites, I(DOM)found better luck just hanging out somewhere in public and making conversation and adding some expressions like, "yeah. I like spanking ass." and smiling devilishly, ya know? keeping it a smile anyways....
then the convwersation went on that way or didn't. But had better luck than in chat rooms.

My wife/sub/slave/slut agrees that when females contact Her, it is the same thing I deal with.

Our question is why do you think that is true? Is it lonely people turned away in bars or dating services? Is it just players, changing nicks, or on line for vanilla social reasons(i.e. to meet someone)? We ask because profiles start with: I am not looking. just here to make friends Not into pain....etc...Those profiles are easy to spot.
Again, Our question is why and how do Y/you figure who is real? Telltale signs, etc.?

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RE: Poly Relations Problems - 8/7/2004 8:16:18 AM

NightDaughter

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I don't know about some people, but I know that I'm real, or as real as I can well be. I've been into bdsm for all of my adult life.

I have found that a good many males who call themselves doms, are nothing of the sort once you start talking with them, or at least from my prespective that is the case. I've even found that to be the case of some couples, then again from my prespective many of them are just kinky in their thinking.

I think that it takes time to find someone who will click with you, and might well be double length in time when it comes to finding a third partner. Then again depending on what your looking for, it might take no time at all.

luck to you both.

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RE: Poly Relations Problems - 9/3/2004 11:59:12 PM

lanette

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I have to agree with Night Daughter...

Although, i'll be the bad guy and say i don't particularly agree with Men being submissve. Or rather, that they should be... But i'm old fashioned that way

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RE: Poly Relations Problems - 9/8/2004 8:11:56 AM

MistressDREAD

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actually
We all are here looking for sumthing
even if it is simply to chat online.
The differances in men and woman
are the same even in a vanilla world
Men get off by the physical
Woman get off by the emotional

hence Men tend to need the real life quicker for satisfation then a Woman
How does your opinions fall into Poly Relation Problems?

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RE: Poly Relations Problems - 9/10/2004 4:58:35 PM

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We've had the same experience. Males seem much more real, but we don't have any answer or magic 'tell' from anyones ad. We just keep plowing through the posts. This site is great, but we've never hooked up with anyone from here. We've sent many, many, emails but never get to the meeting stage.
From a different site we've experienced a new tactic and wonder if you've run across this. The single males represent themselves as a couple. But when we meet, she got a sudden illness and it's only him. And of course she's too ill to allow us to call. So now, we've added talking directly to BOTH parties as part of our pre-meeting check list.

Loved your approach to casual meeting. Reminds me of an old college friend who would walk up to every woman in a bar and ask her directly "Would you like to fuck?". Sure he got slapped plenty of times but he also got plenty of positive responses.

One source of new playmates has been much more successful. We've been going to Swinger's Clubs. We don't sexually swap, but by playing a little scene in their setting we get a lot of curious couples watching, and quite a few have played with us. We call it, turning them to the "Dark Side". We even went to their convention in Vegas, and it was a wild time. beth even got a prize for her 'slave' costume. Little did they know it was her standard evening wear at our house.

Have Fun!

Merc & beth

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