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MissEnchanted -> RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? (11/19/2008 8:31:12 AM)
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Ok...I came on this morning and knew I should have read the end of the thread to see where it was headed, and I started back at the beginning instead. My first responses are more serious, and then you all started having fun at the end. More of a party going on now, and that's what I like to see and partake in.
Kris,
yes, I agree with you. that 'Master' label can be either female or male, so I was really talking about threads that have a male master as lead and it is clear in the OPs first post that they are looking for another Male Master's opinion. And, in that thread it might be clearly requested as 'male masters only' Same for subbie threads asking specifically for other subs opinions.
CDN Explorer,
This all started because Fl Mistresse asked on another thread in the headline 'Mistress to Mistress'. That request was clear to me that Mistresses were asked, not subs.
Any other thread in 'Ask a Mistress' that is not clear on who they want to respond becomes more open, imo.
stella,
It gets confusing when there are really long posts including pasted parts of other's comments and can turn into very long replies. Becomes a weeding chore. [:D]
Kyttyn,
That's my point. If someone is veyr specific about who they are asking, then it can derail the thread.
HagiaSophia, I agree with this part of what you said "male subs are not less than, they are different. And necessary. We should not dismiss their contributions. "
BoiJen,
Here, I am agreeing...lol. you wrote:
'Edited to add: If the thread says specifically "...to a Mistress" no I don't think s-types of any kind should be responding unless the message is dictated to them from the Mistress that they serve. While I may read those types of threads, I often don't respond to those...with the major exception being "Mistress...how do I find the perfect Mistress?" Mainly because I don't think Female Dominants are the only ones that will give the quality of advice needed or wanted in those types of threads, as the already involved s-type will also be able to provide great advice based on successfully completing that phase of establishing a relationship with a Mistress. Hope that makes sense.'
Perfect sense to me. [8D]
And, to add: I said before, I think it is a good idea to be respectful when a Domme requests another Mistress's response. We are all busy people, leading busy lives, and I cannot come onto cm as much as I'd like to play on the threads. I, for one am super-super busy and don't have time to read all the way thru thread derailments. Not a big deal, just imo.
sambaslilgirl from above: .....and my response:
yes, and the OP sets the thread up and looks for specific things, sometimes from specific people only. Good manners are never out of style.
Otter: yes, and in that other thread FL Misresse asked specifically, from a M to a M, and I love to flirt with all of you! [;)]
Peon, Please re read what I said above. I never said...male subs should not post on all the A a M threads hon. Only when it is specific asking of another Mistress request from a domme. Not every thread is a debate!
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thishereboi, If somene is looking for a plumber, they don't need an electrican to reply with their opinion, see?
Fl Mistress does appear to be new to the boards, so when she saw "Ask a Mistress' as the forum title, she would very understandably be confused and want to ask about it. Since she requested a Mistress response and didn't say 'sub' or all, it's clear to me why she would get confused and she didn't deserve so much snark as a newbie poster.
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And Peon, you don't bleed and get cramps, so you couldn't actually experience that reality, because your reality would be from the 'other side's perspective.' That was funny, what you said, tho! : )
RedMagic, haven't seen you in a while, good to see you!
verycurios07, right on baby!
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Fl Mistresse,
If I wasn't invited to the party, I would read about it, and wish I'd been there! (chuckle)
and a fave quote of mine "A good mind is a terrible thing to waste" or something like that.
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Divyacheri, I like your response! "So I feel that if a question is directed to female dominants. Why on earth would a man answer it? That to me does not make any sense. I would not go into Ask a Master and answer their questions. I think it is a matter of respect. " (wink)
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Peon, if a mom said she needed to talk to a mom about a problem she was having with her kid, would she need any other opinions at that moment? Would some kid feel disrespected because she needed to talk to another mom? 'No'...is the answer.
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Sea, if a domme asks in her headline to hear from 'another Mistress', like Fl Mistresse did. It was in writing, so we should take it literally!
If I see that an OP states 'from a plumber to a plumber', I am not going to respond, out of respect for the request and because I am not a plumber. see?
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What AAkasha said: 'To someone new to message boards, this might not all be evident. It might just look like she asked a specific question of specific people and suddenly random people started giving different POVs she didn't want...I don't care HOW much experience a sub has, he can't 100% state he knows what's going on if he's never been the woman in a relationship."
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Aswad said and I also give him jelly bean points for conciseness:
"P.S.: Elsewhere on the boards, some threads explicitly state the target audience in the OP, and most people respect that; maybe it can work here, too? "
Yes, I'd like to see that respected here!
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boijen wrote above:
'Edited to add: To me this is like being at a bar and hearing a conversation. If it's interesting one can politely join in. If it's made clear that one is not welcome...why be an ass about it?' yep!
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Darkchylde, thanks for the giggle! I felt some of the same..."practically beg for a loud obnoxious guy like myself to stick his foot in it. My only excuse for waiting is that I didn't feel I could be so nice before today. *winks* "
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beargonewild asked:
" If a person who identifies as a two-spirit person, where the general definition is a person who have the characteristics and thought process of both male and female, how would you react if such a person posted in the "Ask A Mistress" section? Do you see their traits giving validity to their opinions or would their posts be considered not valid due to the gender status? "
My answer: Sure! If they are a Mistress, they are a Mistress.
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Darkchylde, I just love your sense of humor! This got another giggle form me what you wrote above:
See, I can recognize diplomacy even if I seldom use it.
hahahaha
I read on a felt a big desire to punch DK in the head! Now I have a chickie boner.... [;)]
lady Pact,
Puuurfect: Expectations and resentment waiting to happen.
And now I am thinking of doughnuts and all the fun you could have with them. It gave me a couple of new ideas.
I love men, bois, girls, women, dykes, pervs, Dommes and Doms, subbies-male or female and cm.
I come here to destress and I sure do appreciate all of you right now.
Solly for the long post, didn't see the Mods step in and had already written all of this shit out. lol
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Back to the playground.....
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