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poppylolly -> is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 10:44:57 AM)
i know this is an odd question. i have been talking to this guy from GA for about a month and half. he never calls me from his house...and most of the time when i call him i get his voice mail. should i question someone who only calls me from the road?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 10:46:51 AM)
Aren't you doing that already? Yes he's probably lying to you.

MrBiguun51 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 11:17:26 AM)
yep quite possible he is lying

OscarHargraves -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 11:54:54 AM)
Hi lady! And welcome to the CM boards. What does your head tell you? Now what does your heart say? If he IS lying to you is that someone you really want to get involved with? If he even makes you THINK he could be lying, is that the way you want to start a relationship? Doesn't make sense to me. Listen, I'm a married man and my wife doesn't play here. She knows about it and has some vague idea of what I do but I don't slap her in the face with it because it's something she does not like. She has told me outright that if I want some of 'those things' that I need to find someone else to get them from. I've done that but I didn't lie to my Sub. She knew UPFRONT that I'm married, I didn't intend to leave, and this was for play and fun only. That's what she wanted too. We have discussed my situation (and hers since her 'significant other' is in prison for several years) and we both agreed on what we're doing. I wouldn't have it any other way. If he's lying to you and he's married the only thing he wants is a quickie with a pretty young lady like you. He's not interested in a relationship or even whether or not he hurts your feelings. He'll get what he wants, whether it's kinky sex or something worse, and then disappear to look for another challenge. If he's not lying to you then there may be a very good reason why he only calls from the road. He might be living with his aging mother and taking care of her so he's afraid that might scare you off. He might be living in conditions that don't 'allow' him to have a home phone. The possibilites are endless, but you need to know the truth. Confront him with your fears. Listen to what he says AND HOW HE SAYS IT. If you still think he's lying (no matter how smoothly) dump him like a truck and move on. If he has a good valid excuse then work with him on it and see if you can verify it. Whatever you do, please be careful and think with your head, not your heart.

girl4you2 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 12:20:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poppylolly i know this is an odd question. i have been talking to this guy from GA for about a month and half. he never calls me from his house...and most of the time when i call him i get his voice mail. should i question someone who only calls me from the road? you've already gotten some very good advice. i'd question next the guy; ask him why he only calls you from the road, ask him to validate his marital status (or lack thereof) to you, and call him on what's going on. let him know your concerns and feelings about his lack of availability.

MasterRobert1 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 1:07:18 PM)
Yeah, I'd say his behavior raises some definite red flags. I'd be extremely cautious from this point onward.

windchymes -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 1:16:55 PM)
I'd be suspicious, yes, but he's not a condemned man....yet. (Yes, most likely on that road, but not quite yet!) Another possibility is that he just uses his cell phone because it's a LOT cheaper than calling long distance from the house phone, unless he has some special long distance package. I use my cell for almost all my personal business, and I make a lot of personal calls when I'm on the highway just to pass some of the time. In fact, I'm seeing so little reason to even have a land line these days that I'm thinking of having it disconnected. Give him the benefit of the doubt for now, but PLEASE keep your heart in your chest and off your sleeve until you know for sure. chymes

Kinkypupper -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 1:50:11 PM)
Unfortunately I think you have answered your own question.

DelRey -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 1:58:56 PM)
Ummmmm lets see why woulld a guy only call from the road...... Uuuuummmmm...... (tapping finger on desk, squinting deep in thought) forgets cell phone every day of his life unless he is on the road ?.... na..... church forbids talking during study (7days a week) ?.... na..... his mother has phone tied up trying to win Backstreet boyz tickets ?.... possible.... Hmmmm.... I'm stumped....... del Rey

amayos -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 9:17:17 PM)
If you have reason enough to suspect his credibility in the first place, then I'd say there is a very good chance something may be amiss. It's quite possible he is lying to you, in my opinion.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 9:37:58 PM)
Maybe he calls from the road because his job picks up the bill since they require him to travel alot. Maybe it's the most convenient time for him. Maybe because his the Dominant and he decides when he will talk to you and you, as the "submissive" is expected to go along with it. Maybe he doesn't think you're worth the pocket change that it'll cost him on his home phone to talk to you. Reguardless, why are you on a message board asking a bunch of people that don't know you from a bum on the street? You should be talking to the man you're involved with. Not us. You have also left out ALOT of information. How often is this man on the road? How long have you been haviing phone conversations with him? What does he do for a living? At least people haven't hitched up the "He's Married" band wagon and started offering rides. (although it's been hinted at)

windy135 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 9:42:02 PM)
I have had a similar thing happen to me only called when at work. He ended up being a real jerk and I truely and glad I went with my gut. Weird this happened to me about a week ago. Feel free to email me if you want to share storie and bash about stupid boys.... good luck

KnightofMists -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/20/2005 9:59:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poppylolly i know this is an odd question. i have been talking to this guy from GA for about a month and half. he never calls me from his house...and most of the time when i call him i get his voice mail. should i question someone who only calls me from the road? well you never really said anything that he has stated to you... so who knows if he is lying or not.. this of course in response to your subject line. secondly, so he only calls you on the road... should you question it... well guess that depends on what kind of relationship you want. Seems to me the fact that you seeking answer on here.. you already know your answer and are looking for validation here on the forum. Trust your instincts! and make your own decision!

MHOO314 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 7:03:06 AM)
what would you think if it was a vanilla relationship? the rules are no different--

MissHarlet -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 7:32:18 AM)
I would question him about what is bothering you. If he doesn't answer you or refuses to, I would seriously question myself about if I would want a Dominant that I can't ask quesions of, and get answers from about ANYTHING that is bothering me. For me this would definately be a red flag... not only about him but about why I felt any hesitation to ask him these questions.

candystripper -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 9:27:13 AM)
As i have said elsewhere, my girlfriends and i have never asked "is he cheating?" that the answer was not "yes". You have two options: confront him with your fears, and listen to see if bulls**t issues; or just dump him now. In short, now or later. candystripper

VikingHouse -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 12:07:14 PM)
Having to ask the question in the first place should give you some prior warning about the eventual outcome of a relationship that lacks communication.

Webmaster60 -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 12:15:49 PM)
quote: i know this is an odd question. i have been talking to this guy from GA for about a month and half. he never calls me from his house...and most of the time when i call him i get his voice mail. should i question someone who only calls me from the road? Why ask us? Why not ask him? "Hey? You're single.. Whats your HOME number? If EITHER you don't want me to have it, OR you can't give it to me.. then SEE YA ASSHOLE.."

xxblushesxx -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 2:53:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Maybe because his the Dominant and he decides when he will talk to you and you, as the "submissive" is expected to go along with it. Oh boy! When I first came here, I got a v good piece of advice (from one of the nicest doms I know) He told me that if someone doesn't want you to know their name and the numbers you can reach them, (any time day or night) then they are probably married or in a relationship. Now, this is assuming that you have been talking for a while, and trust one another. But, if I were to get involved with someone, I would definitely have to know I could trust him...and that he trusted me with his 'private' information. And I really don't think the v beginning of a new friendship and/or romantic relationship is the time for a man to get all 'domly' and even dictate when we can and cannot communicate...but then again....I've always liked them sweet...with an edge... Have a great day! Christina Oh, by the way, I agree with many of the above...you already know the answer to your question. The new q now is....what are you gonna DO about it?

ehlovindom -> RE: is he lying to me? (12/21/2005 7:38:31 PM)
quote: should i question someone who only calls me from the road? If you need to ask, you already know the answer.

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