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Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 2:03:14 PM   
WhiplashSmile2


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Status: offline 		Another thread reminded me about how up tight people can get about the rights or wrongs of their choices or behaviors in a D/s relationship.

Some people take some things a little too serious at times and well don't understand how it's fun to have fun with D/s itself in a D/s relationship.

Such as a submissive playfully acting bratty and their Dom partner, steps in with a little play punishment.   God, forbid that this is supporting Disobedient or unwanted behavior though.  Actually it's supporting being able to lighten up and have some fun a little.

At times, it's fun to have a little fun with D/s itself.  No real or true harm done to the relationship dynamics one bit.   Actually if anything, it makes it a little more enjoyable at times.

So what if a submissive partner turns to their Dom and makes a remark such as "You should be spanked"?  lol...  Oh yeah, I'd like to see you try and see how far you get (the Dom egging the submissive on a little, for the sake of engaging in some playful play).

Some people try to make D/s some rigid cold thing.   Has to be some hard ass, hard line standard of strict behaviors that can never be broken, even for the sake of having fun.

My frame of mind is such, lighten up a little here folks.  Try to have some fun, don't take yourself so seriously at times.

Everybody should know the difference between playing around, and when things are serious in your relationship.  Why not have a little fun with D/s in a D/s relationship.  So what if it seems or feels like you are kind of making a mockery out D/s at the time.  It's just another form of role playing and having fun.  

I think some people have this notion that they should not have a sense of humor at all when it comes to all things D/s.   Some people seem to get uptight or offended at the drop of dime over nothing all that serious.   Playing around like this by no means threatens the D/s relationship itself, and if anything it can enhance it for many people.

God forbid that a submissive should have a smart ass sense of humor, or to lighten up and simply be themselves at times.  This is sort of the message that comes across at times.  God forbid as well if you are a Dominant that you tolerate such behaviors too.   Again, this is the sort of message that comes across at times.

Back to my thoughts on people taking themselves and their orientations way too seriously, to have any fun.  It's ok, it won't ruin or distroy your D/s relationship.  If you feel or think it will, well perhaps you have some security or insecurity issues about being a well rounded human being in a D/s or BDSM relationship.
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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 2:07:58 PM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		I need humour in a relation..as I do in normal life.
Don't like cold funeral like situations  in general.
Some fun..even while having sex is ok....doesn't make one less D or less s.

MAking fun of everything sucks also btw.

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 2:16:43 PM   
Cuffkinks


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Status: offline 		    As the saying goes...There's a time and a place for everything.
My little girl can be playful at times and I find that rather charming. But she also knows when to reel it in and be serious. She is no brat by any means, but she can play one on TV. LOL! We have talked about some "resistance" play, but a real brat she is not. I wouldn't have it.
  There are those that take D/s very seriously. And if that works for them, fine. There are times when I count Myself in that group. But to Me the bottom line is to have fun with it. Fun comes in different forms for different people. There is no one way to do things. If light-hearted D/s play works for you, great.
If hard-lined D/s works for you, that's great too. To each their own.

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 2:24:04 PM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		Everyone's going to have different definitions for "fun".  For some, being all serious and stern all the time trip their triggers.  For me, no way.  I'm ornery as hell, Daddy is too.  We have great fun times together, being silly and mischevious and giggling like kids into the wee hours.  But, we know when it's time to be serious and stern.  There must be balance in the force. 

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 2:26:24 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Without some sense of humour or laughter, where is the point of ANYTHING?

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 3:45:15 PM   
natasha66


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Status: offline 		If it's not fun, what's the bloody point?  But i do agree, there is a time and place for everything. 

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:25:24 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		Agreed there is a time and place for anything, but I could never be in a relationship where there wasn't some humor and fun.   Life is too short to be so tight you squeak when you walk. 

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:29:22 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		I am one of those nuts that tend to crack themselves up with their own jokes. I like to laugh, and if Sir did not like that he probably be long gone. Also talk to myself, or as he says ramble to myself, at times. He finds that funny too, at times. Yes, i am very good at being quiet, when need be.

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:37:51 PM   
kallisto


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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

Also talk to myself, or as he says ramble to myself, at times.



Me too.     I just know when I start answering my "ramblings", it's time for me to be quiet. 

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:51:22 PM   
missturbation


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Some people take some things a little too serious at times and well don't understand how it's fun to have fun with D/s itself in a D/s relationship.

I'm just wondering how you know who is taking things to seriously and who is having fun?
 
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I think some people have this notion that they should not have a sense of humor at all when it comes to all things D/s.   Some people seem to get uptight or offended at the drop of dime over nothing all that serious. 

Still wondering why this would equate to someone not knowing how to have fun. I really am curious what makes you come to this theory / conclusion.
 
 




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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:53:26 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		my Sir thinks we are daft because we are always giggling , laughing, hugging and having a great time. Even when we are quiet, we are looking at each other, checking out what the other is doing, or playing footsies.   I can be a real smartarse - yes, its true, i am not perfect!!   and my Sir does enjoy some of this - and i also recognise "the look" to know when to tone it down.

sorry - couldn't be with someone who treated my life as humorless.

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:58:46 PM   
oceanwynds


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ORIGINAL: kallisto

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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

Also talk to myself, or as he says ramble to myself, at times.



Me too.     I just know when I start answering my "ramblings", it's time for me to be quiet. 


Oh yes!! Same here. Almost time, in my mind, to gag myself:)

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 4:59:59 PM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		A Dom collars a new submissive, and gives her a safe word.  Unfortunately her safe word is 'may we please go to the Dungeon, Sir'?
 
One evening, the submissive is especially 'needy' so she says her Dom 'may we please go to the Dungeon Sir?'
 
In disgust at the uptight chick he's collared, he releases her.
 
Old joke, LOL.
 
If sex isn't FUN why would I do it? All the kinks and fetishes that appeal to me also make me all hot and bothered.  My fantasy life is so much richer than it has ever been.
 
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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 8:03:07 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I actually agree with Miss- it's usually the subs who can't tell the difference between "smart and witty" and "annoying brat."  You can be one without the other.

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RE: Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. - 11/12/2008 10:32:48 PM   
cutuppaperdoll


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