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RE: AfterCare - 11/14/2008 8:52:04 PM

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I don't need much aftercare unless I really fly high in which case I'm too zoned to function independently. Blanket, water, food and time to stay zoned or even little things done periodically to keep me flying like pulling my hair hard are the best.

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RE: AfterCare - 11/14/2008 9:03:18 PM

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Usually, i just need a lot of water and to sit quietly until my head comes back to my body and the intense tingling subsides. A warm blanket is helpful, too. Master likes me to sit by Him so that He can stroke my hair, which is very comforting.

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RE: AfterCare - 11/14/2008 9:04:31 PM

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I need to be held, talked to, kissed, given liquids, until i can say a complete sentence. Now mind you, I can't always retrieve all the words I need yet, but I am fairly functional.

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RE: AfterCare - 11/15/2008 2:49:33 AM

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I've tended not to get aftercare, and so will just curl up on my own for a while. This works well in clubs too.

When I worked, I'd come home, eat something (usually dairy) as food grounds me, and then go to sleep.

That said, I like aftercare, saying I need it isn't accurate, because I do function without it, but I function much better with it. Again there's the curling up somewhere warm, but, having someone there with me, talking to me (about whatever it is that I'm babbling on about, I tend to talk like a drunk person ie about things I wouldn't talk about whilst sober), saying nice things like how happy they are; I tend to worry about that, so do need the reassurance that they are okay, happy, and pleased, the odd touch of physical affection (too much spooks me, I've had bad experiences).

I tend to crash if I don't properly take care of myself, which can be a result of not having time and space to, or just not knowing what to do at a given time. Not having what I need also makes it worse. The biggest "drop" I ever experienced was having to go home away from people I care about after a lovely weekend. It was the leaving that messed up my head.

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RE: AfterCare - 11/15/2008 5:44:24 AM

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Good morning!
Since we see each other often during the week, Daddy just cuddles afterwards, making sure his house is always very warm or very cold-depending on the season. Under the blankies lots! Giving me drinks, enough time to get ready to drive home, snacks if he thinks I am hungry. Most times during the week it is only for an hour so I can suck it up as well. For longer play, hours longer, i always get plenty of nap time and dinner. Rub downs too. We don't play in public ever. I don't go into sub space and stay there for a long time, I tend to drift in and out. Having 3 kids and being pagan I learned a long time ago to deal with pain-to rise above it like surfing. So alot of times after, I can manage without aftercare but I think alot of it is for Daddy, not me. But still it is nice to see that he cares so much. Good luck!
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RE: AfterCare - 11/15/2008 7:07:03 AM

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With my former owner there wasn't much in the way of aftercare. I provided my own, and got myself back into shape for him. I did this by curling up at his feet and massaging them immediately after something rough, or by going to a friend's house where she would snuggle me up and take care of me for the night, or by lying low at home, resting, watching movies, or just otherwise taking it easy.

With the man I'm currently seeing, we haven't really done anything that would need after care, but he does snuggle me up a lot and stroke my face and hair regardless. Admittedly, this is a new experience for me, and I like it! But it is his nature to do this, whether we have "played" or not. He likes skin to skin contact, and he'll get no complaints from me over that!

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RE: AfterCare - 11/15/2008 10:45:38 AM

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Master T and i get cuddled up together...we sometimes do something together...he always asks what i want or need. I just need him.

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