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ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

We designate certain words to be rude, crude, vulgar, mean, etc.  And then we use them and get offended by them.  BRILLIANT!

I say we just get over it and move on.  Letters and other symbols don't hurt anything.  If someone were to use them as part of an attack of some kind, sure, that's offensive.  But not because of the letters/numbers/symbols they use - because of the attack itself.

If you don't like my fuckin' language, get the fuck out of my face.  :p

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ORIGINAL: LadyLou


There is a part of me that thinks it is somewhat prudish when people take such dislike to general, non specific cussing; they are, after all, only words. But, I also do not like to hear excessive *pointless* cussing as well. When I hear people talk in excessive expletives for no good reason, I can't help but come to the conclusion that the said person has a problem and articulating their thoughts, and is rather petulant. That said, I swear too f'ing much. Lol.



But, to swear in text, for me at least, really would take effort to do so, even when writing in a stream-of-consciousness type way. When one writes, there is extra time and thought going into what is being written. So, if there is excessive cussing, then that person is either completely clueless as to the impression they are making, or they are going out of their way to 'posture'. I would find neither particularly impressive. I also feel swearing excessively knocks the poignancy (and point) out of cussing. A solitary, and well placed expletive is far more satisfying and effective than a continuous barrage of cuss words.



I personal would take offence at his “modesty is not for dominant women like yourself” assertion. I would be tempted throw a similarly offensive-manipulative assertion back at him along the lines of 'swearing like a petulant Neanderthal is not for graceful, well tempered, intelligent sub males, with self control.... like yourself', but it's probably not worth it. Just consider it part of the vetting process, and put it down to a incompatible temperaments. Regardless of sub/Dom orientation, if one can't be courteous enough uphold a simple request like toning down the cussing a bit, the man just lacks basic manners.

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

I choose words I think best convey my meaning succintly.  There really is no synonymn for 'clusterf**k'

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

and what if , you know people deal with shock in different ways, so what if as a way of dealing with his shock he slapped you back, you ll understand he did not mean to do it, it just happened, like i say a reflex action, like could it become a slapping game then, You slap me, i slap you, You slap me , i slap you, a bit like a pantomine, would You regard that as ok, has this ever happened to You, and how would You react if it did
kevin

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Let me preface this with the statement that I have not read anything beyond this first page, this is a thread I have avoided since it was fresh and only now do I find myself unable to resist.

First off, about the language:

Words are words, there are no bad or dirty words just like there are no magic words.  Those words that are commonly accepted as bad words are just that: a commonly accepted standard.  Did we make this standard?  No.  The more important question would be 'Did we create this sensitivity to certain words in ourselves?'.  That answer would be 'No.' as well.  Our parents, or our parents' parents' parents did.  We just continue this misnomer of language with each generation we tell 'Good boys and girls don't say things like that.'.  It creates a false sense of propriety and offers a moral highground to those who honestly may have no true claim to it.  I'd worry less about the guy who regularly uses 'fuck' and 'shit' than the guy who spouts 80's slang such as 'Radical Dude!!!' or 'Tubular'.

Now to the true meat of the question, is asking someone to clean up their language an unreasonable request?

No, absolutely not.  As the dominant it is your prerogative to set your own standard for how those approaching you as a sub/slave/bottom are going to present themselves.  As a matter of fact, it's a choice all individuals should make and make clear to others.  If you don't like salty language, make it clear that you will not accept it from those who you choose to allow in your presence.  I personally don't care for derogatorily used racial slang (or hate speech) and when it comes up I make it clear that I do not care to spend my time around those who choose to use such with any frequency, be they dominant or submissive/boss or coworker/friend or fuckbuddy.

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

I choose words I think best convey my meaning succintly.  There really is no synonymn for 'clusterf**k'

Yes, that word is bureaucracy.

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ORIGINAL: shymetalsub


I don't think it's a big deal. I never said I would meet a girl at a nice restraunt and curse eight million times per minute, but I'm not going to limit my language to be rated PG, especially when I get close to someone. I'm not an old fashioned guy, I want to be a freaking heavy metal musician for freak's sake lmfao, I can be a little foul mouthed and I like women who are the same way, *though it's not a huge deal for me*

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Let me preface this with the statement that I have not read anything beyond this first page, this is a thread I have avoided since it was fresh and only now do I find myself unable to resist.

First off, about the language:

Words are words, there are no bad or dirty words just like there are no magic words.  Those words that are commonly accepted as bad words are just that: a commonly accepted standard.  Did we make this standard?  No.  The more important question would be 'Did we create this sensitivity to certain words in ourselves?'.  That answer would be 'No.' as well.  Our parents, or our parents' parents' parents did.  We just continue this misnomer of language with each generation we tell 'Good boys and girls don't say things like that.'.  It creates a false sense of propriety and offers a moral highground to those who honestly may have no true claim to it.  I'd worry less about the guy who regularly uses 'fuck' and 'shit' than the guy who spouts 80's slang such as 'Radical Dude!!!' or 'Tubular'.

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ORIGINAL: MsFlutter

Despite his above-average command of the English language, his emails were peppered with unnecessarily salty language - his favorite being '8sshole'.  I diplomatically suggested that emails were always easier to read when they contained something other than 4 letter words. His response follows below:

....Unfortunately You will see those words in the mails i send You. Hell, they're coming from me, and what a big one i am lol - a, stubborn as one as well. Heck, modesty is not for Dominant Woman like Yourself ....
 
Have basic courtesies died an ugly death ?

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ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus
...You'll outgrow the need for your cursing. Class comes with age and experience.What you hold so dear now will mean nothing in 20 years...